How do you get someone to respect you?
Aretha Franklin said it for us in her song R E S P E C T. How do you get someone to respect you? I must get asked that question at least once a week. It goes along with why won’t people reply to emails, why won’t someone talk to you if you don’t have a photo on your profile and most often, why does someone think that because I’m on SexyAds that it’s okay to talk crudely to me? These key factors will help you to gain the respect you deserve.
* First you have to respect yourself. Don’t put up with any crap just to be with someone. It doesn’t matter how rich or attractive, if they don’t respect you, you don’t belong there. It’s far better to be alone than be mistreated.
* Show respect to your partner. Don’t be bossy or controlling and never ever put your partner down for any emotion he or she is feeling.
* Be your own person. If you live your life totally around another person with no interests of your own, then you are setting yourself up for hurt feelings. Nobody can be responsible for your happiness or for meeting all your needs. Create your own interests and pursue them with an eye to keeping a good balance in your life.
* Be Yourself. If the person you’re trying to get or keep in your life says they really like something, don’t toss yourself into it just so you can please them. It will all fall in a heap, I promise. One day you’ll realize that you’re not happy and the relationship isn’t worth all the effort you put into becoming who you aren’t. You’ll have wasted a lot of time you could have been spending with someone more compatible with who you are.
* Have sex when YOU’RE ready. Sure, it’s 2010 but there is no requirement that you have sex on the first date. Sure, if it’s something you’re comfortable with and you want, I say go for it, but if you’re doing it just so you can be sure of date #2, it’s a mistake. Waiting for sex until you’re sure might show that you’re worth the wait.
* If you’re answering ads on SexyAds (or any other site of an adult nature) you don’t have to be crude and write, “I’d love to come all over your tits,” as an introductory email. If you can’t say it to a stranger at the veggie stand, then it’s probably not going to work here either. The people are real, only their nicknames aren’t.
Respect is always a two-way street. If you’re a controlling bitch or bastard, you’re probably not going to get a lot of respect. If you’re a wimp who never stands up for him or herself, you’re probably not going to get a lot of respect. I am not trying to piss anyone off here but sometimes the truth hurts. Treat others as you want them to treat you because what goes around comes around.
Respect is earned and not obtained, what do you think?
I agree with the first commenter and your post! First, before people start to respect you, you must learn to have respect for yourself. Second, walk and talk with authority. And lastly, don’t interrupt when someone is explaining.
Nowadays many younger kids has lost respect for us older, we need to get the parenting a hint how you raise a child and a god start is to respect someone that is much older than you. Respect!
Thanks for the nice post. One thing I can share is if you want to respect by others you must respect first yourself.
I think that respect can only be gained if we start it with ourselves. And yes, you’re right that we must also treat others in the same way that we want to be treated. But prior to that, we must learn to give respect to ourselves by doing deeds that will not also ruin our personality. With that, respect from other will just naturally flow in.
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