A good friend of mine asked me that the other day. I asked her why she thought I would know. It seems that if you have a site with any content for adults only, then you would know everything having to do with human sexuality. Sadly, it ain’t so. Her question did pique my curiosity though so I started looking around on the net for any information I could find.

There are heaps of sites promoting one pheromone product or another and the hype is pretty outstanding. One site told me that all I had to do was wear this “perfume” into a bar and I could get a man within 5 minutes. I wanted to write and tell him that most women could walk into a bar and flirt for a bit and pick up a man in 5 minutes because it’s not that difficult to do. What is difficult is picking up the right man at the right time. I left that site and continued looking around the net for more sites and more information.

I did find a site that talked about a blind clinical study where the research showed that the men participating added a few drops of liquid into their aftershave every day for eight weeks. The ones who had the concentrated pheromone reported having significantly more sex, hugs and kisses than before the study. The ones with the placebo reported no change at all.

Now I don’t know if the pheromones would work for me, I AM a bit over the age of most people who frequent bars for pickups AND I have Mr. Flirty who wouldn’t appreciate me coming home with strays, but I do wonder what it would do for my sex life at home. Anyone currently dating who has tried human pheromones and can report any success or failure?

We got a new member of the family today and he has no name. The breeder named him Choccie because he’s chocolate brown but Mr. Flirty doesn’t think that’s a manly enough name. I suggested Cadbury but he just rolled his eyes.

I suggesed Eddy.. no, that wouldn’t do.

I suggested Curly.. no, that wouldn’t do.

He’s been home for 2 hours and I’m calling him dog and that won’t do!

He’s a cavoodle. That’s half cavalier king charles spaniel and half poodle. He’s got curly brown hair and a bit of white on his belly and on one foot. Here he is.. so what’s his name??

If you’re thinking, “Geez, don’t those people ever mow their lawn?” You’d be right. Mondays are mow days for me and it was pouring. It rained yesterday too. Today we went dog shopping, hence no mowing today. Hopefully we’ll get it mowed tomorrow so the poor puppy can walk across the lawn without bumping into tall grass and weeds. It’s all volcanic soil so when it rains you can hear the grass grow.

When Aristotle said:

If women didn’t exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning.

Don’t rush to the conclusion that all relationships are a money pit that sucks the life right out of you because that’s not what he meant at all. That might be your personal situation but that wasn’t his.

If women didn’t exist, then men wouldn’t compete for the best one. They wouldn’t be looking for better paying jobs to attract a kinder, more attractive woman. They wouldn’t strive to learn more so they could keep up their end of the conversation with an intelligent woman.

So all you men out there, be glad we exist and love us and cherish us and then we’ll wait on you and spoil you in ways you never thought possible. However, we need to wooed first - and well.

He: Darling, am I the first man to make love to you?

Are you wanting a relationship but not doing the right things to attract him/her? Are you wanting a relationship but afraid to step out in the world because of some fear you have?

I have many clients just like you that seek relationship coaching from me each day to help them figure out why they are alone, not attracting the right person or anybody AND how to use what they have got to be successful in relationships today.

Here are 3 of the steps I teach my clients to begin to be relationship ready. For some people the process is short and for some who need to clear a lot of past relationship and early childhood baggage, it could take a bit longer.

1. Are you attracted to yourself? Ask yourself this question and honestly answer it: Would you want to date you? Would you be attracted to you (your body, your personality and moods, your living situation or environment, your car, your financial situation and/or career path)?

If you answered no to this question and any part of it, you have work to do. You cannot attract the right relationship for you, or man/woman to you when you don’t like or love or accept yourself. Reminds me of what my client shared with me- that she didn’t want to take her clothes off in front of a man. We found out later- this is why she kept sabotaging potential relationships in the beginning stages of dating.

You must either learn to accept and love yourself the way you are, or change the thing you don’t like about yourself to something you love and accept. Easy for me to say, sometimes more challenging for you to do by yourself. I coach people everyday to create goals and plans in this area so that they accomplish them successfully. In a recent poll men said what is most attractive about woman of all sizes and shapes- is a woman that is confident and who likes herself and carries herself that way…her energy is sexy. Let me help you with this process!

2. What’s standing in your way? Is your slate clean? Is your luggage emptied? I find many of my clients have lot’s of unresolved issues, beliefs, wounds left over from either their past relationships or from wounds of their childhood. I find that unconsciously and consciously our heart is held hostage (meaning we can’t fully let in or love another) when we have anger, hate, sadness or any unresolved negative emotion towards someone else.

I help my clients identify and work through what’s blocking them from letting in love. I teach them to feel deserving and how to receive and give graciously with- out fear.

3. Do you have thoughts, fears, unrealistic expectations and beliefs holding you back? Many people I see have thoughts fears and unrealistic expectations or beliefs that unconsciously affect how they either move forward or make up excuses not to. I myself realized I was using the excuses: I am too busy I can’t fit a guy into my schedule AND I will slow down my professional and financial growth if I get into a relationship now. But when I really forced myself to dig deeper I realized I had an unrealistic fear of myself that I would not be able to set boundaries and be disciplined enough to keep my momentum moving forward AND I was also afraid of being hurt again, so what I found out was- that I was really just afraid of being vulnerable, intimate and getting attached again. When I resolved these fears I was able to move past these blocks and manifest my current relationship. You can do this too!

This has been a guest post from Edy at www.angerworld.com

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