Saying the right words
Have you ever given much thought to what words really do it for you when it comes to feeling loved and cared about? I never did until this week. I wonder if we identified those triggers and our spouses or partners deliberately used those words would the words then change?
Then I thought back through my life to other times that words made me feel special (or not so special) when said by people I cared about.
My dad always called me chicken. I have no idea why - maybe because I have skinny legs, but I knew when he called me chicken I was important to him and I was his only chicken. I have an older sister and younger brother but they weren’t called chicken. They had their own pet names. My sister was queenie and my brother was mossy face.
My father always had something interesting to say and if he couldn’t think of the word for something he’d make one up. I grew up thinking vice grips were called bigger grippers. Every Thanksgiving, regardless how many were sitting at the table, just after the blessing was finished he would say, “Thank you ma’am and if you please, in the ass of the duck you’ll find the peas.”
We also knew when he was angry because in a loud voice we’d hear, “Jumping Judas on a rock!”
He’s been gone a long time but his words still roll around in my head for me to call on when I’m feeling a bit second rate about myself.
My husband rarely calls me by my name. To him, I’m honey. I know I’m his only honey. He goes out of his way every day to say something nice. He says it’s just his nature to only see what he wants to see. (and thank God for that) I realize now how much his words affect how I feel about myself and our relationship.
I just got remarried this past March, 2007. The minister was Elvis, in Las Vegas, so this time it will surely work!
We gave each other rose colored glasses. That way she’ll always be the bathing suit and lingerie model of my dreams!
We do see what we want to see. And we are responsible for our own attitudes. We speak to each other with care and consideration, because what we say does make a tremendous impact. We talk about our differences. We accept each other with our wrinkles. Heaven! And it makes it all hotter in the sack!
From FeelingFlirty — I would have loved to have been there to throw flower petals!! Congratulations on a wonderful relationship.
“Words”, or the meaning of them, are directly defined by the person narrating them. I love how you realate to the name “chicken” as a loving nod. Inflection, personal body language, and who a person really is make “words” have a special and significant meaning. The dictionary is really just a hint at the true meaning of any word.
Anyone can utter the word “honey”, but I can tell that you feel a sence of love from your husband emitted from it.
Some of the most powerful words in the universe, are never spoken at all…
***From FeelingFlirty - you got exactly what I meant to say!
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Wishing you best wishes and huge writing success!
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