Trust your instinct

How can you tell whether someone is replying to you because they think you’re hot looking and they are really interested in getting to know you or if they are just being polite?

Does the writer ask any questions of you or do they only answer the ones you have asked but gives no room for follow-up questions? If you write again and it takes quite a while to get a reply, they’re just being polite and you should move on to someone who’s more interested in you.

If you receive an email from another member, it’s great to give a reply to everyone even if they’re not for you. They’ve taken the time to compose an email to you, so let them know you read it. Being polite is good but I’d prefer someone who is polite and says thanks for writing but I don’t think we’re a match. Then I can move on and contact others.

Remember, if you get an email and it doesn’t feel right in your gut, don’t get involved. I am a firm believer that our gut reaction is always right, even when our head says they’re drop dead gorgeous and our heart goes pitty pat. You want the best person for you, not an ornament or someone who’s a right pain in the ass.