Should you consider paying for sex?
There was an article in a Sydney newspaper a few weeks ago by writer Sam De Brito who openly admits that rather than lie to women he’s not interested in just to have sex, he visits prostitutes. This immediately caught my eye because I’ve read so many ads on our site from men who only want a quick shag and then take off. Every time I read one I think to myself - that’s not a man who wants a relationship. That’s barely a one night stand because he didn’t even offer a cup of coffee beforehand. In his article Sam writes:
Being single and in my 30s, I find it increasingly difficult to justify the lies and manipulation involved in having a sexual relationship with women who I’m not in love with.
In my opinion, if ALL he wants is a roll in the hay to release sexual tension, I find nothing at all wrong with it. I know there will be lots of people who’ll tell me I’m an idiot because all these sex workers are exploited women who were abused by their fathers or brothers and are drug addicts. Sorry, that’s not always the case. There ARE women who are sex workers because they can make more money doing that than they can anything else. For many their hours are their own and they don’t have to walk the streets in dangerous areas.
In Australia, brothels are legal and you’ll find one in most every town in the country. If a town is too small, they’ll have women who travel a route. There are some people who’ll get all riled up if a new brothel is being built but most of us just accept it as a fact of life. The world’s oldest profession is still going strong, but let’s get back to what Sam had to say.
The problem I, and I wager many other single men, face nowadays is if you go on more than a couple of dates with a woman, the majority want to know where the relationship is going. If you’re blunt enough to say nowhere except the bedroom, feelings get hurt.
Prostitution pares this transaction back to its base elements. An estimated one in six Australian men have at some point in their life visited a sex worker, according to the Australian Study of Health and Relationships conducted by La Trobe University.
But it is something blokes will rarely admit to and this stigma radiates directly from the prostitute, a woman whose career choice is sneered at by most and condescended to by the rest.
I think it’s time to accept that men CAN choose when they want to have sex. Women pretty much control when they have sex in a committed relationship and outside of that they are 100% in control, so what’s a guy gonna do when he’s horny to the point of distraction but she’s got a headache or she’s not sure how she feels about him yet? Pay for a woman’s time and leave when satisfied.
Prostitutes certainly aren’t for everyone nor am I recommending that. It wouldn’t be for me. The spark that really gets my fire going is being wanted sexually by a man. Maybe some men have that same feeling and need some sort of connection to make it all worthwhile. I think a prostitute is the best solution for anyone who wants only sex - no relationship, no commitment, no begging and no dishonesty.
Don’t come yelling at me saying I’m leading to the moral decline of the universe. Prostitution has gone on since the dawn of time and if we haven’t fallen apart yet, it ain’t gonna happen because two people are having a shag for cash. Maybe if we treated prostitutes with a bit more respect their conditions would improve and it would be seen as a real service. The sex drive in humans doesn’t get turned on after the marriage certificate is signed.
