Take care of yourself
I spent some time in the chatroom at SexyAds.com this week and happened upon a conversation several women were having about wanting to find a man because life was too hard on their own. After reading the screen for about five minutes I couldn’t contain myself any longer and told them that they were doing it all wrong.
All of the women involved were in their mid 30s to mid 40s and all had jobs. None were on welfare or unable to work. I asked them to tell me specifically how a man could make life better for them. In unison they all said a man would bring more money to the family bank account.
If I were a man that would make me throw up. I told them what they were saying was that it didn’t matter what kind of a person he was, just as long as he had a wallet to share.
Women need to care for themselves. If they don’t earn enough at their jobs to buy all they need, then start an online business on Ebay or get a paper route or bake things and sell them at the local farmer’s market.
What’s interesting to me is when I see a woman who happily takes care of her own affairs, that woman is most always capable of finding a really wonderful partner. She finds him because she wants him, not because she needs him. I know we all like to feel needed but not in the desperate way these women were talking about.
If they find a man who’ll take care of them, the risk is that he will also control them too. It’s the old “I make the gold, therefore I make the rules” routine.
My advice was for them to take care of themselves first, even if it meant having fewer luxury items, because they’ll have a fantastic feeling of empowerment.
I agree with your point on taking care of themselves first especially on the part of starting something to generate another source of income if they are not earning enough. If they are looking for man for a ‘wrong’ reason to start with, they attract the kind of man as you pointed out, “I make the gold, therefore I make the rules.” However, if they are looking for a man because they want soulmates, someone to share their life, then they would attract those with similar mindset.
This is nice article about the feeling of women. So i am agree with the writer that you come first about yourself because money does not matter in life but health is more important in life. So i also advice them that take care yourself. Thanks for sharing your ideas.