Can you trust a man with women friends?
I received an email question today from a woman who has recently begun a relationship with someone she met on SexyAds.com. Here’s her edited email, and I’ve changed the nickname for her privacy:
When I met Sharky I thought all my Christmases came at once. He’s tall, dark and handsome, comes from a wealthy family and he’s got a great job as a partner in a law firm AND he lives less than 20 minutes from me. Who knew I’d get that lucky online.
We’ve been dating
for a couple of months now and I’m head over heels for him and when we’re together I think he feels the same way. When we’re not together I have a huge case of jealousy and it’s not attractive.
Sharky has lots of women clients and more importantly a lot of single female friends. He likes to go out to lunch, golf and tennis with them and I keep thinking to myself, “He’s perfect and I want him so all you others stay away!” That’s not practical so I need some of your sage advice.
Ok, first of all, Sharky’s not a young man and he’s been single for quite a while according to his profile. If he had no single female friends, wouldn’t you wonder what he did with himself before he met you? It’s perfectly normal for him to have female friends and yes, he’s probably slept with some of them. Everyone’s got a past. He’s CHOSEN you and that is what should be important to you.
Do you have male friends? If you’re like me, you probably do. Is he jealous of the time you spend with them? I suspect not. He knows you’re a complete person on your own who had a life before he entered it.
Down the road, if there are occasions that are important to you that he be with you and he chooses to be with another woman, then you can get the fangs out. Don’t run around like a witchy hag wanting to know what he’s doing every moment. If you have that much time on your hands, get a hobby or volunteer some time to a homeless shelter, retirement home or hospice. You won’t have time to be jealous then.
You might find that you are constantly suspicious and jealous and if that happens you should consider whether it’s a good idea for you to pursue this relationship. Life is all about being happy, so don’t put yourself in a position where you’re often not happy.
I’m very happy you’ve found someone special and if you handle yourself right, he’ll fall right into your arms whenever you want him. Fuck up and you’re restarting your search, I’m afraid.
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I think a man with women friends It is impossible
Chris Rock said it best: a man is as faithful as his options.
its not right to be over possesive over somebody you love it just hampers the growth of the relationship. if he really loves you he’ll stay. there’s no need to stress yourself over nothing.
I think friendship between man and woman is still posible though nowadays almost always it ends with sex and your don’t have neither girlfriend nor just a friend
Thanks for post, it’s really interesting for me!!!
The basis of every relationship should be Trust. If this word exist in your love dictionary you can cross any number of shady hurdles. Give your partner some space as you also equally need some, he will go nowhere if really loves you or else he simply doesn’t deserves your love.
cool
it depends!
i think not all men are animal - some do have a sense of determining what’s right or wrong or if they are too close to a girl