Flirting on the net

Emphatically yes you can flirt on the net. It’s done a bit differently than face-to-face but if you think about it, it’s not a whole lot different. In person you can rely on body language to help you out but what does your body language “say” without words? It’s showing another person that you just might be interested.

On the net you have the same capability as long as you think about what your goal is. You want to get someone’s attention to let them know that you think they’re hot or pretty or handsome and maybe they should consider getting to know you.

How do you flirt on the net?

You start with a compliment. If someone has a blog, you post a complimentary comment or a joke related to their post. If you’re on a dating site, make a comment about a photo. In both instances you’re showing that (1) you have looked at their blog or photo and (2) you’re interested enough to take the time to send them a note.

If your hook, the compliment, works, they’ll write back to say thanks and let you know that they’ve looked at your blog or ad or photo or profile. Now’s the time to set that hook and find out how compatible you might be. Send an email and give a little bit more information about yourself, what you enjoy doing and say something about what things in your life you would like to share with them. Before you know it, you’ll be dating.

Guys, sometimes this is where you flub it. You’ve sent the comment and receive a reply and when you set the hook you fall back into old patterns and write something sexy that should wait until AFTER the hook is set. Remember the old line where the woman wants to be treated like a lady in public and like a slut in private? You’re still public. She hasn’t invited you to speak privately yet so don’t mess it up.

I’ve seen men have a really nice woman’s attention and write back about how talented his tongue is and does she do anal. DELETE. All that effort up in smoke.

Ladies, you know that men are dying to get into your panties so make sure you give a guy the right signals. Don’t send him a picture of you naked or showing lots of cleavage and then be pissed off because he replied to the photo.

Flirting is a great way to get noticed. You can flirt with 50 people or more and reel them in one by one until you find one that’s a keeper.