A spanked man is a happy man

Those of you who frequent an adult dating site would already know how many people there are who are into the kinkier end of the sexual spectrum and enjoy power sharing during sex. This is where a man or a woman gives nearly total control over what happens. To many women especially it gives them freedom from saying, “I shouldn’t,” and move on to, “I had no control, I had to do it.” It releases them from being “good girls.”

I was reading the local paper this morning while eating breakfast and there’s a big article on a recent fetish study done by a large Australian university. Now this is surprising on two levels. One, our local paper is as mild mannered and vanilla as you’ll ever find and two, it was on page 2 of the paper.

The results of the study show that bondage and discipline may actually make men happier. While only 1.4% of women and 2% of Australian men admit to enjoying dominance, submission and sadomasochism type sex, the researchers expect that many more are engaging in the practice of giving and accepting sexual control of their partner. When asked if they were “into BDSM” many people responded negatively but when asked about sexual practices, many could be accurately placed in the bondage or dominance arena.

People who engage in BDSM were more likely to be sexually adventurous in other ways such as enjoying phone sex, anal sex, oral sex, pornography and sex toys.

The sexual health study also showed that these sexually active and adventurous people reported being happy much of the time. The researchers speculate that it might be that they are more in harmony with themselves and comfortable with experiencing something unusual.

At the other end of the happy spectrum – the least happy – were men who reported being attracted to other men but had never been brave enough to act on that desire and did not perceive themselves as gay.

The study helped to break down the stereotype that people into bondage and discipline were damaged as children and therefore “dysfunctional.” It turns out that BDSM is a sexual interest attractive to a growing minority and not a pathological symptom of past abuse or difficulty with “normal sex.” According to Dr Juliet Richters of the University of New South Wales, “They’ve just got a broader and more unusual sexual repertoire than most.”

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