Relax with a massage
In my job I hear from a lot of men who say that they’re on our site because they aren’t getting any sex at home. It’s not just one or two or just a few men, it’s many many men who come to us with this story. We hear it from women too, but not so much.
Why is it that so many women poop out in the sex department? There are some people who’ll tell you that it’s the way women are wired. We want sex til we get a man and then once we have babies we don’t really need them any more.
I think it’s way more basic than that. I think today’s lifestyles are so hectic that sex is always on the back burner. Do you make time for a loving, sexual experience like you did when you were first intimate? Maybe you do but the rest of us don’t.
Imagine a woman with 2 or 3 kids and a home to care for and a job. She gets up early, makes breakfast, gets the kids ready for school, does the dishes, makes her bed, showers and goes to work. She works a full day and she might be on her feet for much of it. She leaves work and stops at the grocery store to pick up supplies for dinner and goes home.
The kids need her attention, the house looks like crap and she’s got to start dinner. By the time dinner is cooked, eaten and cleaned up, there’s the kids’ homework to check and stories to listen to and then stories to read, there’s laundry to do and maybe a bit of vacuuming if there’s any energy left.
She falls into bed and her husband can’t understand why she doesn’t want him any more.
Now take this same woman and when she falls into bed, her husband who loves and appreciates her knows how tired her body is and gives her a wonderful massage. He takes the time to get the knots out of her shoulders and doesn’t instantly decide that the most tired spot on her body is between her legs. Trust me, she’ll see right through that one. If he relaxes her body her exhaustion will lift and she might initiate sex all on her own.
Once he has touched her with loving hands and she’s relaxed for the first time that day, she will want to hold him and kiss him. I’m of the firm belief that if you put a man and a woman together in that situation, sex just happens. It happens because both want the sensations and release that sex gives.



We all know someone, maybe even ourselves, who stick in shitty relationships for all sorts of weird reasons. They’re miserable, their kids are miserable and yet they stay like they’ve been nailed to the chair. They look awful and they often feel awful.





