Are all the good ones taken?
That’s what my best friend Christine says when she talks about the available men in our city. She should know - she’s the flirtiest person I know, outside of myself, of course. So what does that say about the available men - why aren’t any of them “good ones”?
I think there are still good ones out there, folks. My mother (and everyone else’s mother) always said there were more fish in the sea. She never said that the only fish left were the bottom feeders.
So what gives Christine and so many others the idea that all the good ones are taken? I suspect it’s all tied up in our genetic makeup. That and maybe the grass is always greener on someone else’s lawn.
I see women having affairs with married men and I wonder if there is a perception that since his wife chose him, he must have been really ok at some point and if she’d treated him better he wouldn’t be looking around. This is something I disagree with. Maybe his wife chose badly.
What do the available men have to do in order to be considered a good one? If you take the question, Are all the good ones taken, and stretch your mind around it a bit, what it says is we want something we can’t have. So with that in mind, check to see if any of these hit home.
- Don’t hover. Not even a little bit.
- Have a life of your own without her and you won’t need her to be with you constantly, nor will you need to know what she’s doing every moment. If it works between you, you won’t need to consume her.
- Treat her as an equal human being with respect and enjoy being with her. (Women love this.)
- Put in 50% of the effort when dating. Don’t make her decide where to go, when to go, what to do, what to eat, nor should you make all the decisions. It’s fun to share and by sharing you learn what each of you enjoys.
- Let her know you value her opinion on everything, even if you don’t agree with her.
- Be her friend. Listen to her while she talks out her problems. No need to give a solution, just listen.
It also wouldn’t hurt if you could take care of bugs and spiders.
Ha dating…. it is a totally frustrating situation when you have been out of the loop for some 23 years. Internet dating? Well, I am trying it as I am new to the area I live in, but it seems every woman is waiting to see if something else better comes along.
Why do women feel they can get away with posting pictures that are 10 years old or 25 pounds ago? Do they think we will not notice?
How are those for some questions to ponder?
You have been stopping by often on The Couch, but not getting involved in the conversation. Are you shy? Are you waiting for me to comment here first? If the former, heck, we are all nice people…if the later, well HA I did!
I kill bugs and spiders, but I will not harm a reptile unless provoked
Not all the good ones are taken. I am here and available. hahaha.
I used to hear from my female workmates that all the good ones were either married or gay. Not that theres anything wrong with that, but thats what they said.
Maybe all good ones are taken but you can always borrow. he he he.
nice article. I have a few lady friends who will find it interesting. I’m a self proclaimed good guy and guess what - I’m taken!
I am still available
Can you get them to kill the moths too? Those things are VICIOUS and UGLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!