I was discussing romance with someone yesterday and he asked me that question. What makes me feel loved? It’s rare that I don’t have a quick answer but I said I’d have to think about it. I have in mind what I should do to express or show my love for J and I know I should do these things more often. I have never sat down to think about what it is he could do for me that would make me feel loved. Obviously he does it because I feel incredibly loved. I just can’t put my finger on it and at my age I should know what makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. You know the kind of feeling I’m talking about. The feeling that REALLY makes you want to jump their bones when they walk into a room.

For many of us, finding the right way to show our love and affection is difficult. Sadly some people show their love and affection in ways that aren’t always appreciated or recognized by their partnera. Many may simply be too caught up in the daily distractions of life, work, and family and fail to constantly show their partner how much they mean to them.

Because no two people are alike, it’s only natural for there to be no generic way to show someone how much you love them. Many times we may be showing our love to our partner without them even recognizing it, or it being what they really want. Unless the things you do to express and show your love is one of the things that make your partner feel loved, its quite likely it will go unrecognized or under appreciated, even if you put a lot of effort into it.

So even if you aren’t in a relationship right now, take the time to decide what it is that makes YOU feel loved. It might help you to recognize the right person when he or she comes along.

I swear, it’s getting to the point that everything we eat and everything we do is going to cause cancer. I don’t want to put down the medical profession and they could very well be right, but geez, asking us to give up oral sex is going too far. Here’s an article I read at WebMD.com.

Changing sexual practices have led to a dramatic rise in throat cancer in the United States over the past two decades, and experts say they fear an epidemic of the disease.

The comments were made Wednesday at a news conference held by the American Association for Cancer Research to discuss research into the role of the sexually transmitted human papilloma virus ( HPV) in head and neck cancer.

Increasing rates of HPV infection, spread through oral sex, is largely driving the rapid rise in oropharyngeal cancers, which include tumors of the throat, tonsils, and base of the tongue, said Scott Lippman, MD, who chairs the thoracic department at the University of Texas M.D. Anderson Cancer Center.

Studies of oropharyngeal tumor tissue stored 20 years ago show that only around 20% are HPV positive, Lippman said. Today it is estimated that 60% of patients are infected with the virus.

“The percentage of oropharyngeal cancers that are HPV positive is much higher now than it was 20 years ago,” he said. “This is a real trend, and that is why there is concern of an epidemic given that fact that oropharyngeal cancer is increasing at an alarming rate.”

American Cancer Society Chief Medical Officer Otis Brawley, MD, said as many as half of the oropharyngeal cancers diagnosed today appear to be caused by HPV infection.

“Changing sexual practices over the last 20 years, especially as they relate to oral sex, are increasing the rate of head and neck cancers and may be increasing the rates of other cancers as well,” he said.

Condoms for everything?

At some point in our loves the question comes up, “How old is too old?” for certain things. Now for me, I don’t think I’ll ever be too old for lots of things. Truthfully though, I know I’m too old to wear a miniskirt – I think anyone who orders from the back page of Denny’s menu is too old for that. I’m too old to be a Rockette, I’m probably too old to take up boxing and I’m too old to think about becoming a brain surgeon.

I’m probably too old to wear a baseball cap backwards and I’m way too old to give a rat’s ass what anybody thinks about what I do.

I’ll never be too old for sex.

I don’t get caught up in the age thing because it’s just a number. The yearning for sexual intimacy doesn’t go away. You’ll never ever be too old to find someone to be intimate with. I’m 100% convinced of that.