Wouldn’t It Be Amazing If…
Everyone who joined a dating site was really ready to meet someone new? I received an email this morning from a member of our site who’d really fallen for a guy she’d met here. He tickled her, she tickled him, he joined as a VIP. They emailed and they did video cam chat and they talked on the phone. They exchanged photos and did all the things you’d normally do when you’re trying to figure out if a person is right for you. She was over the moon about him and said he told her he felt the same way.
They decided to meet for the first time in person over the weekend. She had her hair done, bought a new outfit to wear and went to the restaurant where he’d invited her to meet him. Imagine her surprise when he didn’t show up? Not only didn’t he show up, but he didn’t call to say he wasn’t coming. By the time she got back home and logged in to the website, he’d removed his profile completely. She was outraged and called him every name in the book in the email she sent.
Now I know what you’re all thinking and I think it too. I guessed that he lied about something and he couldn’t face her. Maybe he’s married - maybe he’s older (or younger) than he said he was - maybe he exchanged a photo that wasn’t his. It doesn’t matter because she’s really disappointed and he’s out in the cold.
Please take her story as a reminder that being honest up front is the only way to be really successful - in dating as in every other aspect of your life. Not everyone fibs - most people are just the same in real life as they were online through email and chat. As I told the lady who wrote today, don’t let one bad situation get you down - remember what Momma said about all those fish in the sea!
Great post. I agree that if people are out there online communicating with other human beings, there needs to be a baseline of integrity. Also this is a great WAKE up call for women. “she was outraged and called him every name in the book” - I know it sucks to deal with that kind of experience - AND - it is her choice to react that way, AND she somehow attracted that kind of man. I know this isnt poplar thinking - but that is what is required to an EMpowered woman in todays society. i like your blog - lets keep linking!
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