No Strings Attached
How often do you read that in an ad from a guy on a dating site? It’s in every 3rd or 4th ad. I say, “Welcome to the real world.”
A sexual meeting with no commitment & no strings is no relationship. That’s what men pay prostitutes for, so there isn’t any relationship or strings. I don’t understand why they don’t get it. To avoid being slammed by the few women who are looking for just sex, I will admit that there are a few women who don’t want to know how you like your chicken cooked, but they are in the minority.
A young woman from Florida wrote just this morning and said:
More often then I would like, I will read an e-mail that states, “I am looking for a no-strings attached fling. Only reply if you are serious”.
There are two major problems with an e-mail like this…
1) My ad states that I am not looking for a fling.
2) For me, there is no such thing as no-strings attached.
As far as the first pet peeve goes, people just need to read before they send e-mails. Don’t get me wrong… I enjoy sex very much… Hence the reason why I am on this site, huh? (lol)… For me, sex is a perk in relation to a good friendship, or relationship. It should not be the only thing that is required from another person. Even if it is for fun, every time you have sex with someone a bond is made.
As a woman, I find it very difficult not to develop some type of connection to people that I have sex with. As a matter of fact, it’s damn near impossible for me to do. Does this mean that I don’t belong on this site, or that this lifestyle is not for me??? I would hope that is not the case, but I have had a few people tell me that I don’t fit in, here.
So what’s the answer? Men must realize that in any sexual relationship other than one that’s arranged and paid for, there will be some kind of emotional strings. By nature, women are nurturers. We care about people and many of us need an attachment of some sort to feel sexy. So if you’re looking for a no strings relationship, good luck. There are few out there to be had. If you’re looking for a woman to care about you but not intrude on your personal life, that is very possible but she’s going to want something from you in return.
