Flirting for the Shy
No two human beings are alike. I am not talking about DNA here but who we are as people. We all have different personalities and preferences. One trait that always stands out is someone’s shyness. I feel sorry for those people who are too shy to talk to or even approach people they don’t know. How can someone like this flirt or get the attention of a potential partner? The short answer is they can’t! Being shy most always is a hindrance to snagging the guy or girl that has caught their eye.
Being shy isn’t a crime and shy people don’t choose to be shy. But honestly, there are times when the whole shyness thing can stop a person from making the first move or catching someone’s attention. Playing hard to get in a shy way can sometimes be cute, but too shy is a lot like work when you’re talking about dating. If you have a problem with shyness, it’s time to kick that shyness goodbye. It’s not easy, I know that, but you CAN gather the courage and strength to mask that shyness demeanor. Open yourself up to being able to flirt and then date some fantastic people.
You don’t need a complete personality overhaul — just mask the outward appearance of your shyness. You can take control and by doing so, you’ll change your life. Your shyness isn’t going to go away and you’re never going to “grow out of it.” So make a decision that in 2009 you are going to overcome. Forget about eliminating it, that’s too much work. Overcome the symtoms and you’ll find that it doesn’t matter that you’re still shy in some situations. If you’re shy, it can sometimes be a burden to your growth as a person, not only occupationally but socially as well. By slowly working on overcoming shyness in one area of your life after another, you will give yourself a chance to experience things that you have so far denied yourself.
Watch someone who’s not shy and see what they do. Then break down their “moves” one by one and try them out. Before you know it, you’ll have overcome that one thing. Reward yourself! By improving these people skills, one day someone will tell YOU that they wished they could flirt as easily as you do.
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Shyness is may be somewhere related to introvert if I am correct. May be some people love to not to disclose too much about themselves and it is sometimes considered as shyness. But yes, I agree one should comeout from shyness to fly high & high…
Watch someone who’s not shy and see what they do. Then break down their “moves†one by one and try them out. Before you know it, you’ll have overcome that one thing. Reward yourself! By improving these people skills, one day someone will tell YOU that they wished they could flirt as easily as you do.
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I don´t know, someone shy often has his own reasons to act that way. In a certain way, shyness is a problem of confidence, so it is hard for a shy person to change. Shy people are often that see theirselves as inferior from an intellectual point of view, or …
Sometime shyness also guide you so wrong that you will be regret for your whole life. There was a guy in our group and he love someone. We knows that she also loves him and we told him as well.
But because of shyness he never told her and now she is wife of someone else.
Believe me it’s only about experience, insecure-shy people feel that way because they are not believe in themselves, they first need to be prove to themselves that they CAN do it, and then everything is easy.
shy is a greath feeling that god has give to us, wethout this feeling may be like animal that newer wear a cloth anywhere they go…he
I don’t agree to what people are saying that Shy people don’t believe in them selves. I know people who are shy but they have a very good career, they are full of confidence.
It is tough being shy and trying to flirt
You are right though that most people don’t choose to be shy. I think it helps to practice 
“just mask the outward appearance of your shyness”
Yes, because pretending you are someone else is much better than being shy. It’s not a freaking disease. I like shy men.
I agree with FitDarcie… I’d rather see a man for what he is, even if its shy than him trying to mask it. I like shy men too.
Off course, shyness is related to introvert, but please do not think that don’t have a small heart. For those, who are shy just remember it is the ornament of their personality. Just forget about the world.
This flirting tip for shy girls works wonders. … You may find it hard to believe, but these flirting tips for shy girls are easy and …
Flirting sometimes makes you fall in love.^_^.
Nice article huh.
I tried two things to help my shyness. I walk faster, that makes me seem more confident and I smile during conversations and maintain eye contact. I got some response, but not much. I’m lucky though, one of my best friend is helping my confidence level.
Well I use to have a couple of drinks first to give a boost in confidence at the parties. That always helped LOL.
Anyone can flirty discreetly. Especially when someone starts it. However, I do believe alcohol makes it easier.
I hated flirting before. However, sometimes when you do it and when you get a response it can boost your self-esteem. Its a confirmatory that you are not ugly at all.:)
Therefore, if your shy, take some time. I agree with you that you really need to at least watch the moves of other people. And learn from them. Besides, flirting can be the best way to find your soulmate in life or making new friends. Who knows?!
By the time I got over my shyness, I was almost middle aged. I’ve really missed out on the best years of my life in terms of meeting women and dating. If I could do it all over, I’d simply go for it with a “who cares” attitude. Life is too short.
I want to add another dimension to this post. First of all, what laypeople call “shyness” is usually either introversion or social anxiety. Introverts are temperamentally disposed to prefer solitary or one-on-one activities and a calm, relaxed atmosphere. Social anxiety, on the other hand, afflicts people who desperately WANT to socialize more but are stricken with nerves. The former are born with strong heritable factors that contribute to this temperament and usually cannot change it. The latter are responsive to cognitive-behavioral therapy and anti-anxiety medication.
If you are one of the former, an introvert, medication isn’t going to miraculously change who you are. Sure, you can learn to mask it, but you won’t be able to keep the mask on permanently. If you’ve tricked someone into believing you’re a vivacious, outgoing type when you’re anything but, you risk disenchantment and rejection when the object of your affections discovers that you misrepresented yourself.
If you’re introverted, my best suggestion is to try online dating so that you have some time to warm up to this new person before you meet. Alternatively, you could join a group or organization unrelated to dating (try Meetup.com for thousands of groups catering to every interest) so that you can gradually get to know people in a low-pressure setting. Rather than force yourself to take on a false identity, if you let yourself be who you are, you will attract people who LIKE introverts. And, trust me, there are plenty of those people out there! I know from experience.
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Yep we all have to overcome our shyness. Otherwise, we will just let moments pass us by. Shy people need to get out of their shell and express themselves.
shyness is like condom which never let come out your feeling
Today no one is shy with flirt, every one are interested in flirt…so enjoy flirting..
haha,. I can see my self in this article,. i’m a shy person and i’m afraid to communicate to someone I dont know,. and the funny thing is i’m shy even with my boyfriend.. haha
I hated flirting before. However, sometimes when you do it and when you get a response it can boost your self-esteem. Its a confirmatory that you are not ugly at all.:)