I was sitting at the shopping center waiting for family who were off doing God knows what and making the old bitty wait. To be honest I didn’t mind waiting because I got to perve at all the men with great butts but that’s not what I wanted to discuss here today.

As I sat there watching all the men, I noticed what many of them were doing.. they were watching all the pretty women, especially the scantily clad ones. I know I shouldn’t admit this but when I gazed — below — I could tell that several of these men were getting boners while they were perving the women. It didn’t seem fair. I was doing the same thing to them but nobody could tell what I was doing.

Of course this encouraged me to continue my investigation as to how many times I could find “Mr. Tripod” in public situations. Not to chuckle and point, but just for pure curiosity about human sexuality. Well, deary me, it happens everywhere. I was at the ice cream joint in town and this woman came in with spandex shorts and a very visible g-string poking out the top and the guy waiting for his cone decided to create his own in his pants. I wanted to chuckle, I really did.

The results of my investigations are that it happens to most every man at one time or another and some are embarrassed and cover it up and some are really proud of what nature has provided and want to show it off to anyone who’ll look. I looked. A sexy old broad has to keep up her reputation.

In today’s Melbourne, Australia The Age newspaper is an article about a pastor and his wife who are having a sex seminar at their church. A flyer promising “the best sex you’ll ever have” has been sent to 25,000 households in a Melbourne suburb. The flyer’s headline is “The best sex you’ll ever have.”

The seminar is part of a 4 week series on sex, marriage, adultery and pornography.

The headline is only part of the shock to church goers. The graphic on the flyer is to the right. Now I don’t know about you but that sort of photo is something you’d see on a site like ours at SexyAds.com or some other site with Cosmo like content.

I think this is a fantastic idea. According to the paper, the pastor, Andrew Newbold, and his wife Megan posed for the photo.

I couldn’t agree more with the premise of the seminar. The Newbolds say sex is supposed to be fun, so why does it feel like everyone else is having all the fun? It’s not supposed to leave you feeling guilty, frustrated or empty.

“Lots of people have asked, ‘why would the church want to talk about sex in the first place?’ That’s a ridiculous question because everyone else is talking about it, and it’s something God created,” Mr Newbold says.

Newbold acknowledges that the current generation is exposed to more sexual information and activity than any other in history, mostly due to the availability of adult content on the internet.

This is way past due. I’m so bummed out when I see people say that sexuality shouldn’t be part of a dating site. I just want to scream that it IS about the sex. It shouldn’t be all about the sex but to ignore sexual compatibility is to doom the relationship.

I commend the Newbolds and wish them a lot of luck. They obviously have the pulse of their community because they’ve built their church from a membership of 16 to 350 in a short amount of time.

That was the subject line in an email I received last night. The mail came from a man who has been a member at SexyAds.com for a couple of years. Here’s his mail and then my reply.

Hi,

I don’t know if you can help me but tonight I talked with a few people in chat who suggested that maybe you could give me some good advice. I’ve been married for 16 years and for the past 7 years we haven’t had more than what I call holiday sex. We have sex on my birthday, New Year’s Eve and the first night we’re away on vacation. Other than that, there is always an excuse. She’s too tired. Sex hurts. The kids might hear us. She has a cold. Her back aches. It’s always something. When I say that it’s okay if we don’t have sex but could she hold me and touch me, I get the movie star hug with air kisses on each cheek.

I’m not an old man. I shower every day. I’m not rude. I’m respectful. But shit - I’ve got needs and they aren’t being met at home. I love my wife. She’s my best friend and we’ve been together for a long time. We have 2 terrific kids and I’m not ready to walk away from them just because I can’t get sex. I have to admit that I’m thinking about it. I find myself day dreaming about sexual encounters with women I see on the street or at work.

So, do you have advice for someone like me?

I have received a few letters like this over the years and every time I can almost feel his pain. It’s not always the man’s fault but I think there are a few things a man can do to improve his sexual life.

Hi,

Yes, I think I can offer you some ideas that might make a big difference to increase intimacy in your relationship. First of all, you can never change another person and that includes your wife. You can only change yourself, which will change the situation. It always changes the situation when you change yourself. What remains to be seen is if your wife will react to the changed situation. You can only try.

How to change yourself? There are a few things that can make a difference. First of all, women relate to the spoken word. We all talk with our friends but we’d rather talk with our husbands. The problem is that often they hear “blah blah blah shoes blah blah $97 blah blah kids blah blah blah chicken.” Out of a conversation like that my husband might understand that I bought a pair of shoes for $97, the kids called and we’re having chicken for dinner. He does respect me by at least pretending to listen but I would prefer that he commented once in a while.

Start out with a conversation about everything and nothing. Sometime during the conversation, catch a glimpse of the woman you married and tell her how glad you are that she’s in your life and that she still trips your trigger. Do nothing else. Don’t try to get her to have sex with you. Just let that comment sink in.

On another day, help her clear up the dishes after dinner and while you’re helping, give her a hug. Just a loving hug and a peck on the cheek. You’re doing two things here. You’re showing that you respect the work she does by helping and you’re showing your love in a non-sexual way. She needs to feel loved in order to feel sexy. Remember, no push for sex.

After a few days of this, ask her out on a date. I know it sounds funny, but you’re reaching for that sexy woman you married. She’s still in there but she’s rusty.

Take her to dinner, to a movie, to the theatre or a concert, but make sure you have everything ready for sex when you get home. Get some massage oil, bath oil, sex toys or whatever you think she’d enjoy as a long foreplay. This is going to be all about her and if you’re lucky, it will be about you too.

Try not to place blame for the lack of sex on her. This is a relationship and just as you wouldn’t blame her for having a cold and ruining a vacation, don’t blame her because her sex drive is sick.

Give it a go and write back and let us know how it went, ok?

I was really surprised to see this cover from The Georgia Strait, a Vancouver weekly newspaper. It’s a paper that targets the young adult market.

The lead story, (at the upper right of the couple) appears to be somewhat sensationalist, with headlines screaming out to potential readers: “Got Sex?”

But, if you read on, the sub-head states:

“For a growing number of young adults, swinging (and we’re not talking about going to the park here.) and spankings appear to trump monogamy and the missionary position.”

I am always quite cynical about newspaper articles announcing new trends with little hard evidence (no pun intended). But there does seem to be an up-swing in recreational spanking among people seeking more exciting, less mainstream ways of expressing their sexuality. This is especially true in the 20-30 age group. While there is a segment of older people seeking new ways to add excitement to their sex lives, there’s still a large proportion of vanilla couples. Maybe they’ll catch on soon!

If you’ve noticed how many blogs are available that talk about our changing sexuality — including mine! It’s because keeping our sex lives interesting and exciting is an important way to keep our relationships interesting and exciting.

Have you got a hankering for a spanking or to be tied up and forced to do all sorts of kinky things? Tell your wife, husband or lover! If you don’t want to do that, you can tell us right here right now.

Oh come on, bare it all.

Circumcision, the removal of the foreskin, is perhaps the oldest identified and currently the most frequently performed elective surgical procedure for males throughout the world. Egyptian mummies and wall carvings offer some of the earliest recorded history of circumcision dating over 15,000 years ago.

This was a routine hygienic procedure in America and in recent years there has been a movement to stop this apparently medically unnecessary practice. But does having sex with an uncircumcised man differ at all from sex with a circumcised man?

Some men are good lovers and some aren’t, and the way their penises are “arranged” often doesn’t matter at all. My female friends and I have had some pretty frank discussions on all topics. Recently the subject of circumcision came up, and it was really interesting. Some said it feels different, some said it didn’t.

One of my friends (who’s been around more than the rest of us) said having sex with a man without his foreskin does feel different. The ridge on the head of his penis feels very good to her. A couple of the women were concerned with cleanliness as she didn’t want “to chew down on a cheesy cock”. Nuff said.

What’s your opinion? For me, regarding which gives greater sexual pleasure, it really is a matter of personal taste. Whether covered or clipped, you can still enjoy a great ride.