Now we all know that FeelingFlirty talks about adult things. It’s no secret. I don’t shy away from that. I’m actually quite proud that we can talk about most anything here and it’s OK.

I received an “invitation” from Social Spark to join their advertising program. So I did. They asked me to deposit some money into my account, which I did. I deposited $100 for a trial to see if it was worth pursuing. We created a campaign and when we hit the submit button, they charged my credit card for an additional $93. From my way of thinking if I had $100 in there and I spent $93, there should be $7 left. No so, they want to hold my $100 for some reason only known to them.

Only known to them because we’ve written to them several times and all we get is the acknowledgement that they’ll look into it.

That’s not the worst of it. Now that I have nearly $200 invested with these people, they tell us that we’ll have to advertise another site because mine is too adult.

Wait a minute, I thought. If they KNEW I was adult when they emailed me their fricken spam, why didn’t they say right up front that they’d like me to give them $200 and go away.

So, they mislead you going in, don’t reply to emails in anything like a timely manner and keep your money and give you nothing of value. If you were considering spending any money with them, check them out because my experience was rotten.

In my job I hear from a lot of men who say that they’re on our site because they aren’t getting any sex at home. It’s not just one or two or just a few men, it’s many many men who come to us with this story. We hear it from women too, but not so much.

Why is it that so many women poop out in the sex department? There are some people who’ll tell you that it’s the way women are wired. We want sex til we get a man and then once we have babies we don’t really need them any more.

I think it’s way more basic than that. I think today’s lifestyles are so hectic that sex is always on the back burner. Do you make time for a loving, sexual experience like you did when you were first intimate? Maybe you do but the rest of us don’t.

Imagine a woman with 2 or 3 kids and a home to care for and a job. She gets up early, makes breakfast, gets the kids ready for school, does the dishes, makes her bed, showers and goes to work. She works a full day and she might be on her feet for much of it. She leaves work and stops at the grocery store to pick up supplies for dinner and goes home.

The kids need her attention, the house looks like crap and she’s got to start dinner. By the time dinner is cooked, eaten and cleaned up, there’s the kids’ homework to check and stories to listen to and then stories to read, there’s laundry to do and maybe a bit of vacuuming if there’s any energy left.

She falls into bed and her husband can’t understand why she doesn’t want him any more.

Now take this same woman and when she falls into bed, her husband who loves and appreciates her knows how tired her body is and gives her a wonderful massage. He takes the time to get the knots out of her shoulders and doesn’t instantly decide that the most tired spot on her body is between her legs. Trust me, she’ll see right through that one. If he relaxes her body her exhaustion will lift and she might initiate sex all on her own.

Once he has touched her with loving hands and she’s relaxed for the first time that day, she will want to hold him and kiss him. I’m of the firm belief that if you put a man and a woman together in that situation, sex just happens. It happens because both want the sensations and release that sex gives.

That’s the subject line of an email we send out at SexyAds.com when someone has made a comment on a member’s profile or photograph and it can’t go public until they approve it. We were sending out a notice when the comment was received but it didn’t seem to get noticed. Obviously it was a crap wording because it didn’t convey what was really going on.

I couldn’t figure out why more people weren’t coming back in to see what others were writing. When you create a profile or place an ad on a dating site, you want to know who’s been looking at you. One of the most popular links is the one that tells members how many profile hits they’ve had since they logged in last. So I went to sleep and thought about how I could let people know in a way that was meaningful.

When I woke up, I knew it was peeking. I wrote a short memo letting them know that someone had been peeking at their profile (or photo) and had left a comment and here was the login url to read it and approve it (or delete it, if it didn’t please them). Sure enough, people started coming back to read and approve. People who are serious about meeting online are coming back and leaving comments for others.

The commenting on profiles and photos is fairly recent for us and we’re overwhelmed at how many people check out the photos and leave really nice notes. One I read yesterday made me crack up. He said, “Oh my god.. if I don’t get to meet you my life will never be the same. You are a goddess.” I clicked on the woman’s photo and if she was under 250 pounds I’m 10 feet tall. It just goes to prove what I always say – there is someone for everyone and the “two tits on a stick” figure type is not the most popular body size by far.

Thanks for the suggestions for naming our new puppy. One of you suggested Charlie and that’s his name. Sorry it took so long to post but I’ve had a bit of an oops healthwise. I’ve been in the hospital since the day I posted last. I’m fine or I will be soon enough.

I thought we might name the dog Chewy because he looks a lot like chewbacca but Mr. Flirty didn’t like that idea. Charlie seems to fit him just fine. He comes when we call him and he sits on command. Sounds good but he still has a few accidents on the mat at the door. He knows he’s supposed to go outside to do his business but if the door is closed, well, it’s on the mat. He hasn’t learned to bark.

Charlie is a cavoodle. Half cavalier king charles spaniel and half miniature poodle. He’ll be about the size of a cocker spaniel the breeder tells me. He has wool-like fur like a poodle, it doesn’t smell “doggy” and it’s in beautiful chocolate brown curls everywhere except between the toes of his back feet, on his chest, under his bottom lip and a few white hairs at the tip of his very crooked, twisty tail. Ok, so he’s not perfect and he wouldn’t win any prizes in a dog contest. He won my heart and that’s enough for me.

What’s life with a new puppy like? It’s been a long time since we’ve had a puppy in the house. My runners don’t stay tied, my bras and panties get dragged from the laundry room to his hiding place behind the night table along with all the toys he’s not currently trying to bite into oblivion and there are little sticks everywhere that he drags in after piddle time.

He’s absolutely wonderful.

I might have a lot of cleaning up after him but the way he snuggles that little head in my neck and then lets out a big sigh is priceless. Here’s Charlie today.

We got a new member of the family today and he has no name. The breeder named him Choccie because he’s chocolate brown but Mr. Flirty doesn’t think that’s a manly enough name. I suggested Cadbury but he just rolled his eyes.

I suggesed Eddy.. no, that wouldn’t do.

I suggested Curly.. no, that wouldn’t do.

He’s been home for 2 hours and I’m calling him dog and that won’t do!

He’s a cavoodle. That’s half cavalier king charles spaniel and half poodle. He’s got curly brown hair and a bit of white on his belly and on one foot. Here he is.. so what’s his name??

If you’re thinking, “Geez, don’t those people ever mow their lawn?” You’d be right. Mondays are mow days for me and it was pouring. It rained yesterday too. Today we went dog shopping, hence no mowing today. Hopefully we’ll get it mowed tomorrow so the poor puppy can walk across the lawn without bumping into tall grass and weeds. It’s all volcanic soil so when it rains you can hear the grass grow.