Last week I received an email with a story from a SexyAds member in England who had chatted with a new friend for a while and finally decided to meet. She’s recently gone through a rough patch of life and was really looking forward to catching up in person.
They’d exchanged photos so they both knew what to expect — or maybe not.
She went to the restaurant where they were supposed to meet and she watched and watched for her friend to arrive. She thought she’d been stood up and then a man walked in looking nothing like the photo and walked up to her and gave her a big kiss on the cheek.
She was floored! He was easily 25 years older than the photo, had far fewer teeth than are required for a full meal and his command of the Queen’s English was dismal.
You’re wondering how she handled it, right? She did what any other woman would do. She went to the ladies’ room and texted her friends and had a hilarious laugh at this poor man’s expense. Underneath it all though, she was bitterly disappointed that she’d put heaps of effort into this friendship and he turned out to be a liar.
Folks, while looks are important in every relationship, what you look like might be exactly what someone else is seeking. (all except the teeth thing.. most people expect teeth in their date’s mouth, sorry.)
I know how stressful it is if you don’t have a lot of confidence in your looks. I went 10,000 miles for my first date with Jayce and I was too afraid to send him my photo because I didn’t want him to barf. I knew if he met me he’d love me, (no problem with ego here) and he did.
The same thing can happen to you. More people hold honesty and respect as more important than looks – but what is considered attractive is different for all of us. Nobody can explain attraction but we know what we like when we see it.