Feeling sexy on the net

Back in 1994 when I first found the Internet in Orlando, Florida, it was full of geeks and university types. We used text based telnet chatrooms. It was all new to me and I found it really exciting learning the new technology. One day someone I met on a local bulletin board system suggested that I telnet to a “talker” in Sweden. I remember how complicated I thought it all was but finally I got logged in and started to introduce myself. I was amazed at the people who were there.

One of the head guys at SUN in Sweden was there, a doctor of linguistics at a university in Scotland, a high level programmer in London, another whizbang English programmer who was living in Greece, an IT professor at a Florida university, the head of IT for a large school system in South Carolina, a guy who owned a software company – it just blew me away. Here all these people were in the middle of the day (or night depending on where they were and when I was there).

We’d be talking about ordinary life one minute and the next someone was talking about the huge orgasm they had the night before or how to find the g-spot. Back in ‘94 I was just letting the last child out of the nest and frankly had never talked to anyone about sex before, much less total strangers, but there I was, joining right in. One woman told us how she’d always fantasized about being a dominatrix and making men subservient to her. This was ALL really new to me. (I’ve come a long way in 13 years!)

When we started SexyAds.com I hoped we could have a chatroom similar to that one. A place where people could talk about anything – sexual or not and that’s what happened. To get the room populated John and I would chat for hours on end just so the rooms wouldn’t be empty and people would stay. After a while the chatter grew a life of its own and we’ve never had to repeat the process, but there are some still around who call us Mom and Dad.

A chatroom is a great place to make new friends AND explore the sexual side of your personality. Like my friend in South Carolina who wanted to pretend to be a dominatrix, you can find someone in chat and pretend to be anything you want to be. I’m not talking about leading someone on, but you can admit that you’ve always been curious about (whatever it is that you’re curious about and we’re all curious about something). You’ll explore your personal boundaries and you’ll end up a better lover for the experience.

I have talked about cyber sex before and there ARE tricks to getting lucky. Men should realize that women are real and that when they feel good about themselves, they do feel sexier. I promise you that saying, “I looked at your profile and man, you are hot!” gets you miles ahead of the guy who jumps in and says, “any sluts wanna cyberfuck and make me feel reeeeel good?”