I got a massage yesterday from my regular masseuse (first world problems for sure) and asked her how she was doing. She was elated because she had gone on a date with her husband the weekend before. When I asked her how long it had been since they had gone out together, she said, ‘Oh, maybe seven years.” Half way through my deep tissue, I wasn’t sure if she was exaggerating or not, but the pep in her step and excitement in her voice told she probably wasn’t.
My initial shock got me thinking though, how many date nights do you go on? My number wasn’t as high as I had envisioned it to be. Is yours? When I really thought about it, the amount of true dates I go on each year with my partner stumbles somewhere around 10-12. We go out all the time to grab food, run errands and visit people, but those aren’t “date nights.” Date nights are the nights you put a little more effort into, you plan it out and it’s understood that it’s just going to be the two of you. Surprised by my paltry number (we don’t even have kids!), I thought it’s time to pick up this dating game and make things exciting again. Plus there’s even science to back that date night is imperative to maintaining a happy and satisfying marriage (or relationship), so why not?
At this point, I know I and I’m sure, you, have suffered from date idea boredom, so in efforts to help you out I came up with 6 date ideas that are a little different and a whole lot of sexy.
Picnic it up–
Date nights don’t always mean you have to go out. Throw a picnic on the floor of your living room on a cold or rainy night. Get some wine, finger foods and a fire going. Throw down a blanket, turn down the lights and put on something sexy. You just have to fight the urge to turn on the TV when the conversation starts to lull.
Kick it old school–
Back in the good ole days (not that any of us were alive then), men used to actually court women, take them out for fancy drinks and go dancing. They’d put on a suit, the women would put on their best dress and it would be absolutely lovely. This may have been decades ago, but no reason you can’t do it now. Pull out your favorite dress and have him put on his nicest suit. Go out for Manhattans or French martinis at a jazz bar or anywhere there is live music, really. And then get to dancing. It’s cliche, but incredibly romantic.
Does your sex life need a pick me up? Are you or were you a little adventurous in bed? If so, consider hitting up a swingers party for the night. You’ll have to do a little digging online, but you should be able to find a swingers community in your hometown. Go with an open mind and have a few drinks. First timers don’t have to dive in, in fact, you can just watch or hook up with your partner!
Need a little pick me up, but not as extreme as the one above? Totally understandable. Instead, you can make a night of toy shopping together. Go to your local adult novelty store like Adam and Eve and see what turns both of you on. This is a great idea because it will get both of you talking about what you like, what you don’t like and what you want to try. Promise each other that you’ll get at least 2 toys, one you want and one your partner wants to try. Then go home and try them out!
Get your blood flowing–
Have a weird schedule or merely time during the day to go out? Pick an exciting activity that both of you have never done before like white water rafting, repelling, horseback riding, etc. Exciting activities will get your adrenaline pumping. Sparks will fly when you pair a new activity, adrenaline and a partner together. It creates an automatic bond that will make you feel closer and immediately turned on.
Finally, you can throw it back and pretend like it’s back when you first met. Both of you should get dressed and go out alone. Meet at the same bar but sit at different tables or stools. Have a drink or two and then seduce each other. Ask each other all the first date kind of stuff, play hard to get at first, or be overly flirty. Leave together in the end. It seems a little silly, but it can actually be a total turn on.