We got a new member of the family today and he has no name. The breeder named him Choccie because he’s chocolate brown but Mr. Flirty doesn’t think that’s a manly enough name. I suggested Cadbury but he just rolled his eyes.

I suggesed Eddy.. no, that wouldn’t do.

I suggested Curly.. no, that wouldn’t do.

He’s been home for 2 hours and I’m calling him dog and that won’t do!

He’s a cavoodle. That’s half cavalier king charles spaniel and half poodle. He’s got curly brown hair and a bit of white on his belly and on one foot. Here he is.. so what’s his name??

If you’re thinking, “Geez, don’t those people ever mow their lawn?” You’d be right. Mondays are mow days for me and it was pouring. It rained yesterday too. Today we went dog shopping, hence no mowing today. Hopefully we’ll get it mowed tomorrow so the poor puppy can walk across the lawn without bumping into tall grass and weeds. It’s all volcanic soil so when it rains you can hear the grass grow.

When Aristotle said:

If women didn’t exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning.

Don’t rush to the conclusion that all relationships are a money pit that sucks the life right out of you because that’s not what he meant at all. That might be your personal situation but that wasn’t his.

If women didn’t exist, then men wouldn’t compete for the best one. They wouldn’t be looking for better paying jobs to attract a kinder, more attractive woman. They wouldn’t strive to learn more so they could keep up their end of the conversation with an intelligent woman.

So all you men out there, be glad we exist and love us and cherish us and then we’ll wait on you and spoil you in ways you never thought possible. However, we need to wooed first - and well.

He: Darling, am I the first man to make love to you?

Are you wanting a relationship but not doing the right things to attract him/her? Are you wanting a relationship but afraid to step out in the world because of some fear you have?

I have many clients just like you that seek relationship coaching from me each day to help them figure out why they are alone, not attracting the right person or anybody AND how to use what they have got to be successful in relationships today.

Here are 3 of the steps I teach my clients to begin to be relationship ready. For some people the process is short and for some who need to clear a lot of past relationship and early childhood baggage, it could take a bit longer.

1. Are you attracted to yourself? Ask yourself this question and honestly answer it: Would you want to date you? Would you be attracted to you (your body, your personality and moods, your living situation or environment, your car, your financial situation and/or career path)?

If you answered no to this question and any part of it, you have work to do. You cannot attract the right relationship for you, or man/woman to you when you don’t like or love or accept yourself. Reminds me of what my client shared with me- that she didn’t want to take her clothes off in front of a man. We found out later- this is why she kept sabotaging potential relationships in the beginning stages of dating.

You must either learn to accept and love yourself the way you are, or change the thing you don’t like about yourself to something you love and accept. Easy for me to say, sometimes more challenging for you to do by yourself. I coach people everyday to create goals and plans in this area so that they accomplish them successfully. In a recent poll men said what is most attractive about woman of all sizes and shapes- is a woman that is confident and who likes herself and carries herself that way…her energy is sexy. Let me help you with this process!

2. What’s standing in your way? Is your slate clean? Is your luggage emptied? I find many of my clients have lot’s of unresolved issues, beliefs, wounds left over from either their past relationships or from wounds of their childhood. I find that unconsciously and consciously our heart is held hostage (meaning we can’t fully let in or love another) when we have anger, hate, sadness or any unresolved negative emotion towards someone else.

I help my clients identify and work through what’s blocking them from letting in love. I teach them to feel deserving and how to receive and give graciously with- out fear.

3. Do you have thoughts, fears, unrealistic expectations and beliefs holding you back? Many people I see have thoughts fears and unrealistic expectations or beliefs that unconsciously affect how they either move forward or make up excuses not to. I myself realized I was using the excuses: I am too busy I can’t fit a guy into my schedule AND I will slow down my professional and financial growth if I get into a relationship now. But when I really forced myself to dig deeper I realized I had an unrealistic fear of myself that I would not be able to set boundaries and be disciplined enough to keep my momentum moving forward AND I was also afraid of being hurt again, so what I found out was- that I was really just afraid of being vulnerable, intimate and getting attached again. When I resolved these fears I was able to move past these blocks and manifest my current relationship. You can do this too!

This has been a guest post from Edy at www.angerworld.com

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That’s what my best friend Christine says when she talks about the available men in our city. She should know - she’s the flirtiest person I know, outside of myself, of course. So what does that say about the available men - why aren’t any of them “good ones”?

I think there are still good ones out there, folks. My mother (and everyone else’s mother) always said there were more fish in the sea. She never said that the only fish left were the bottom feeders.

So what gives Christine and so many others the idea that all the good ones are taken? I suspect it’s all tied up in our genetic makeup. That and maybe the grass is always greener on someone else’s lawn.

I see women having affairs with married men and I wonder if there is a perception that since his wife chose him, he must have been really ok at some point and if she’d treated him better he wouldn’t be looking around. This is something I disagree with. Maybe his wife chose badly.

What do the available men have to do in order to be considered a good one? If you take the question, Are all the good ones taken, and stretch your mind around it a bit, what it says is we want something we can’t have. So with that in mind, check to see if any of these hit home.

• Don’t hover. Not even a little bit.
• Have a life of your own without her and you won’t need her to be with you constantly, nor will you need to know what she’s doing every moment. If it works between you, you won’t need to consume her.
• Treat her as an equal human being with respect and enjoy being with her. (Women love this.)
• Put in 50% of the effort when dating. Don’t make her decide where to go, when to go, what to do, what to eat, nor should you make all the decisions. It’s fun to share and by sharing you learn what each of you enjoys.
• Let her know you value her opinion on everything, even if you don’t agree with her.
• Be her friend. Listen to her while she talks out her problems. No need to give a solution, just listen.

It also wouldn’t hurt if you could take care of bugs and spiders.