Most women like men to make the first move
I was chatting with a guy in one of the chatrooms yesterday and he was telling me that he’d been at SexyAds for nearly 4 years and had never been what he’d call successful in dating women. I’m always up for a challenge like that, and I had seen him in the chatroom on quite a few occasions so I knew he was truthful when he said he’d been around for a while. I looked up his details and then ran a scan of the mail logs for his nick. Sure enough in 4 years he had never sent ONE initial email. He’d answered a few but he’d never sent one. So I asked why.
He told me he’d have to be a VIP member to send an email so he just waited around til someone wrote to him. So I asked why again? Was the cost of the membership so much that he couldn’t afford it and if so, how did he plan to entertain a woman if he found one. He said that he felt that all sites were ripoffs and that he stayed at SexyAds because all the people seemed real and he could talk to them for nothing.
I had to bite my fingers or say something I’d regret, so I said that if the people seemed real and he got so much for free, why wouldn’t he consider upgrading to move things from the computer to real life? He said maybe he should think about that but he always hoped that the women would find his ad and write to him – somehow that would make them more sincere. Women don’t peruse the profiles as much as men hope they do. They don’t have to because the hunter in a man gets there first.
I asked him how many times had he been to a bar or club and had had tons of women try to pick him up? How about at parties? He had to admit that it had never happened that way, that he’d always had to make the first move.
Then he said what I was waiting for, “Ok, Maureen, I get it.” He joined and wrote to about 30 women that interested him and he got 5 replies within 5 hours and just had to tell me. I did give him some tips on that first email but he did it all on his own.
The moral of the story is that regardless of women’s liberation and assertive women – the majority of women wait for a man to take that first step.
How true! I think women still like men to take the initiative generally. Of course, there are exceptions but when it comes to getting to know people online, all the more men need to be proactive. Otherwise, you will just lose out!
Even in a liberated country, women still wait for the men to make the first move. You maybe the most eligible bachelor, but if you stay in a box the most eligible woman who is also being hazed will not find you.
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Most women like men to make the first move…
The moral of the story is that regardless of women’s liberation and assertive women – the majority of women wait for a man to take that first step….
This is absolutely true.
I think a lot of men were hoping that online dating might be a forum where it was more acceptable for women to make the first move as well. However, the virtual world mirrors the real world in this regard and it is men who have to do all the hard work. Some sites do allow women to ‘wink’ (or similar) at guys that interest them which is an easy way of saying that they wouldn’t mine being approached.
Us men have to make the effort and contact women otherwise we will miss out. As the nice women we would like to be contacted by have all been sent messages by lots of other guys, some of whom they will like and respond to them rather than waste lots of time seeking out other guys. It’s unfair, but it’s life
True true, but it can be quite sexy if a women knows what she wants and knows how to get it.
I think women still like men to take the initiative.The womens fear for the security and ego level that why they are not taking the first step and want their partner to take the step.The Women’s are more smarter than man’s because they know that the men’s believe in more actions and leadership as they take the benefit of it and finally succeed.I know that if a women knows what she wants and knows how to get it.I think a lot of men were hoping that online dating might be a forum where it was more acceptable for women to make the first move as well.
..Indeed! but is always depends on the situation.. if you`re looking forward.. it is not important anymore who would make the first move! =)
I hung out with an acquaintance from college when we ran into each other at a brewery a few months back. He was near my age, 29, and when I asked about his dating past he said he’d NEVER had a relationship. As I got to know him better I realized he was a nice enough guy, but devoid of all “game” (not in the negative connotation, but the kind of “game” guys have to have if they’re ever going to get up the gumption to ask a woman out). This guy needs to read your post about this–it’d totally help him!!
yes,especial chinese women like men to make the first move.I lost my first love just because i am too shy and waited her to make first move.
yes this is a charisma
I think this is true too, although it is said that more women are making the first move now a days, but in my experiance this is not true at all !
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