Is it possible to feel okay after a breakup. Absolutely YES! But it’s not that easy. We yell, we cry, we grieve for a lost relationship, we’ll feel a bit lonely and our confidence might have taken a hit. Is there a way on bouncing back from a lost relationship? Certainly yes. We have friends, a job, pets, family, location and our own sense of self and our confidence that we’ll be okay.

When we’re healing from a short or long term breakup, it’s okay to seek out ways to feel better right now. Here are a few ideas:

While you don’t want to put on unwanted pounds, it’s been proven that eating foods that have always made us feel good can help. For me, nothing makes me feel better than turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy and cranberry sauce. It works for me every time I get homesick for the US or miss my kids.

Listen to your favorite music. Create a playlist of tunes that you know you can listen to and feel better. Don’t wallow with “our song” type music. That’s asking for pain and only weirdos do that. Choose music that makes you feel strong, liberated and upbeat.

Watch a feel good movie. It’s hard to feel sorry for yourself when you’re laughing at the antics on the screen. Remember to choose a movie with a positive theme. No film noir or bleeding heart flics, okay?

Soak in the tub. Yep, plan some time to make your body feel good. Smooth over the rough spots, touch your body all over and relax. Pamper yourself. Have some quality “you” time. Remind yourself what a valuable human being you are and there’s nobody else like you on the planet (unless your a twin). You’re important and needed in the big scheme of life.

Take a long walk either by yourself or with your 4-legged best friend. It gets the blood moving through your body and can be similar to meditation to clear out the cobwebs in your mind. I find that I can sort out a lot of problems just by thinking of the problem and letting my mind work it out while I walk.

Breathe. I know, it sounds dumb but every successful person will tell you that conscious breathing does more for them than anything else. It clears their minds and allows them to focus on what’s really important.

Laugh. As the saying goes “Laughter is the best medicine”. Laughter is the easiest way to get a positive attitude.

Plan for your next relationship. Sure, you’re not ready yet but you will be and when that time comes, you’ll know how you want things to be different. You won’t carry baggage from the old relationship to sour the new relationship if you sort out your feelings way before you start looking. Honestly, if you’re over 35 you have baggage of one sort or another but it doesn’t have to affect your new relationship if you deal with it beforehand.

Have you ever been so busy with life or just plain too tired and you just don’t feel sexy? I’m not sure about men but I think I can speak for a lot of women who work a stressful job, have kids and a house to take care of and at the end of a long day, sex is not on their minds. Sleep is.

So how do we go about boosting our sex appeal and desire? Here are a few ways.

1. Find the one thing about your body that you think is really sexy. We’ve all got something that we think is top of the line when it comes to sexy and alluring. Ladies, maybe you have a gorgeous head of hair or beautiful legs or a well endowed bosom. Guys, it might be a great set of biceps or a tight ass. Ask any stripper and she’ll tell you that feeling good about even one part of your body sends off a confident, sexy vibe to your partner.

2. Be mysterious when it comes to foreplay. Sure, your partner has seen every part of your body but just this once, pretend it’s the first time. Don’t rip off your gear and wait for the action but slowly and teasingly wait for your lover to beg to see more of you. Plan how you’ll disrobe ahead of time because the fantasy of it will keep you in a heightened state of sexual tension.

3. Get some exercise. I know we all hate to exercise but remember that high you got the last time you wore yourself out? That was the endorphins kicking in giving you a natural high. You’ll feel good about your body. When you feel good about your body, you’ll feel more confident when you have sex.

4. Visit the toy store. Either in person or online, check out the toys you can use to jazz up your next encounter. Whether it’s a pair of handcuffs, a feather boa, a vibrator or any number of things from the store, you’ll feel sexy twice. Once when you buy it and again when you use it. If you haven’t used toys before, play with one ahead of time. Learn what makes you feel sexy and how you can use the toy to turn yourself on. Then later, pass this information on to your lover.

5. Pamper yourself. Whether you’re a man or woman, pampering just feels good. It validates that you’re worth a soak in the tub, a buff of the fingernails, lotion on your body or whatever you do that makes you feel good about your body.

What’s really important is that you’ll be taking some time away from “work” and “chores” to put yourself first. None of us do that enough because we’re always busy doing things for other people. If you want a great sex life, put yourself first — even if it’s only a bit of time — every day.

Attracting a woman isn’t as difficult as many men perceive it to be. I get letters every week asking me what they are doing wrong because they aren’t making any headway in getting noticed. It is simply the matter of knowing exactly how to attract women and what to say to them.

I’ve read more than a few ads from men with the message that they’re seeking a woman because their wives can’t/won’t give them as much sex as they want. If he thought about that line for just a few minutes, I think he’d realize that the first thing a woman is going to say to herself is, “why is responsibility for his sexual needs my responsibility?” Sure, women like sex as much as anyone else but for the most part, women are seeking the total package – even if it’s an affair.

As what Tiffany Taylor tells us “women are actually quite easy to seduce if you know the unwritten rules of the game”. Men must understand that they present themselves to women in a way that plays against her needs, her desires and the type of man she sees in her mind as ideal. Ask yourself these questions:

1. Are you confident about how you approach dating?
2. Do you flirt? Do you get good results from it?
3. Can you make a woman smile or laugh?
4. Are you comfortable in conversations with women?

From our perspective behind the scenes, even if you’re looking for a casual affair, a woman will want positive feelings about all four of those questions. While for a few it’s all about the size of your cock, the majority of women want a whole man even if it’s just a fun roll in the hay.

Does sex sometimes lose its excitement when sex becomes same old repetition? This is one of the biggest complaints amongst my friends; that sex isn’t exciting any more. Sure, most have been married more than 25 years to the same man but they all realize that they are as much to blame for the situation as their husband or partner.

There was one woman recently said that after so many years she’d lost the art of the tease. I asked her to explain what she meant by that and here’s how I interpreted what she had to say.

Back when we were young and madly in love I would spend time before every date coming up with different ways to turn him on. I would come up with jokes or sexy lingerie or costumes just to give him a jolt in the wedding tackle. It worked every time too. Sometimes it would only be that I said I wasn’t wearing panties or we’d undress and I’d be standing there with pasties over my nipples. I got pretty good at twirling the tassels.

Being young I had a great sense of my own body. I was on the slender side, fit and proud of the way I looked naked. Now that I’m well over 50 and gravity has dropped most bits from my chin on down I don’t feel that confident. My husband tells me that I’m just as desirable as I ever was but you know, I just don’t feel it inside. I wish I was tight everywhere instead of floppy. Who likes floppy tits? My self esteem isn’t rock bottom but it’s certainly headed there.

I was quite surprised at this because to me she’s really attractive, seems really confident and always has a smile and a kind word for everyone. I told her we needed to work together to come up with a way to get her inner tease back in working shape. We talked about it and we came up with a few things we should try. (I don’t think I ever got the art of tease fully working but I was keen to try.)

1. Morning reverse strip tease. Yeah, I know you’re thinking reverse isn’t quite as exciting but remember we’re talking about teasing and that doesn’t always result in instant sex. The idea is for the sexual tension to simmer all day. So after your shower, make sure that you catch his attention as you turn away from him and bend over to slowly pull up your panties. Then face him and slowly and carefully place your breasts in your bra. Get in a bit of eye contact and have the mindset that sends off the message, “I’m hot and you know you want me.”
2. Call him at work. Don’t say anything other than, “I forgot to tell you when I was watching you get dressed, you have the best ass on any man in town.” Then say I love you and hang up. The simmering sexual tension will rise to a slow boil.
3. Be silent. Guys always make the stereotypical comment that women talk too much so work on that premise. When you’re alone and if you have kids they’re in bed, tell him that you don’t want any words. Every communication must be with touch.

That’s all we came up with so far but I was waiting for her to suggest burlesque fans and costumes. Maybe next time.

I’ve been running an adult community website for over 13 years and I thought I’d seen every funny ad caused by a misspelled word. However, I would be wrong.

Today we got the newest all time funniest ad and the poor bloke who wrote it has no clue what he’s really said. I’m sure he meant nurtured but here’s the ad:

Women are a gift to us, they need to be cherished and neutered.

It gives a mental picture quite different from what he intended, doesn’t it?

My advice to anyone writing a profile or bio on the net to please, please, please read it before you close down the website. We all get interrupted mid-sentence from time to time and that’s when most of our goofiest mistakes happen. Also changing a sentence and then not proofreading it can provide a few moments of laughter at the writer’s expense.