Remember back in the olden days before the Internet people had three places to get their sex information – from family, friends and the family doctor. In a survey run by Adam & Eve, an adult toy retailer on the net, most people – a whopping 70% of us, search the net for answers to sexual questions. 20% of us go to men’s and women’s magazines or ask friends. Only 10% ask their doctor or a member of their family.

Frankly, I would be in that 70%. I can get all the information I want in the comfort and privacy of my room. The only time I would ask my doctor a question about sex is if I was having a problem. I have had a problem in the past and yes, I did go to the doctor. I worry that there are people who do have problems with function and desire and they won’t ask their doctor about it because of embarrassment. A few moments of embarrassment can make the difference in a great relationship and an okay relationship.

Where do you get your sexual questions answered?

You knew it was about to happen right? Your sixth sense told you, I’m sure. That’s right. A Sydney neuropsychotherapist (say that 5 times while drunk) performed a 5-year study that has shown that two people can become physiologically aligned (meaning that parts of their nervous systems beat in harmony) despite them never having had physical contact with each other. This gives credence to those who say they have fallen in love over the net. I’ve always said it wasn’t possible but maybe I’m the one who’s wrong.

Trisha Stratford, the neuropsychotherapist who did the research at University of Technology, Sydney, said her research could provide clues about how best to communicate or chat up a potential partner using their sixth sense which as long been suggested but never scientifically identified.

She hooked up 30 volunteers to an electrocardiograph and a finger monitor that measured the moment of alignment. In a similar but more limited study by Harvard Medical School psychiatrist Carl Marci discovered a connection between two people but he concluded that more research needed to be done.

According to Stratford, “‘I replicated his research but then I froze that point of two people becoming one and looked at what was happening in the brain. ‘It was very exciting. When we’re in this moment of oneness or an altered state, the most exciting thing is that a part of the brain called the parietal lobe is fired into action. ‘When this happens we can read each other’s brains and bodies at a deeper level – a sixth sense.”

”It appears that as we connect deeply with someone by using our sixth sense as well as our other senses we are using our creative imagination to read the other person.”

How best to chat someone up? “You need to give them your total, undivided attention,” she said. ”

”Listening is better than talking about yourself, and the state of oneness becomes strongest after two or three meetings.” So the third date is the clincher.

Now, you’re thinking the same thing I did, I bet. If you’ve ever been in a close relationship where your partner/spouse/soulmate seems to say the same things at the same time or finishes your sentences? It’s a bit eerie but I have said on numerous occasions during my relationship with Jayce, “Get out of my head!” Turns out, if this study is proven, he really WAS in my head.

There is nothing like setting the mood in the bedroom. Make sure before you hit the hay, the lights are out and candles are lit. You’ll see that just this little bit of effort to create some sexy atmosphere will excite both of you.

You are what you wear.

In the words of Coco Chanel, “Dress shabbily, they notice the dress. Dress impeccably and they remember the woman.” Now, Coco may not have been talking about night wear, but it never hurts to cast aside that ripped t-shirt for the night and slipping into something a bit more sexy. I’m sure this applies to men as well.

Go shopping.

We are no longer talking about clothes. Both men and women love surprises, so after you have wooed them with dinner, lit the path to the bedroom and dressed up in some of your evening best; have one last surprise waiting for them. Some divine chocolates, chocolate body paint, sexy music, or some champagne will definitely let them know that no one is sleeping early tonight!

Let your lips do the talking.

And we don’t mean aloud. Don’t talk about the pressures of the day, what you have to do tomorrow or any outstanding problems. Give the kisses you shared on your first few dates. We promise, this is one bedtime you won’t be sleeping.

Can older/younger relationships work? Is it ALL about wanting to be with a young, good looking person or an older financially stable person? …and is that a crap sentence anyway?

I was talking with a woman who’s dating a guy 18 years younger than she is and she explained all the stereotypes she’s faced with on a daily basis. She says that when they’re together – alone – they have a magnificent relationship that’s very loving, caring and sexy. When they’re out in public she’s always on guard for the “your son” or “your mother” comments and sometimes has a tough time handling them gracefully.

She asked if I’d had any experiences of age gap relationships in my years at SexyAds. The answer would be yes. Age is just one factor in a relationship. There’s looks, size, sense of humor, intelligence and the list goes on. I don’t believe age is any more or less relevant unless it’s something that’s important to you. For instance, the guy in the relationship with the woman who wrote has always dated older women. He feels more in tune with a woman quite a bit older than he is. Who’s to say he’s wrong or he doesn’t have anything in common?

In the mail she went on to say that she feels that if the situation were reversed and she was a younger woman and he was an older man, nobody would treat them differently. She said she hated the double standard and the boytoy comments and winks she gets, even from her closest friends.

Does age enter as a factor for you? Jayce is 6 years younger than me but I don’t think it’s ever been a problem. He did say the wrong thing not long ago when I said I was really tired and I hated that he could work longer hours than I could. “You ARE older, dear.” Bleh!!

You’ve found a really special person. He or she is special in the way she looks, acts and feels and in the flush of new romance you can’t think of a thing that’s wrong with them. Then you find out about the 2 kids under 10. All sorts of thoughts go through your head.

* The child isn’t mine
* How will the children affect our relationship
* I don’t want to be a father or mother to some other man’s kids
* I want all his/her attention
* Am I mature enough to handle the day to day?

Whoa, back up a bit. You’re dating a someone with wants, needs and desires, just like you have. If the children have a father in their life, they don’t need another parent. This person wants you to be THEIR partner. You’ll obviously treat the children with the same care and respect that you’d show to your own children. Children from a previous relationship don’t always cause problems. Most of the time you learn and grow with them and you have a great time.

I married a guy with a child and there were no problems. He’s grown now but he was only 8 when we met. I never felt like I had to do anything but be a friend and care for him. No regrets whatsoever in accepting a stepson into my life.

If you’re tossing over the prospect of a single parent relationship. Go for it. Life’s what you make of it.