Collect and Select
Your senses are heightened. You can literally feel the heat coming off you as you eye that daiquiri sipping guy or girl by the bar. You have your eyes on the top prize tonight! You are now in your collect and select mode for the sexual prospect of the night. And whether it’s an enticing stranger or someone you have met before, you’re aware fully aware that now is the time to take your connection to the physical level. You can feel that he or she is also feeling the sexual tension you have been feeling. When you finally get the one you have been eyeing, how do you make this first time with someone new a glorious moment you’ll both fondly remember rather than a nightmare you’d just as soon forget?
The first thing to remember before hopping into bed with some guy or girl is to think of what you want to achieve from the experience. Are you in it solely for the lusty one-night romp or would you wanting it to be the beginning of a longstanding passionate relationship?
We, human beings have been primordial sexual beings. It is our natural inclination to be attracted to people. Sometimes these attractions induce sexual tension within. One of the ways we can release the pressure building up is to hook up with people we have just met. There is something extremely exciting about sex with a stranger, with absolutely no strings attached. Many women feel this way, not only men. What we all have to be careful about is simply using the other person, treating them as an object only for our satisfaction.
No one likes being treated as an object. No one likes being used for someone else’s purpose. Both men and women typically use each other as sex objects. But what does it mean to treat a person as an object? It means you use that person to get what you want without particular regard to what happens to them or how they feel. At one extreme you would not even care if you actually cause harm. More frequently harm is not intended, but the well being of the person you are using is of little or no concern to you. Their feeling or well being is of no importance you. After you get what you want, you are oblivious to their post coital feelings and you simply discard them.
When you want sex and you do anything necessary to get it, you are typically using your romping partner as a sex object. You may lie and otherwise be deceitful about what is really going on. You may pretend to care or be interested but all you really want is to get laid. The fulfillment of the sexual urge is on the ultimate priority list. After you get what you want, you disappear and they never hear from you again. There could also be ill feelings like contempt or disgust channeled to the other person because they agreed to sleep with you. But in most cases, this is really a disguised form of self-contempt and self-hatred projected onto the opposite sex. It is very unhealthy and in the long run will leave you alone, lonely, bitter and cynical. This is hardly a formula for happiness.
Quick sex or “no strings sex†between consenting, mature adults is not about using each other as an object. It is also important that both of you understand what is happening, and that there should be no deception. With no-strings sex, both parties understand that it is not intended that you will ever see each other again. There are fewer or no expectations afterward. You do not exchange addresses or phones or personal histories. A fine line is drawn between partners. It is understood that there will be no post sex convo or anything like that unless the parties involved have decided they want to take things to another level. There is absolutely nothing wrong with one night stands or “no strings sex†but make sure that before you collect and select, you are fully aware of the things to come and you are prepared for the post sex consequences.
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Or, you could just remain a virgin until your wedding night. I’m getting the impression people would be a lot happier if they did that.
Too many things can go wrong if you sleep around. It’s a matter of odds.
Sex is for making babies. I think many people live in a fantasy world generated by junk romantic fiction, p0rnography and their own libidos, and it makes them, ultimately, very unhappy.
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Before getting into bed with that stranger, make sure that you understand that there will be several things that can happen after. But if you really don’t care, then go ahead and enjoy.
While some may consider sex as purely a baby-making activity it is actually a far more complex aspect of human interaction than that – as your article so eloquently describes. Openness and honesty are crucial – but not always high on the agenda after a night of alcohol consumption
Wow, what a post! I was truely amazed to reading it, put in such an honest and open way.
I’m just looking for a hot babe for a 1 night stand!
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Oh my god!! What a collection. I really surprised to read the post. Really so nice post to share. The research on ancient thing is simply the great. Thanks for sharing this in your post with us.
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This one question has the potential to get your face slapped.
For a second there I thought I was reading a book that I picked up from Barnes & Nobles. Great article! I, myself, pick up random ladies for a one night rump.
Very interesting read! In theory no strings attached sex works for a lot of people, its just is it really no strings attached?
Talking things out straight eh? hmmm..
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What a frank post, very eye opening, I feel a victim already.
Tony Williams.