It seems that every day I read some article about trimming or shaving pubes. There has always been that discussion but now that Brazilian shaving seems to have caught on, is there anyone who walks around as nature intended? I doubt it.

That’s just for women. There are heaps of men getting Brazilian waxes below the waist too. I listened in to a conversation the other day in one of our chatrooms where a guy was telling everyone about his experiences. He did it once just to see if it would lessen the number of times he had to shave a month and found he liked it so much that he routinely gets a wax to keep himself slippery smooth.

I know what it’s like for a woman, my friend Sharon told me. I haven’t got the courage to not only show my bits to someone but also I’m not ready for the pain in that region. Well, this guy said it hurt him less to have his privates waxed than it did to have his back waxed. I felt like such a perve watching this conversation scroll down my screen but I was glued.

So what happens to a man when he gets a Brazilian? Well, first of all he gets into position and soon after has his first erection during the process. I was thinking, “How could he get an erection when someone is ripping his hair out by the roots?” I kept quiet though, hoping the person he was telling would ask that question for me.

Turns out that’s just how men are. If you fiddle with their bits, it doesn’t matter that it’s searing pain, they’re still hoping for some action!

He said that every time he gets waxed he gets 4-5 erections and one ejaculation and that the waxing women say it’s perfectly normal. Immediately I thought that maybe a wax was cheaper than a massage parlor. The things I learn when I’m a fly on the wall!

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Every week I run into people who appear to have given up on their goal of finding a new partner, whether it’s a long term marriage commitment or even a casual relationship. It always intrigues me because I’d never give up. I know that if I were alone today that I could find someone to spend time with. I just know it all the way to my bones. So why don’t they?

Self-confidence is a problem for many. They don’t think someone like them just the way they are. To be honest, in some cases it’s true. If someone doesn’t like themselves very much, chances are nobody else is going to like them either. Most people in this group should make a list of their good qualities and see just how special they really are.

Then there are the ones who tend to give up rather than feel like a failure if they don’t find someone right away. Seriously, does it matter to anyone whether you’re with a partner or not? Maybe your mother but frankly, that’s it. Nobody really gives a shit, and even if they notice, they’ll only notice it for about 5 minutes and then they’re on to thinking about someone else.

Some people think that dating and meeting new people takes too much time and they don’t have much to spare. In reality, it does take a bit of time but that’s what quality lives are made of. Our personalities are forged by the friends we have and if you don’t have many, you’re a pretty sad person I think, and your personality has suffered for it.

So if you’re looking for a new relationship in your life and you’ve read this far, I’ve got good advice for you.

Keep on trying. Join a dating site if you haven’t already and write to as many people as you can that you think might fit your requirements. Be as particular as you want to be because there are lots and lots of people looking on any day that you show up.

My sage advice (I’m old you know):

Don’t worry that you’ll write to a bunch of people who won’t reply or won’t want to meet you. It doesn’t matter. You won’t be right for everyone. The real fact is that you won’t get a reply from any email you don’t send.

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For those of you who’ve wondered if I fell off the turnip truck on the way to town, nothing as lucky as that. I had my gall bladder out and ended up at home with a nasty staph infection. I never realized how serious the superbug crisis was until it happened to me.

If you have surgery or really if you go into the hospital for anything at all, make sure that you wash your hands every 30 seconds or use that instant hand santizer stuff. I wish I had.

But, I’m back, sort of. Still on drugs but feeling immensely better and I have a smile on my face today.