Dating the wrong person

Have you met someone online or maybe in person and you really wanted to date them? Then when you finally went out on that first date you experienced a few red flag warnings? Don’t disregard them. Those warnings are serious and you should listen.

Does this person have a controlling, aggressive behavior towards you or someone who served you? Did he yell at the waiter? Did she rant at the checkout chick? This is a no-brainer for me but many people don’t listen to those warning signs until it’s too late and then it’s tough to get out. NOBODY has the right to tell you what to do - ever. Even if you decide to marry, that’s not a slave contract.

Does this person come with extra baggage that will be tough to handle? Has he or she recently separated or divorced? Got kids? Only child caring for elderly parents? It’s not a relationship stopper but you will have to show a good deal of patience to sort thought it.

Does this person match your level of education? Is he or she intelligent enough to keep you satisfied when you’re not in bed? While you can be happy with anyone if that’s what you choose to do, if there are niggling feelings that it’s not “enough”, then it probably isn’t.

Does this person make himself or herself available as often as you want to see him or her? If you get more excuses than dates, maybe someone new would be better.

Has this person ever ended a relationship because he or she cheated on their spouse? Maybe it’s with you, but what’s past is often prologue and you might be the victim this time.

Does this person argue about everything and continue until you wear out and say, “ok you win, you’re right?” You will always feel second rate in this situation.

Does this person have a lot less in money and material things than you do? One word - golddigger. Not always, but you must be prepared to keep what’s yours secure until you know for sure.

Do you know enough about this person to feel secure? Anyone who seems secretive and private about personal issues either has a problem or is already married to someone else. Check it out.

Do your sexual appetites and interests match? Being with someone who’s really into bondage or dominance and you aren’t, will cause huge frustration. Maybe not right away but long term you’ll want someone who better matches what trips your trigger

These are only a few red flags you should consider and on their own, I would say that the only one that would be a total deal breaker is the controlling bastard or bitch. The others require you to do a bit of investigation and soul searching to determine if this person is someone you want to spend a lot of time with long term.