For years I’ve been interested in the power of the mind and how our minds create our own reality. I began with a book by Shakti Gawain called Creative Visualization and used the techniques she wrote about and my life changed completely within months. So completely that I stopped doing any meditaion at all and got on with my new life in a different country and in a new relationship. Perhaps I felt that I got what I wanted and never needed meditation or relaxation again. I honestly don’t know why, but I just stopped.

Then my son gave me a copy of The Secret that he’d been given by the restaurant he works for, Ted’s Montana Grill in Decatur, Georgia - just outside of Atlanta. He told me that it was a bit unbelievable for him but I might be interested since he remembered that I once did a bit of meditation. I watched the movie and it brought back a lot of what I’d learned previously but there was much I didn’t agree with.

I believe that everything in the universe is made up of energy and we’re all a part of it. I’m not sure why we’re born but I am convinced that once we die, our bits that think return to universal intelligence. I think we’re all here to do good for each other and the world we live in so that when we leave it’s a better place than when we arrived. The Secret teaches that it’s all about us - what we want. There is no right or wrong, we only need to feel good and we can get everything. “It’s as easy to manifest a castle as it is to manifest a button,” we’re told.

So I continued looking for something that was a better fit for what I believed - my gut feeling for how life works. I was raised as a Roman Catholic but once I was divorced I was a non-person to them unless I wanted to fil out long forms, get my family and friends to fill out long forms - all to say that I hadn’t had a “real” marriage so I could stay in the church. That was a lie. I had had a real marriage but it didn’t work. If the church felt that in order for me to remain a member in good standing I had to endure physical and emotional abuse OR remain single and celibate from the age of 27, that wasn’t the God I felt I knew.

I stumbled upon Jose Silva’s Ultramind System not too long ago and it’s a perfect fit for what I believe. I won’t deny that bits of it are a bit airy fairy but maybe that’s because I haven’t learned enough or practiced the meditations enough. In just a short time I’ve realized improvements in how I feel, my business is doing better and my relationship with my husband is better than ever.

My plan now is to investigate how our minds can help to create better, more loving relationships. People the world over are looking for positive, nurturing partners to share their lives with and maybe this is a tool to make it happen easier and faster than anything they’ve tried before. If you have tried The Secret, Shakti Gawain or Silva Ultramind, I’d love to hear from you.

Someone sent me a link to TylerCruz.com to have a look at a post he’d written about blogs and advertising. The guy is spot on, I reckon. He advises people with new blogs or even old blogs with very little readership to think about removing all their Google adsense ads or linkshare banners or any other advertising and replace them with links to traffic partners. It’s really simple if you think about it. He’s certainly an up and coming blog advertising hotshot.

He reminds us that YouTube.com was sold recently for $1.6 BILLION dollars and they never had the first bit of advertising on their sites. They did it all by concentrating on always making their site look or work better.

While I was on Tyler Cruz’s site, I had a look around to see what else he might be pontificating about that could potentially help ME get more traffic to FeelingFlirty.com and I had to laugh. He showed photos of his condo and of his stats and to be honest, he’s not doing a whole lot better than I am with my blog. So maybe we’ll be able to help each other. One of these days I’ll link to him from a post that I place on my other site, SexyAds.com, and get him exposure to over a million sets of eyes.

What a load of crap this instant buzz thing is. I was sent a link from some company I bought something from so I thought I’d have a look. It’s a toolbar that displays text ads and the more you look at of other peoples’ ads, the more your ads are shown on others’ toolbars. So far so good. So I downloaded the software, easy peasy. I started to install it and here’s where their rules are - no adult content. Well, instantbuzz doesn’t say what adult content they won’t allow, so even though I have no adult content photos, my blog does talk about some pretty adult things, hence I did not agree to their terms of service and closed the window. If they weren’t going to run an ad for this blog, they could go stuff themselves.

Guess what? Instantbuzz loaded itself on to my computer anyway. Ive got a big red instantbuzz toobar. Now if I had to agree to their terms of service to get this toolbar and I decidedly did not - what kind of crap is that? I was quite indignant that it could install without my even finishing the setup. I went to control panel and tried to delete the program. Instantbuzz pops up a window that says, “in order to uninstall instantbuzz you must reboot.” Ok, says I, I’ll reboot.

I get back on and here’s a window that says, ONE TIME ONLY.. UPGRADE TO whatever it is they are trying to sell at $97 a month! I’ll never see this offer again if I close this window. CLOSED AND QUICKLY SO ! Then I get another popup that says, hey wait — I have another offer and if you close THIS window you’ll never get this offer again. So I closed it and did it quickly!

Then I get another popup asking me to continue with my registration - no delete whatsoever. So I clicked control panel, uninstall instantbuzz and you know what happened.. go back to guess what and re-read cause it happened again and again.

Then I went to instantbuzz help desk. It says I must register in order to get a reply. I entered my details and clicked register. Thanks for registering, click here to submit your problem. I clicked here and I get back to the original login page that says, your details were not correct, please try again. I entered my details again and got to the next page that said welcome and then got sent back to the page that said my details were not correct. It did this 4 times before I clicked another link to do something else and got to the submit a problem page.

I still haven’t received a reply how to get this stupid instantbuzz toolbar off my computer. Instantbuzz is probably full of spyware too. Anything that you can’t delete is pretty suspect if you ask me. Anything that will install itself on your computer without you agreeing to it, is pretty suspect to. If you’ve got it on your computer, I hope it works better for you than it does for me. I’ll never click anything on it. What a waste of my time.

I feel better now that I’ve said all this here. What’s your experience?

***Added*** I still have had no reply from instantbuzz and it’s been nearly 24 hours. 24 hours with this stupid instantbuzz toolbar popping up every time I open a window. I have found that my spyware checker concluded that it was suspect and that I should delete it. Pareto logic who makes xoftspy said I could delete it using their program.

Uh oh, it didn’t delete. I tried again, it didn’t delete. So much for saying it would delete it. So off I went back to google instantbuzz yet again to try to get this damn thing off my computer. I’m using Vista (another problem altogether) which has Windows Defender and one of its favorite things to do is block your spyware program from deleting anything bad from your computer. I followed instructions I found on the net to disable Windows Defender and then ran Xoftspy again and VOILA!!! The damnable instantbuzz is finally removed from my computer. No thanks to instantbuzz.com though! Wankers

It’s true, I swear it. That’s what I heard at a party I went to last night. Not ONE woman admitted to farting. Several of the couples at the party were only dating, so of course those women DEFINITELY didn’t fart. The men were all boozed up and boasting about silent but violent explosions and the almighty flap the covers nights, but not the women. It reminded me of the first time I went to Japan and went into a toilet in the lounge. It had one of those toto toilets and there was a button that just made flushing noises so any escaping noise would be covered up.

Humans pass half a litre of fart gas a day. So if men admit to it, where does it go in women? The truth is that men and women fart an equal amount but men take pride in it and women are embarrassed by it.

Can a woman cover up a fart?
There is a company called Fartypants that sells underwear designed to absorb the odor of farts. Another ploy is to blame the dog or cat, if one should be present, or complain about how the wind must be blowing from the direction of the paper mill.

As for the sound… if you are in a large group of people, act oblivious and innocent, or glance quickly at the person next to you, as if you think he/she did it. Other strategies include coughing or suddenly moving your chair so that people think that they misheard the fart. If you are with one other person, you can act as if nothing happened, and the other person may believe he was mistaken in thinking he heard a fart.

If you’re worried about farting loudly in a public restroom, you can use a handful of loose toilet paper, cover your butt hole and it will muffle the farting; it’s called the ‘Buff Muff’!

What about farting during sex?
I think it all depends on how long the relationship has lasted. If it happened to me, we’d just laugh uncontrollably and get on with the job. My pal Martha said she lost a relationship because the first two times she and this guy she was dating had sex, she farted. It was more than he could take he said, it just wasn’t ladylike.

Everyone farts, it’s only human.

When I first read the heading “Child protection from sexy ads gains favour” I instantly went white inside as all the blood drained from my body in one quick second. All quickly was refreshed when I realized the article in The Age newspaper in Melbourne, Australia wasn’t about our website SexyAds.com.

The article is about removing children from sexually charged advertising and I think that’s a brilliant thing to do. As the owner of a website with adult content, we go way out of our way not to have children on our site that I’m amazed that others don’t do this, especially on bus enclosures, billboards and magazines. Kids can’t ignore them. We don’t permit anyone under 18 to join our site and if they lie and they’re caught, we delete and ban them from coming back. We also delete anyone who submits a photo that we think is “young looking.” I’d rather be wrong. Kids need to be kids until they’re old enough to make their own choices. We don’t show any member submitted adult images to anyone outside the special paid section.

On an amusing note, over the past 10 years we have had a few people who’ve written to us and told us that their kid had stolen their credit card and joined our site and please delete and give them their money back. We always do our best to accomodate if the people acknowledge that their kid is at fault. One guy really pissed me off once when he said that his kid joined our site and stole his credit card for 3 months and we were horrible people for having this website online and destroying his child. I looked the “child” up and the membership was a 44 year old man who had logged in 129 times from a major corporation’s IP address and had written to 76 women. Our experience is that if a kid joins, he’s 18-21. He doesn’t join as a 44 year old man!

So I wrote to him and said that his problem wasn’t that his kid saw a naked person, his REAL problem was that his kid was a thief!

I should have said that I thought he was a crook but I let that slide. Normally I’m a mild mannered person but every once in a while someone can get on my last nerve.