Cyber Sex

A guy from our site was typing to me in chat yesterday and asked me if I wanted to “go private.” Now for any of you who’ve been in an Internet chatroom, that’s the message for “do you want to talk about sex and do some text sex pretending?” It’s not something I’ve ever found satisfying personally, but I know there are millions engaging in this activity every hour of the day on the net.

I asked the guy who messaged me if he got lucky often and he said that he considered it a game of numbers and every once in a while he’d get someone who said yes and a few times he was pretty sure they were men pretending to be women just so they could fantasize and get off online. I asked if he had tried making friends with the women before requesting a session of hot chat and he thought I was nuts.

“These are two strangers meeting in the night, why should we be friends?”

That’s a man statement if I ever heard one. Most women (certainly not all) need some sort of connection to a man in order to feel sexy. They either enjoy his company, admire his values, like his sense of humor, respect his intelligence or wit or just think he looks great in his jeans, but there’s something about a man that makes a woman choose him, even if it’s just for a quickie.

So, if you are looking for cyber sex online, take it from me, the men who spend a little time talking with a woman in a way that values her opinions and respects her as a human being, you’ll be fighting them off with a stick. I’ve seen it time and time again that the men who are friendly with women are always “going private.” They might be acting out of instinct but every man can learn what pushes a woman’s buttons.