While one person’s Don Juan is another person’s Frankenstein, surely there must be some sort of standard that we can all agree on? Helen Gurley Brown, author of Sex and the Single Girl, reckons the definition is simple: “She is a woman who likes sex.”
Yet when I asked friends to define what they thought was sexy, I got such a bevy of mixed responses, you’d wonder how the heck a man’s magazine would ever get it right.
“It’s personality as much as appearance,” said one woman.
“It’s having a killer body and knowing how to carry it off well,” chirped said one of my male friends.
“It’s all in the attitude,” my husband says.
If those pages of the mens’ mags are to be believed, sexiness can be described by the four B’s: boobs, butts, bikinis and Brazilians.
The guys in the group say that’s not so at all. What’s sexy is a woman, regardless of looks, who feels sexy herself.
As for the women? Sex appeal runs the gamut of someone intelligent, someone who can make you smile, someone who thinks of you as human, (opposed to a sex object) and finally, I have one friend who said a man with good shoes was sexy because it meant he paid attention to detail. (She IS a bit of a list maker.)
When the the ex-Miss Universe was asked what she thought was sexy she said, “High-heeled shoes for women, casual jeans for men, and being natural, not too pushy and oozing confidence.”
I’m not sure about the high-heeled shoes but she’s absolutely right about being natural and confident!