An article in the local paper today about a woman’s lips made me stop and think that I rarely stop and think about my lips or anyone else’s. Obviously I’ve been living my life all wrong. For those of you who consider your lips or the lips of a woman who’s the object of your interest or affection to be quite important – lips are in for 2011.

Lipstick doesn’t emphasize lip flaws. This is a popular misconception because too many women don’t take care of their lips properly (see first line – work to do). The article says we should be using a nightly moisturizer on our lips and exfoliating with sugar and a few drops of water. (will eating it help, I wonder?) In the morning, more moisturizer and then put on lipstick and blot and THEN use lipliner and a second layer of lipstick.

Another misconception that I’m guilty of is that bright lipstick is too flashy for daytime wear. We’re told that if our day is too boring for bright lipstick we’re destined to be dull people. If makeup is applied properly, a woman can wear any shade of lipstick at any time of the day.

Finally, there’s the myth that putting on lipstick is a waste of time because the color won’t last or it bleeds up on your upper lip. If you’ve got mini wrinkly bits on your upper lip – always use a lip liner and that holds the lipstick where it needs to be.. on your lips.

Ladies, let’s spoil ourselves with a new color this week and then upload photos of our lips. Then we can let the guys tell us if our lips are more (or less) kissable.

Players, we’ve all seen them but too often it’s after we’ve swallowed the bait and the hook. How can you be sure you’re not fooled by someone who’s only in it for the chase? Now I know that there are players on both sides and there are even some couples who are players. Before you all start yelling at me while I’m cleaning and not looking, we get more complaints from women about guys not being sincere than we do from men about women. (spammers and scammers not included here.. they’re a pain in the ass for everyone)

No jitters. Most people meeting for a first date tend to be a bit nervous or awkward but the player is cool as a cucumber in July. He has an air of confidence, he’ll look you in the eye and he’ll give you a prize winning smile. Who wouldn’t swoon over that? You won’t — because he’s not sincere. You’re a notch in his belt and once he knows you’ve fallen for him, he’s off to his next conquest.

Over the top dates. With a player, it’s performance dating all the way. This guy knows what women will fall for, that’s why Internet scammers are so successful. The player will plan events that some people only dream about, but as soon as you’re hooked, he’s off to his next “love”.

Do you know fear? The player is always looking for thrills, always ripping the lid off his adrenaline jar. That’s why you’re so interesting at first. For him, it’s the thrill of the chase and once he’s reached the summit, your player will find you boring.

Players online. We’ve all heard about the guy who sweeps you off your feet through email or chat. I see it every day of the week at SexyAds.com He seems just perfect. Weeks go by and finally you say those 3 little words and tell him you would like to meet him. He tells you sure thing, he can’t wait to touch you, to hold you and more. The date comes and just before he’s to arrive, there’s a problem. He’s so sorry but he can’t make it, but it will be soon. Another date is set and another disappointment. You keep on waiting because he is so caring and romantic online, you can’t imagine that he’s just getting his kicks online and has no intention of meeting you. Is he married? Not all online players are married but many are.

Always stick with a nice guy. He might be a bit awkward at first but he’s friendly, caring and he remembers things you’ve said or important dates. He shows up when he says he will. He isn’t always interested in what will make him happy. A nice guy has friends and he can mingle in a group of people who are more or less accomplished than he is. He fits in wherever he goes. He’s not afraid to say I love you when it’s time and when it’s time he says it enough to make you feel terrific. Finally, a nice guy treats his momma right. In fact, most of the time he likes everyone in his family. A nice guy has been brought up to have a good set of values. You can trust a nice guy.

Someone asked me this week if I thought she remained dateless because she wasn’t as attractive as other women on the site or if I thought she should lose weight or if I thought she had a crappy personality – a whole laundry list of questions. I told her that after reading her blog posts I thought she was afraid of a relationship. She seemed to find fault with nearly every man who contacted her and she appears to be looking for Mr. Perfect before she’d consider going on a date. I wonder sometimes if a person like that is really looking for a relationship because it’s what they really want or it’s something they think they should have because all their friends have one.

I truly believe there is someone for everyone who wants one and that we don’t need perfection in order to be happy. I’d be afraid to be with someone who was perfect – imagine how badly I’d compare.

We are all different. We look different, we talk with different accents (or languages), we have varying talents and gifts and we all have areas in which we struggle. The important thing is to find someone who best meets our needs and treats us with respect. Your needs could be to be with someone attractive or someone intelligent or someone with a huge dick or someone with tiny breasts or someone with a witty personality or someone who loves being a nudist – as many traits as I could come up with, there would be someone who could meet that need. Don’t give up!