Comments on: Forgiving infidelity

By: Kitty's Affair

Kitty's Affair — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 16:08:44 +0000

I know people will demonize me for this comment, but perhaps the best way to get over infidelity is to have a little affair of your own? I wish people would lighten up a little when it comes to cheating, I’ve often found myself wondering if monogamy is just a huge set up for failure and heartbreak.

By: Dis the Distance

Dis the Distance — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 19:35:14 +0000

its pretty hard to judge wether your partener is wrong or not, because it depends on the situation he/she was in when cheating.
but we can consider all cheatting no metter the situation is an irresponsible person. because love distance relation ships can be hard to judge from any perspective.

By: Cheating sign

Cheating sign — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 21:25:52 +0000

If you have caught your partner cheating on you, the time has come to stop allowing yourself to be taken for granted and emotionally abused by your partner! Staying in the dark can affect your health, happiness and completely rob you of your peace of mind and joy in life. You deserve these things and if your partner is unwilling to give them to you than moving on is in YOUR BEST INTEREST!

By: Catch Cheating Spouse

Catch Cheating Spouse — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:33:47 +0000

@ Fiji. Could the person just not be happy? Why does it have to be cat/mouse?

By: Forgiving Infidelity

Forgiving Infidelity — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 10:12:16 +0000

Great article. Infidelity is pretty hard to bear much more forgiving and getting back together again. But it is true that there are couples who survived and even made their relationship stronger despite of what happened. There’s no excuse for not forgiving, it will benefit you more than your cheating partner in the long run. Not getting back together is understandable but not forgiving is not. There’s a difference. I hope I made sense

By: chenyan

chenyan — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 13:45:40 +0000

I never thought I could either. How does a person get past the knowledge that the person they love and who they’ve been true to has shared intimate moments with another person

By: Ray

Ray — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 21:44:41 +0000

Some years ago I found out my wife was having an affair. We had been married ten years,and I was left totally devastated.
We agreed to part,Even though I was in pieces I began making plans for the future.
Generally men can’t stand the idea of their wife’s Physical betrayal, women are more concerned with their husband’s emotional betrayal.I felt both in equal measure!

Yes forgiveness is very difficult, and I can understand those that say they could never forgive. But I did just that, and I realized that my plans for the future should include her. I asked her to come back to me.

More than ten years later we have two children and are very happy together. I admit,for more than a year it was very difficult at times between us, but we persevered.

You both need a lot of determination and belief that the relationship is well worth saving.It will help you through the hard times,for us the effort produced the relationship, and our beautiful children that we have today.

By: Herman

Herman — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 19:05:17 +0000

Hey
Well it happened to me and we tried to work things out…I told myself that I had trust in my partner again, but I didn’t, I always wondered. Broke up early this year because I got obsessed with wanting to be in contact with him (Our relationship shifted from seeing each other every day to a long distance relationship because of a lack of job opportunities in the area I stay in).
So personally I think it’s an emotional torture to be with someone who has cheated on you. It felt like my emotions were being controlled by my self pity and lack of confidence eventually. I still miss the guy, after 3 years of ups and downs, no thank you, there has to be someone better out there.

ciao!

By: Crittertrail

Crittertrail — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 14:13:14 +0000

I think that you should try to forgive everything but just “try”, not to go opposite your own inside principles.

By: George Fellows

George Fellows — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 11:47:26 +0000

I think your list of what you need is not bad but I would beware one thing.

Wanting your marriage after infidelity to be like it was before is a bit of a problem because it can never be the way it was.

You should certainly “start again” as this helps you rebuild a relationship but that marriage must be a new one not just the old one again which is like trying to forget the affair even happened for some men and women.