Accepting Rejection Gracefully

One of the best things a successful dater can be is a good loser. Those who know how to accept rejection gracefully find it really easy to move on to someone new. Rejection can be difficult for some people because they tie “No thanks” to their self worth. People who react badly to rejection seem to act like they didn’t get the person that they wanted and that is a big sign that they are unworthy of attracting someone like that.

That’s SO complicating life and it’s so unnecessary. It just means that person wasn’t the best choice right now. Maybe now isn’t the right time. Accepting a no thanks to a friendship/relationship approach doesn’t have to be ugly. Over the years we’ve seen some pretty nasty communications reported just because the man or woman wasn’t interested.

I wouldn’t want to date an old hag like you anyway
You probably have every disease known to man
You’re too fat to fuck anyway
and my personal pick.. “I would have only had sex with you as a favor and out of pity for the pathetic fuck you are”
This sort of reaction is a defense mechanism some people use to blame the person who’s rejected them of being horrible and then the rejected is rejecting the rejector. (complicated I know.. but you get the point)

Let’s not misunderstand rejection. It’s not a one-way street. How many times in your life have you said to yourself, “that person is just not for me?” It can be for all sorts of reasons but it’s always because something inside you says it doesn’t feel right. Sometimes we don’t know why it doesn’t feel right – it just doesn’t. In those cases would you expect the person who isn’t right for you to feel unworthy of someone as great as you are? I doubt it. Probably very few of us think we’re God’s gift to everyone.

So if you get a no thanks from someone, chalk it up to experience and be kind to yourself and have confidence that the right person WILL come along. Know that everyone, everywhere gets rejected. It’s just part of life. Getting back in the saddle and having another go makes good sense.