Please, Please Be Yourself!
Last week I received an email with a story from a SexyAds member in England who had chatted with a new friend for a while and finally decided to meet. She’s recently gone through a rough patch of life and was really looking forward to catching up in person.
They’d exchanged photos so they both knew what to expect — or maybe not.
She went to the restaurant where they were supposed to meet and she watched and watched for her friend to arrive. She thought she’d been stood up and then a man walked in looking nothing like the photo and walked up to her and gave her a big kiss on the cheek.
She was floored! He was easily 25 years older than the photo, had far fewer teeth than are required for a full meal and his command of the Queen’s English was dismal.
You’re wondering how she handled it, right? She did what any other woman would do. She went to the ladies’ room and texted her friends and had a hilarious laugh at this poor man’s expense. Underneath it all though, she was bitterly disappointed that she’d put heaps of effort into this friendship and he turned out to be a liar.
Folks, while looks are important in every relationship, what you look like might be exactly what someone else is seeking. (all except the teeth thing.. most people expect teeth in their date’s mouth, sorry.)
I know how stressful it is if you don’t have a lot of confidence in your looks. I went 10,000 miles for my first date with Jayce and I was too afraid to send him my photo because I didn’t want him to barf. I knew if he met me he’d love me, (no problem with ego here) and he did.
The same thing can happen to you. More people hold honesty and respect as more important than looks – but what is considered attractive is different for all of us. Nobody can explain attraction but we know what we like when we see it.
A key to get success in your dating is confidence. And a key to confidence is preparation.
Cant for the life of me work out why they do it, do they think we wont notice?
be yourself. not treat like someone else and ve happy
Must be embarrassing for him to be using a photo making himself out to be much younger. What was he thinking?
I got trouble with my self confidence when I was on collage. I learn to overcome it and now i feel better.
That’s a common situation in online acquintances. Such things has happened with me for several times too. Not too pleasant, of course…
In this case, it wasn’t so much an issue of physical appearance than it was an issue of openness and honesty. Unfortunately, this is one of the common risks that come with online dating.
Aawww… what a good post! I must tweet this one. It’s so true. You can’t help who you are and who you are is who someone will love someday. You might as be yourself because you can’t be someone else forever when you meet the person you will be with forever. So just hold your head up high and be proud for who you are because one of these days, you’ll meet that person meant for you and that person will be perfect for just you.
Love is eternal and sacred.We should not take any dirty step to be success here.This post remember us to be more careful in online friendship.
well written, Thank you so much sharing! WOnderful thing that you have shared made me to think for a minute.
You are talking about ads, to be honest, i don’t have any issues with the ads, but sometimes, there are some irritating emails from the foolish religious people who give shameless stories to make us emotional.
You are absolutely right, I think confidence separates beautiful from attractive, anyone can be attractive if he or she is confident and even if you are beautiful but has no confidence at all you will still look ugly, nice post, just be yourself and everything will take care of itself.
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That sort of thing is too common in the internet age. Please keep updating your blog: It’s fun and sexy!
Be yourself but still, try to be better each day.
Although she felt she had been lied to it may be that the man himself didn’t feel he was deceiving anyone. From his point of view he might consider that he still looks like he did in the old photo — you know how people like to fool themselves as they get older. So, worth thinking about…
Yeah! I am so much agree with the comments that if you having a date with a girl all you need is CONFIDENCE, just trust yourself and you show whoa you are.
Agree, be yourself…Confidence is key, so being honest with yourself is the first step towards being yourself wiht others.
You are definitely right, I think assurance divides wonderful from eye-catching, anyone can be eye-catching if he or she is assured and even if you are wonderful but has no assurance at all you will still look unattractive, good publish, just be yourself and everything will deal with itself.
Being yourself boosts your confidence in facing people.
Hard work is key of success. so try your best.
I think at this time it’s a very common mania. We should avoid this type of deception.
a good post..many people lack self confidence…
Honesty and respect are pillars for starting a new relationship. overtime people who are honest will stick with us.
frankly this whole online dating idea seem a fraud to me.you can be anyone in your profile even a 50 year old men can say i am 25 year old.Lot of time effort and emotions are wasted this way.