At some point in our loves the question comes up, “How old is too old?” for certain things. Now for me, I don’t think I’ll ever be too old for lots of things. Truthfully though, I know I’m too old to wear a miniskirt – I think anyone who orders from the back page of Denny’s menu is too old for that. I’m too old to be a Rockette, I’m probably too old to take up boxing and I’m too old to think about becoming a brain surgeon.

I’m probably too old to wear a baseball cap backwards and I’m way too old to give a rat’s ass what anybody thinks about what I do.

I’ll never be too old for sex.

I don’t get caught up in the age thing because it’s just a number. The yearning for sexual intimacy doesn’t go away. You’ll never ever be too old to find someone to be intimate with. I’m 100% convinced of that.

No, it’s not. The people who think that adult dating is bad forget that sex is a part of every healthy, successful relationship. I don’t know of a relationship that doesn’t at least start with a good sex life. Sure, sex is not the most important element of a good relationship but I cannot imagine not wanting it included in a relationship I’m involved in.

I have never advocated sex with strangers or having sex without trust or love or even before marriage. That’s entirely up to the two people involved. I also don’t agree with having affairs. I think honesty should be considered and if you’re unhappy in a relationship or not getting what you need emotionally or physically, then you should try to work it out and if it doesn’t work, then you mutually agree to split and try again with someone new. These are my personal beliefs. I don’t push my beliefs on anyone but I’m entitled to my own.

Am I weird? Maybe, but I have one chance to go through life and I like feeling loved. I like being touched. I like being intimate with my husband. I’m old, I accept that, but I’m not dead, nor do I plan to quit enjoying ourselves until I check out of planet Earth.

I think it’s good that people have a choice on where to meet people. There are some people where the mere mention of sex or sexuality sends them into that forbidden zone in their heads. I can live with that but what I have trouble accepting is that the rest of us who are comfortable with our own sexuality should live our lives based upon what someone else says is wrong.

Nobody would look at people in Sweden or Norway and say that they are perverts or worse, but they are very comfortable inside their own bodies. The idea that nudity is wrong is beyond most everyone’s belief. Same with the Maori in New Zealand. Many people still bathe together because it’s what they’ve always done. So should we tell them that they’re wrong? Probably not. They’d tell us that we’re the ones with the problem.

I’ve heard the silliest excuses as to why people say they couldn’t consider dating over 50. “My goodness, why?” is always my reply! You know the old saying, just because there’s snow on the mountain doesn’t mean there’s not a fire glowing down below!

One friend, who’s husband died a few years ago, has come up with every reason why dating a mature man doesn’t feel right. True, I have to admit that if it doesn’t feel right for her, then it’s not right. Her feelings are always correct for her, but… She said that dating again would be disloyal to her husband who’s been dead nearly 5 years. I keep telling her that he wouldn’t want her to sit alone night after night when she could be sharing fun times with a new friend. He’d be new, not a replacement.

Then she said that “nobody would want to date a woman over 50.” What hogwash that is! There are thousands and thousands of men and women over 50 who are re-entering the dating market. The 50 and over segment at SexyAds.com is just huge. When we created the site we were both nearing 50 ourselves and now that I’m 61, I’m just entering my prime! (just kidding) I keep telling my friend that dating for people over 50 is absolutely commonplace.

Finally she said that men over 50 who were looking for dates only wanted sex. I told her that she’s selling ALL men pretty short with that kind of a statement. Sure, some men have lived for years without sexual intimacy and crave it with every fibre of their bodies and maybe they come on too strong sometimes. However, sex is NOT the only thing all men are looking for. They crave companionship just as much as women do. For me, I can’t imagine a life without someone to share it with. Some people like living alone but I’m not one of them.

Anyway, my friend Myra has decided to give adult dating a trial run. I think deep down she’d love to find someone to laugh with, someone to give her a hug and someone to crank up her engines once again. Fingers crossed!