Do you give up too soon?
Every week I run into people who appear to have given up on their goal of finding a new partner, whether it’s a long term marriage commitment or even a casual relationship. It always intrigues me because I’d never give up. I know that if I were alone today that I could find someone to spend time with. I just know it all the way to my bones. So why don’t they?
Self-confidence is a problem for many. They don’t think someone like them just the way they are. To be honest, in some cases it’s true. If someone doesn’t like themselves very much, chances are nobody else is going to like them either. Most people in this group should make a list of their good qualities and see just how special they really are.
Then there are the ones who tend to give up rather than feel like a failure if they don’t find someone right away. Seriously, does it matter to anyone whether you’re with a partner or not? Maybe your mother but frankly, that’s it. Nobody really gives a shit, and even if they notice, they’ll only notice it for about 5 minutes and then they’re on to thinking about someone else.
Some people think that dating and meeting new people takes too much time and they don’t have much to spare. In reality, it does take a bit of time but that’s what quality lives are made of. Our personalities are forged by the friends we have and if you don’t have many, you’re a pretty sad person I think, and your personality has suffered for it.
So if you’re looking for a new relationship in your life and you’ve read this far, I’ve got good advice for you.
Keep on trying. Join a dating site if you haven’t already and write to as many people as you can that you think might fit your requirements. Be as particular as you want to be because there are lots and lots of people looking on any day that you show up.
My sage advice (I’m old you know):
Don’t worry that you’ll write to a bunch of people who won’t reply or won’t want to meet you. It doesn’t matter. You won’t be right for everyone. The real fact is that you won’t get a reply from any email you don’t send.
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As one President said: “Never never never give up”
How are the dating sites? I’ve tired dating someone online once and that turned out very bad. But i guess we should never give up like Hummel said.
I just answered an email that I received today that was from a woman who met someone through SexyAds.com back in 2003 and they’re still together. She’s now over 60, is a big woman and thought nobody would find her attractive. She was nearly ready to give up when a man she’d been viewing (over and over) wrote to her.
So yes, dating sites do work. They don’t work for everyone and they work better when you put in some effort to contact others. Ask all the questions you can think of before making the step to meet and you’ll eliminate most of the unkind and golddiggers.
Good luck!
There is no secret in dating but to keep trying and trying. If one thing doesn’t work, one has to try another; but never give up trying. I remember a quotation that goes something like this, “one failed only when one gives up completely.”
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Great post and fantastic blog, I agree that confidence is key, but it can waver when you are in a slump, you just have to keep at it as you say. Thanks for the good read!
Giving up or not giving up is not an option most of the times.
My motto is “never give up. try try and try…”
You have to troust your instinct. You will know when to give up!
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My recent experience shows me that when I focus on what I like about myself, I attract people who appreciate those qualities. It wasn’t so much a matter of confidence as focus and intention. When I changed my focus and made a decision to be an open-hearted woman, a GREAT guy showed up. I mean he showed up as I was searching my local grocery story for celery salt.
Nice effort to keep others morale up. May be 50% of us are unlucky regarding this but I know many people who have been living very happy life after their online dating and marriages.
Great post and fantastic blog
People give up because they stick with negative thoughts that nothing will ever work out for them. Very interesting post, keep up the good work! People like us really need encouragement like that.
Very interesting post, keep up the good work! People like us really need encouragement like that.Great post and fantastic blog…….
The other thing is that people reject others a little too quickly. I believe that unless there is a real dealbreaker (and it is not “i don’t like the color he is wearing” or “i never date blondes” but you find out that he is a klansman), you should go on a couple dates with someone to get to know them because everyone is nervoous on their first date, even confident people.
Sure, there are those instantaneous situations where two people just mesh instantly, but a lot of people who have been together a long time and are still very in love will often tell you there were no fireworks at first meeting and they happened a little later.
The relationships that last and you can achieve emotional intimacy, friendship, and romance with is someone who shares some of your general moral views also and you can build a life with – not just have a pleasant date – if that is what you are looking for.
I think you are right. Many people gives up too late, and I think, that that is a shame! But now I want to tell a little lovestory, because love is all around, and I do not think, that anyone shall give up their hope:
My mother has been single in sixteen years. Until I was three years old, we lived with my father in a big city. My parents got some friends there, who had a girl in my age. We was the best friends.
When my parents got divorced, my mother and I moved to a little city, far away from my father. In January this year, I started to think about my girlfriend from the childhood, and I decided to contact her. The same week, her and her father came all the way to visit my mother and I. Her father was also got divorced, and well.. Now the four of us, are living together, and my mother, and my girlfriend’s father are getting married next year.
See, love is all around, and you can never know, when or where you will find it.
Giving up too soon is coward’s behavior basically.We should always keep trying!
It’s hard to keep going sometimes, but I think that the secret is to not look too hard. Good things will come!
Yes, life is too exciting for us to give up.
when you least expected it, a few surprises will come your way.
I just think that sometimes the reason why people give up is because they feel they have tried one too many times to find that mr or ms right but it always ends up in tears. Think Jennifer Aniston anyone?
The problem is that at times people are not willing to look at themselves and ask why their rel. failed instead too quick to point an accusing finger to the apparent ex.
Nice blog by the way, definitely one to add to my favs.
I think you are totally right you people just need to get out there and put themselves out there. I know its tough and being rejected sucks and bla bla bla. But the fact of the matter is that the fear of being rejected is far worse than the actual act and getting dates REALLY is pretty easy. I have a free How to get girlfriend blog that breaks down the problems most people have that are single and simple solutions to help them move forward and find the relationship they have always wanted.