I received these tips from a very dear friend of mine at SexyAds.

We hear from a lot of women that the man they are with is nearly perfect but he doesn’t kiss them the way they like to be kissed. Maybe women don’t kiss the way men like too so this could work both ways.

Take can take control:
You and your partner are kissing. You gently start to take control by placing your hands on either side of his face, holding his cheeks and guiding his lips.
In doing so, you are in control of the amount of pressure and motion of his mouth and, in turn, he feels the warmth of your hands. This can be especially good if your partner’s mouth is too loose or open for you.

Then it is your responsibility to kiss him as you LOVE TO BE KISSED.

Get him to follow your lead:
Stop when you want and tell your partner, ‘I just love kissing. It’s the one thing that gets me ______________ [fill in the blank; for example, you might add the word 'hot' or 'turned on']. Then look at him and say, ‘Will you show me what it feels like to be kissed by me?’

Introduce a fantasy:
Tell him that you had a dream the other night about how he was kissing you — and it was fabulous. Whether or not you actually had this dream, what you need to do is have an idea about what you want to ask for. So think ahead to how you want to blend the new kissing style or technique you want with what he already does. That way, you’re not asking for a completely different thing and won’t risk offending his ego. If you can’t manage to explain what you want fully using your dream, tell him, ‘You did something like this’ and then show him what you want.

Praise your partner:
Let your partner know when he has kissed you right.

If he does something you really like, repeat it on him and ask if it feels as good to him as it did to you. To tweak his style, it’s important that you use one-word directions, such as ‘lighter,’ ‘left,’ ‘right,’ etc. Men have shared with me that sentence-long guidance feels like criticism, while one-word comments sound like gentle direction. Remember that while you may feel that the more you tell, the better, he will be hearing your words through his own sexual gender filter.

Repeat:
Don’t assume that one time through will work. Men often need reminding (yes, even when it comes to better kissing and better sex). Repeat exercises 1-4 as often as necessary. And enjoy!

Remember back in the olden days before the Internet people had three places to get their sex information – from family, friends and the family doctor. In a survey run by Adam & Eve, an adult toy retailer on the net, most people – a whopping 70% of us, search the net for answers to sexual questions. 20% of us go to men’s and women’s magazines or ask friends. Only 10% ask their doctor or a member of their family.

Frankly, I would be in that 70%. I can get all the information I want in the comfort and privacy of my room. The only time I would ask my doctor a question about sex is if I was having a problem. I have had a problem in the past and yes, I did go to the doctor. I worry that there are people who do have problems with function and desire and they won’t ask their doctor about it because of embarrassment. A few moments of embarrassment can make the difference in a great relationship and an okay relationship.

Where do you get your sexual questions answered?

Studies tell us that when we meet a person of the opposite sex (or the same sex if that’s your game) online we build a virtual intimacy not unlike dating in person. There is a reason so many men and women engage in cybersex when they’re on the net. It’s not because they only want to explore their sexuality – they do it because it works for them. They can get sexually aroused by talking sexy with another person.

The worry then is when two people who’ve been doing the virtual rumpy pumpy finally meet in person. It’s a first date but these two people have discussed their sexuality for hours and hours. They feel a sense of emotional ownership of a relationship that may or may not exist for the other person. They meet, they kiss and off they go to experience sex in a physical sense.

Why do I say worry? When you’re having sex with one partner exclusively as in marriage or long term partnering, most people don’t worry about safe sex. I know people should but trust has come in and the need to be safe doesn’t seem so important. What then for someone who has had net sex for months and is “sure” that the other person is being honest about no sex with anyone else? They have unprotected sex, that’s what they do.

According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than 50% of women use a condom when having sex with a partner for the first time. I would guess that it drops to much less than 50% for those women who’ve had a virtual intimate relationship. Ladies, be safe. Always us a condom when having sex with someone new. It just doesn’t make sense to do otherwise.

Is your social life stuck? Too many people today are so busy with their job and their family and their commitments that they don’t spend much time at all being social. Some people are shy at first and find making friends uncomfortable or difficult. All of us who are in the slim social life group should make a pact that THIS YEAR is going to be the year that we break out of the rut we’re in. Here are a few tried and tested tips for making changes you can be proud of in your life.

Spend some time soul searching about what things you really enjoy doing. We all do things because our friends enjoy them or our family enjoys them but in this instance, let’s focus on what WE enjoy doing. Make the list as long as you want. Maybe you want to meet people in the swinger lifestyle or meet people who enjoy cooking and dinner parties or people who like to play chess or anything you can think of. There are people out there who’d welcome a new friend. Few people have too many friends.

Even if you’re shy, making friends is easy. You make friends by repeated exposure to one another. Check out an online chatroom or forum and you’ll see what I mean. People are friends because they chat back and forth nearly every day. That’s how friends are made on and off-line. If you go to a swingers club every weekend, you are bound to make new friends. If you play chess every Wednesday, you’re bound to make friends. It takes getting off your butt and doing something about it. We ARE in control of our lives if we want to be.

Still got your list of things you like to do? Join a dating site or social networking site and find someone to share these interests with! If you love seeing foreign films, write that in your profile or ad and find someone else who enjoys doing that too. Once you have a friend and if it’s a friend of the gender you’re attracted to and you like each other.. nature takes over and does all the work for you.

Every city has a newcomers club or association. It doesn’t matter if you’re not new – go along anyway. You’ll find other people who are looking to expand their circle of friends.

Don’t spend this year doing the same old things the same old way. Create the life you want. It’s more than possible.

Videochat can be a whole lot of fun and people tell us every week how much they enjoyed themselves. Also, we see comments going back and forth where someone is saying how much fun they had last night. A check or two of the cams and some people are always G-rated and some, well, you’ll just have to see for yourself how sexy they can be on cam.

As the Internet has grown over the past 13 years we’ve been in business, a certain videochat etiquette has emerged — created and developed by the users themselves. There are a couple of things to remember when chatting via videocams with a group of people.

Don’t be a leghumper.

I don’t like to be sexist but we don’t have any problems with women going on and on asking a man to take off his clothes or show this bit or that bit. Why?  Because most women don’t ask.  They assume men come from the factory with all the mod cons.

The women who cam have been mentioning how annoying it is when men try to play director. These women are real people and they aren’t working in chat for a living. They’re on cam to enjoy themselves because they love feeling sexy and this is one outlet for sexual expression. Don’t ruin it for everyone by playing director and causing the women to stop videochatting.

No means no.

We’ve had a couple of people write to us at SexyAds.com because this woman or that woman wouldn’t let them view their cam. Tough. That’s how life is. If life were perfect we’d all be millionaires and drive around in fancy cars. How do you get to watch their cams? Be friendly. That makes you appear trustworthy. Begging is never attractive and it really pisses off the rest of the people in the chatroom when someone goes on and on and on begging to view a cam.