Crude doesn’t work

We get told a lot by women and some men that SexyAds is a great place because we’re sexy but not crude. We have always tried to stay as classy as we could while still hovering on the edge of naughty. That’s our space. That’s what sets us apart from the others because many and dare I say most adults like to feel naughty from time to time.

I know, you’re thinking – but I see a some rude ads on Plentyoffish.com and Yahoopersonals.com and I get some pretty crude emails on all 3 sites. That’s what I’d like to talk about today. It IS possible to be really sexy without being crude.

I got 3 emails today from men I had never heard from before. The first one said, “Do you do anal?” I replied that if that was how he introduced himself he must be a barrel of laughs at parties. The second one said, “Can I ask if you’d send me nude pictures of you if you don’t mind?” I replied that he could ask but the answer was no. Remember I have never heard from these men before. The third was my favorite. “You’re nearly as old as my grandmother, is a blow job better without teeth?” After convincing myself he was 23 and stupid I hit the delete button. (My teeth were not purchased..)

Now my ad says I own SexyAds (with my husband of course) and I’m not looking for anything but friends. I’m assuming these 3 didn’t bother to read my ad so I’m hoping that if I HAD been looking for someone, the emails wouldn’t have been any more explicit than what I got.

The reason I’m writing about this topic today is because I read a couple of ads from women with very similar wording. One was the bit on the front page that said, “I need you to know that I’m a very sexual person, but I’m not a slut.” The other said, “If you send me pictures of your penis or talk to me like I’m trash I will not reply and I will delete and block you from contacting me again. I’m a class act. I’m sexy and I love to have sex but there is a time to be crude but it’s not before we say hello for the first time.”

I can’t count the number of ads that say, “please don’t send me a cock shot” or “don’t send me your penis pic or if you MUST send a photo of your penis, please send another one of your face with a smile.” Guys, they’re saying it for a reason.

There was a fantastic blog this week about the same sort of thing. A woman said that if you don’t go to the supermarket or to parties or church and waggle your dick at people, don’t do it to women here. I look at the men who are really successful at grabbing a lot of babes and get a lot of horizontal action and to a man, they don’t need to be crude to pick up chicks – of any age. One guy (who gets lucky often) had a good suggestion too. He said that if women would tell men that their email was unacceptable, the standard of emails would improve.

I’m not saying that you should never do sexy talk, God forbid, no. That’s what we’re all about – getting you to talk sexy! I want you to get to first base and I see too many of you struggling and not making the connections you should. You’re attractive, intelligent men – you can do this. Make friends with her and then she’ll want to see everything you’ve got to show and you’ll get something from her too – something other than a rejection.

I met my husband through a personal ad on the net and if he had sent me a photo of his dick SexyAds wouldn’t be here today. I’d be still living in Florida and he’d still be in Australia with those pics of his dick.

The old rule still applies. If you’re respectful, interesting and fun – she’ll jump YOUR bones, you won’t have to coerce her into anything.