Attraction & Expectation
I’ve been visiting with my family in the southern US and arrived home last night. It’s a long trip and I had lots of time to sit and think.
How do we humans go about attracting someone to us. I asked myself what had attracted me to my ex-husband and what attracted me to my husband and partner at SexyAds? They couldn’t be more different in personality. Have you ever sat and thought about what it was about YOU that someone found attractive?
I’m a firm believer in you get what you ask for. For my ex-husband I wanted someone to talk to and someone to pay attention to me. I got it. He was obsessed by me and needed to control every moment of my life to ensure I would always be with him. It was a bizarre part of my life but it prepared me for where I am now, I suppose.
When I found John I wanted someone who would be kind to me and treat me with the respect I deserved just for being on the planet. He gave me those and much more, but that’s not the subject for today. It’s about attraction.
Do you know what you’re looking for? If it’s “just for sex”, that’s ok but do you have an expectation you’re going to get it? If there is anything that I notice that’s different about the men and women who get lucky with casual sex on SexyAds and other sites is the expectation that they’ll be successful. Not all the time and not with every person they contact, but they WILL find someone to have sex with.
If you’re looking for a long term partner, do you know what you want? Have you determined in your mind what you’re looking for? If you don’t know, that’s what you’re going to get. Imagine this person as a set of qualities or looks that you really desire and get about attracting this person to you. Once you know in your heart what you’re looking for, it will be heaps easier to write a good ad and pose for a good photo!
Start today!
