Having sex doesn’t make it a relationship

Two women were talking in the chatroom at SexyAds the other day and one said that it felt wonderful to be in a committed relationship again. The other women congratulated her and wished her well and asked how they decided on a committed relationship. The first woman said, “well, we’re having sex!”

Too many women think that because they are having sex with a man that it is a secure, ongoing relationship. Sex doesn’t guarantee any kind of relationship. Just because you have sex with a man on the first, second or third date doesn’t mean he’s made any commitment at all. We often fall into the mindset of thinking that sex will make him love us enough to get married or want to have a romantic relationship with us. Some women use sex to try to get marriage or a serious romance relationship. When it doesn’t happen we often feel disappointed and hurt.

A relationship comes from two people loving, respecting and enjoying each other’s company. That’s it. Sex is a huge bonus and for most of us it’s a part of a good relationship but it is not the basis of one.