Though personality and looks definitely play a part in initial attraction because nobody has figured out how to get a scratch & sniff computer monitor. Smell may play a larger role than we suspect in whether we decide to meet again.. That inexplicable chemistry you feel with someone could be a subconscious scent drawing you to him or her.

The first study to indicate that chemical signals play a role in attraction was conducted by Claud Wedekind over a decade ago. Forty-four men wore the same T-shirt for three days. They refrained from deodorants and scented soaps so they wouldnt interfere with their natural smell. Women then sniffed the shirts and indicated which ones smelled the best to them. By comparing the DNA of the women and men, the researchers found that women didnt just choose their favorite scent randomly. They preferred the scent of man whose major histocompatibility complex (MHC)a series of genes involved in our immune systemwas most different from their own.

The women in this study also reported liking the scents that reminded them of their current or previous boyfriends, showing that MHC attraction is consistent. And because MHC profiles differ greatly from one person to the next, there is no universally good smell. One womans Romeo was another womans raunchy.

An interesting exception to the MHC attraction is for women taking the pill. Researchers found that pill-takers responded in almost the exact opposite manner than would be expected. Because the pill tricks your body into thinking it is pregnant, it chemically alters your sense of attraction. Instead of finding the scent of genetically dissimilar men attractive, women on the pill found the scent of men with MHCs similar to their own to be attractive.

This may be because when a woman is pregnant, she isnt looking for a new mate, and may benefit from being around kin, or those with a similar genetic make-up. But, because scent can be such a powerful indicator of a mate that is biologically compatible, what does this mean for women on the pill? Research has shown that picking a mate whose MHC is too similar to your own can result in higher rates of miscarriage and relationship difficulties like infidelity. Are contraceptive takers sabotaging their innate ability to pick a proper mate? If you’re on the pill and you keep picking losers.. maybe you’re on to something!

I suppose this explains why so many men are willing to spend money buying internet models’ worn panties.

At the end of the day our noses may help us find the mate most suited to us, but its ultimately up to our minds to decide whether or not we like what weve sniffed out.

Show off your romantic side.

1. Pick up the phone: Give him a ring while he is at the office just to let him know that you are thinking of him. Or if you are confident with phone sex tell him what you are going to do to him once he gets home and in turn what you would like him to do to you.

2. Fill the stocking: Men love sexy lingerie just as much as women if not more. Let him know how much you want him by getting out your best panties, team them with a pair of fishnets, stilettos and seduce him tonight.

3. Feed his heart: You know the old saying the way to a mans heart is through his stomach! Well you better believe it because it works every time. Get out the best dinner set set the table with candles, put on some soft music and prepare his favorite meal. You wont even need to think of dessert because this is where he will become romantic and wisk you of to the bedroom.

4. Flirt: When was the last time you actually flirted with your partner? Go out in public (to dinner, to a party or nightclub) and try it. It will boost both your egos bring back those old feelings of lust for one an other. Think like a single person and see what happens

5. Bedroom boudoir: Set the mood in your bedroom. Clear out all the clutter, change the bed linen (bring in some silk sheets perhaps) and fill the room with scented candles. Stand a bottle of your favorite bubbly in some ice, lay your sexiest lingerie on the bed and keep a box of his favorite chocolates near by. This is also an inexpensive way to give your bedroom a new look.

6. Use toys: If you want to add some spice to your love making then what better way then to introduce some props. We are not talking about 12? dildos (unless you want to that is) it can be something as small as a silk scarf or as daring as vibrators. Your man will need never be asked to make an effort again.

7. Watch a flick: Rent a romantic movie, order a take away, get out a bottle of your favorite wine, take the phone of the hook turn out the lights and snuggle into each other on the sofa in front of the TV. The romantic flick will soon have the two of you in the mood for love.

8. Love letters: Leave him little notes in his pocket, on his pillow, next to his mother any where that he will find them that will give him a nice surprise.

9. Kiss.. him all of his body slowly

10. 3 little words: Tell him that you love him at least once a day. This will keep the love there even if you havent always got time to express it, those 3 little words is all that you need.

How many times have you heard people who’ve been divorced say that they weren’t really in love with their ex, they just thought they were? I’ve heard it. The thing to remember is, both men and women are guilty of thinking theyr’e in love. They don’t test themselves because being with *someone* is better than being alone. A few months or years later and they are unhappy and wondering how the hell to change things. Their eyes begin to wander and figure that an affair is better than hurting their spouse’s feelings.

Sometimes, and dare I say it, more than sometimes, we think we’re in love but it’s really a long-term friends with benefits situation that could end at any time if one or the other isn’t getting their sexual needs met. It looks like love because they’re all twittery, holding hands, cuddly but that’s how friends with benefits act too. We get caught up in overwhelming lust and we think it’s love. Love isn’t about sex and that’s where the confusion lies. You have sex when you’re in love but sex is not love. Love is caring about someone during the good times and more especially during the bad times. Love doesn’t look for a way out, instead it looks for a solution.

I’m not saying that every person who’s cheating isn’t in love with their spouse. I’m saying that some people were never in love in the first place.

Not that I’m a prude or think that at 75 any woman isn’t entitled to a good sex life. But really, think about it. A man interested in having sex with a 75 year old woman is probably going to have crap eyesight and won’t be able to tell she’s been “aesthetically enhanced” down below. Now I’m no spring chicken myself but I can’t imagine needing cosmetic surgery on the lower playpen.

I want to stay policitcally correct here — seriously, I don’t think there are heaps of much younger men dating a 75 year old woman. I’m willing to be corrected. If there are and they are all thinking the woman needs a bit of a nip and tuck, I say dump him. Now it could be possible that this enhancement is for her own reasons. I’m having a vision of a 75 year old woman sitting with a mirror between her legs just to adore the beauty of it all. Gimme a freakin break!! Doctors who do this on women over 60 are taking advantage of the women.

Now about the guy who’s having sex with the 75 year old woman. Let’s just say he’s on the high side of 50 just to be conservative. I bet his willy isn’t going to be ready for prime time either! Men and women have been getting it on for how many thousands of years? How can it be that we’ve just now noticed that the vajayjay isn’t pretty? Ladies, it’s not supposed to be pretty – it’s there for function and most of them function pretty darn well. At least at my house anyway and I haven’t spent a lot of time looking at mine lately.

Apparently Nina, the woman who had the surgery done that this post is about, was delighted with the results and felt like a young woman again. I can see it now. She’s got wrinkles all over her face, fat ankles, tits past her waist but she’s got the vagina of a 20 year old. Yay!

I’d rather be an old sexy granny with the same goods that came from the manufacturer, how about you?

Seriously, everyone has sex. If we humans don’t have sex, our species will become extinct. We are hard wired from our manufacturer to need to have sex. We want sex. Many of us want a lot of sex. We enjoy it and that’s so we’ll continue to want to do it. Like food, water and shelter, sex is a necessary part of our lives. If any one of these needs is not met, our entire species is at risk.

Sadly, our religious instruction leads us to believe that sex is bad. Well, to those people I say you to that if God is perfect, nothing he creates is bad. The God I listen to wants us to live joyful lives and that includes sex. You don’t see any of God’s other animals hiding to have sex. They’re out there and they’re proud!

We can find magazines about food in every grocery store aisle in the country. There are magazines about houses and apartments everywhere. We assume that when we turn on the tap that clean water will flow out automatically.

Where do we get our sexual information? Magazines under the counter or in special shops where the windows are covered. I know I’m going out on a limb here – but I have to ask, why is sex considered bad by so many people? Why is it fine and dandy for kids to watch tv shows where people get shot and killed with blood and guts everywhere but even a mild sex scene in a show ends up with an x-rating? No problems advertising products on tv for constipation, menstruation, erectile disfunction or diarrhea so it doesn’t seem that the bodily function is the problem.

So why do we do we single out sex as something that should be treated with shame, guilt or secrecy?

Have we all bought — hook, line and sinker — all the rhetoric we’ve been fed by organized religion or the social mythology of generations who’ve gone before us? If it’s that simple, surely we can shed the shame with the same logic that has helped us realize 76 virgins are not waiting for in heaven for everyone who blows up a building.

Maybe there’s more to it. Maybe it’s that sex, unlike food and shelter, can’t really be done alone. Sure, you can masturbate, but that’s not *real* sex, is it? That’s an orgasm to be sure but is it really sex? Sex is something we do with another person who wants to have sex with us. Maybe if we want to have sex with someone and they don’t want to have sex with us – then it gets personal. This too seems weird to me.

I haven’t talked with anyone at SexyAds over the past 15 years that we’ve been online who has said, “Nah, I don’t like sex, I’m just here for the chat.” Most of us wish we were having more sex than we are. It won’t kill us not to have sex but like when we’re hungry and don’t have food – it’s all we think about. Sex is good for our bodies and our minds. Research shows that sex helps with our overall health and can reduce stress which can be life threatening.

People who insist that sex be hidden away and be an item of shame – what are they afraid of? It has to be fear of having the light turned on in an area they are uncomfortable with. Aren’t we developed enough to move from this fear?

Honestly, I don’t look forward to hearing the details of people’s sex lives at every party I attend. However, I don’t want to hear how gluten gives people diarrhea, or how no knead bread is our future. I’d love to see a world where everyone understands that sex is natural and everyone does it in more or less the same ways.

I truly believe there is someone for everyone who wants one and that we don’t need perfection in order to be happy. I’d be afraid to be with someone who was perfect – imagine how badly I’d compare.

We are all different. We look different, we talk with different accents (or languages), we have varying talents and gifts and we all have areas in which we struggle. The important thing is to find someone who best meets our needs and treats us with respect. Your needs could be to be with someone attractive or someone intelligent or someone with a huge dick or someone with tiny breasts or someone with a witty personality or someone who loves being a nudist – as many traits as I could come up with, there would be someone who could meet that need. Don’t give up!

My mind kept saying, “Get real, woman!” Unless we could write a contract between us as a couple that said you can fuck but not talk and you couldn’t fuck the same one twice because then there might be an emotional tie, it would be unworkable. Human nature does have a part to play in this sex business. The woman needs to realize that the way she met her husband and eventually married him is the same way her husband is going to meet other women and she’s going to meet other men. Why wouldn’t natural instincts of caring and even love develop between them?

Don’t misunderstand, I believe that everyone deserves a great sex life and I also believe that we go through life once and to live it always hankering for passion, intimacy and plain old fucking is wrong. I think infidelity comes from lack of attention, approval or sex-using another person to fill the inner emptiness and take away the inner loneliness. Lack of sexual satisfaction in the context of marriage is one reason why partners cheat. I think couples should discuss what will happen if one partner’s sex drive takes a dump. Should the partner who still feels sexy be required to sort out sexuality with a good right hand or a BOB ? It’s time humans realized that one person might not be able to meet a person’s needs physically or emotionally.

Would you sign an infidelity contract with your husband or partner? Would you prefer that your partner talk about his or her physical or emotional needs not being met before they found someone else to help? I would.

There are millions of men on the internet looking for a woman who still enjoys passion and intimacy in her life so what’s happened to all these wives and girlfriends who no longer feel sexy? Far too few of them seek any help dealing with their lack of any sex drive whatsoever.

Psychological Reasons

Lack of confidence in themselves or living with a lot of stress are two of the biggest causes of low sex drive in women. Marriages that started out with a slender bride but since that day she’s gained 100 pounds often end up sexless because the woman is so ashamed of how she’s let her body go. She knows she’s overweight so telling her to lose weight so she’ll feel sexy is only going to add more guilt on top of how she feels already. Take a different approach. Take the time to remind her that it’s the sexy woman inside her that excites you so much. Help to build her confidence by not reminding her that her ass is the size of a volkswagen and then asking her for sex. She’s definitely not going to feel in the mood.

Physical Reasons

Did you know that women who walk at least 30 minutes a day or exercise 20 to 30 minutes a day have a higher sex drive than women who don’t get much exercise at all? If your sweetie goes from one chair to another and then to the bed, why not encourage her to walk with you every night or join a gym together. Not only will you both feel better but you’ll get more sex.

The Pill

I was a young woman when the pill was introduced. Knowing we couldn’t get pregnant was a real boost to the sex drive for me and my friends. However, it also turned out that when we were on the pill all those fake hormone levels removed that peak sex drive boost we were all accustomed to during ovulation. The pill is improving every year but it’s still causing problems for some women.

Prescription Drugs

Most all drugs have side effects and a common one is reduced sex drive. Most blood pressure drugs kill a woman’s sex drive – so if a woman is on one (or two) that seem to leave her sexless, she should try another drug to see if she can control the hypertension and still have a good sex life. Antidepressants, antihistamines and many other drugs alter a woman’s sexuality. The good news is there are different drugs for nearly everything and if one type lowers your libido – try another.

Women who no longer feel sexy also feel really guilty about it even if they don’t say anything. If you’ve got a woman like this, complaining, arguing or getting angry isn’t going to help. The woman needs understanding and encouragement to seek help for the situation. It’s not normal not to feel sexy some of the time.

1. Let him watch you undress. Make sure you’re dressed in some pretty sexy duds and then slowly undress yourself while he’s watching. Run your hands over your body as you uncover each bit – it lets him know that you love your body around he does. You’ll drive him nuts

2. Turn on some music that turns you on and then grab him and hold him tightly. If he’s a dancer, dance around the room but always keep your pelvic areas touching. If he’s not a dancer, stand in one spot and sway – the result will be the same.

3. Prepare him hours beforehand by sending him a text message that says, “Thinking about you right now and I wish I could have you naked, right here, right now.” Or you’ll just be send, “I’ve just showered, I’m naked and all sweet smelling and the only thing missing is you.”

4. Take him shopping for underwear and tell him that you’ll wear whatever he buys provided that it’s comfortable. It will be a very arousing hour or so. When you get home, model your purchases for him.

5. Put a note in his pocket before he leaves for work that says, “Dinner at 7, sex at 8 – don’t be late.” I can almost guarantee that he won’t be late for dinner.

6. When you go out for a romantic dinner, lean over and whisper you have no panties on and wait for him to figure out how to reach up there and find out. He’ll think this is really sexy and you’ve done it just for him.

7. Whisper in his ear and gently nibble and lick his ear while you tell him how sexy you think he is or how good he looks to you right that moment. It will send shivers all over him.

8. If he’s not paying close enough attention to you. Stand up and begin taking your clothes off as you go to the bedroom.. leaving a trail of clothes for him to follow. When he gets to the bedroom he’ll find you naked and waiting.

Have you got foreplay ideas that meet your needs when you want to get your man in the mood? If you’re a guy, what does your partner do for you that will give average folks some ideas?

I thought so. Me too.

With nearly everything else in life, there’s a handbook to tell you how to be really good at things but with sex, you’re pretty much on your own — except for those videos. I think porn videos have a lot to answer for in the way they portray women and real sex.

For instance:

* All women must be fine as hell and not older than 19. OK, 20 but then they’re MILFs.
* They must have platinum blond hair and fake boobs (over the size of DD).
* Women are all either bi or lesbian.
* Lingerie is simply not sexy and must be removed as quickly as possible.
* As soon as any sexual activity starts every shred of clothing (remember, lingerie is not sexy) must be removed. Ok, one exception — high heels must be worn throughout the entire sexual experience.
* All men must sport a mustache or marines haircut and leave their socks on especially during the good bits.
* If there is a black male involved he will be hung like a horse.
* Upon orgasm, men must ejaculate at least 27 pints
* Extremely beautiful women really want to have sex with a 67 year old man
* During sex a woman must maintain a word to swear ratio of at least 1:17 respectively
* Only overweight men who also have a severe case of gut overhang like to have sex
* Women must always moan from pleasure while giving another man oral sex.
* Women usually apologize to a man by giving him a blowjob.
* All women can have an orgasm by just taking off their clothes.
* One sexual position or act is not good enough. Four different positions in a couple of minutes is what EVERYONE else does
* Men are never impotent.
* When performing oral sex on a woman, 10 seconds is more than satisfactory.
* Women who get caught masturbating by a strange man will not scream with embarrassment; instead she will insist he have sex with her.
* Women are indifferent as to where a man’s ejaculate lands
* Women always moan uncontrollably when giving a blowjob.
* Women always orgasm when men do.
* Men always groan “OH YEAH!” when they orgasm.
* Women always make Oooohhh Ahhhhh noises when they have sex.
* Asian men don’t exist, but their chicks are HOT!
* Nurses tend to give blow jobs as an exam method.
* Nuns are always wild and eager for sex.
* Children do not exist
* Women never have headaches… or periods.
* Women always look pleasantly surprised when they unzip a man’s fly and find a penis there.
* Every woman on the planet is bi
* Pubic hair is just a myth.
* If you offer them enough money, all women are willing to have sex with you
* There are no such things as natural finger nails.
* The man always decides on the position, no objections.

Real people have real sex. Women have periods. Some women do not want to be spanked. Some couples can have sex without swearing. Some women don’t have sex with everyone who comes to the door. If you’ve been treating your sex life like you see in a porno movie, it’s time for a re-think.