Know how you feel when you’ve got a date with someone coming up? I do and most of the time the anticipation gives me a healthy fantasy life. Dating shouldn’t be just for the unmarried or uncommitted people, it should be for everyone. I’ve been dating my husband for a long time and I have no intention of stopping. Date night makes us both feel a closeness that we sometimes miss with the day to day problems and issues that life throws at us.
What’s the difference between a date and just going out? Heaps!! When you have a date you spend a bit more time with your appearance. Men take the time to shave so there’s no burning when kissing gets a bit intense. Women put on clothes they know will get some attention. If you’re in a relationship now, you’ve been there and if you aren’t, you are already doing all these things. The old saying really is true, when you look good, you feel good.
Dating keeps a relationship from going stale. Boredom is the cause of way too many wandering eyes. We all want excitement and passion in our lives and that’s what we had when we were first dating – so let’s not lose that!
When you’re on a date you talk to each other. You talk now, I know, but it’s usually in 90 second burst of “what’s for dinner?” or “did you take out the trash?” or “can you get the casserole dish from the top of the cabinet please?” Sitting across from each other at dinner while on your date you can focus on what brought you two together in the first place. One reminder though, don’t use date night to settle any conflict – it will ruin date night that night and in the future if one of you is waiting for the conflict shoe to drop.
Vary your date nights. Do something different or something wild and crazy. A movie one week, a rodeo the next, a burlesque show the next, bowling the next, ice skating or even a picnic. When you plan ahead you have a week to anticipate what’s going to happen. Imagine on the afternoon of date night and you send your date a text that says, “Do I need to wear underwear tonight?” Let the fantasies begin!