The Magic of Tease

Does sex sometimes lose its excitement when sex becomes same old repetition? This is one of the biggest complaints amongst my friends; that sex isn’t exciting any more. Sure, most have been married more than 25 years to the same man but they all realize that they are as much to blame for the situation as their husband or partner.

There was one woman recently said that after so many years she’d lost the art of the tease. I asked her to explain what she meant by that and here’s how I interpreted what she had to say.

Back when we were young and madly in love I would spend time before every date coming up with different ways to turn him on. I would come up with jokes or sexy lingerie or costumes just to give him a jolt in the wedding tackle. It worked every time too. Sometimes it would only be that I said I wasn’t wearing panties or we’d undress and I’d be standing there with pasties over my nipples. I got pretty good at twirling the tassels.

Being young I had a great sense of my own body. I was on the slender side, fit and proud of the way I looked naked. Now that I’m well over 50 and gravity has dropped most bits from my chin on down I don’t feel that confident. My husband tells me that I’m just as desirable as I ever was but you know, I just don’t feel it inside. I wish I was tight everywhere instead of floppy. Who likes floppy tits? My self esteem isn’t rock bottom but it’s certainly headed there.

I was quite surprised at this because to me she’s really attractive, seems really confident and always has a smile and a kind word for everyone. I told her we needed to work together to come up with a way to get her inner tease back in working shape. We talked about it and we came up with a few things we should try. (I don’t think I ever got the art of tease fully working but I was keen to try.)

1. Morning reverse strip tease. Yeah, I know you’re thinking reverse isn’t quite as exciting but remember we’re talking about teasing and that doesn’t always result in instant sex. The idea is for the sexual tension to simmer all day. So after your shower, make sure that you catch his attention as you turn away from him and bend over to slowly pull up your panties. Then face him and slowly and carefully place your breasts in your bra. Get in a bit of eye contact and have the mindset that sends off the message, “I’m hot and you know you want me.”
2. Call him at work. Don’t say anything other than, “I forgot to tell you when I was watching you get dressed, you have the best ass on any man in town.” Then say I love you and hang up. The simmering sexual tension will rise to a slow boil.
3. Be silent. Guys always make the stereotypical comment that women talk too much so work on that premise. When you’re alone and if you have kids they’re in bed, tell him that you don’t want any words. Every communication must be with touch.

That’s all we came up with so far but I was waiting for her to suggest burlesque fans and costumes. Maybe next time.