One of the biggest problems for women looking for dates on the Internet is saying no thanks. I was talking with one of our members at SexyAds.com today who said she’d narrowed down her list of potential keepers to 3. She thought about it and analyzed her feelings and decided she didn’t feel any sexual attraction to one of the men. So far, so good, right? She’d had enough responses to narrow down to three and then found 2 she wanted to check out further.

She told the man that she liked him as a friend but couldn’t see any relationship because she was not sexually attracted to him at all. Instead of thanking her for her honesty and moving on, which is what you’d do, right? No no, here’s what he did.

He wrote back and asked what he’d done wrong. She told him he’d done nothing wrong at all, it had nothing to do with him but it was her lack of sexual attraction for him and that was nature. Still, that wasn’t enough.

He wrote back and this time began belittling her for not realizing what a catch he was. I would have tossed it in the bin but she chose to answer one more time and said she was sorry he was hurt but she had done nothing to hurt him other than to say she wasn’t attracted to him and wished him well in finding someone who would be really attracted to him.

Did he move on?

No, of course he didn’t. He wrote again and this time was abusive and mean.

That’s where I come in because she asks me what to do and should she leave the website because she feels bad that she’s hurt this poor guy. Poor guy? It drives me nuts. Men say they are angry that women won’t answer every email and then when they do they get shit like this to deal with.

If you’re a guy and you’re looking for love online. Please, please be grateful that someone says no thanks and move on to better prospects. You’ll get confirmation that the woman was real and that your mail was read and next time maybe change your response a little bit.

We all know someone, maybe even ourselves, who stick in shitty relationships for all sorts of weird reasons. They’re miserable, their kids are miserable and yet they stay like they’ve been nailed to the chair. They look awful and they often feel awful.

Two studies conducted recently by the University of Texas and University College in London show that sticking it out in an unhappy relationship can make you sick. The real kind of sick, not the “I’m sick of looking at you!” sick. The illnesses range from general unwell to heart disease and researchers are convinced that the stress at home is what’s doing the dirty to their bodies.

The research concludes that putting up with an unsatisfactory relationship may very well erode your health.

So if you are in an unhappy relationship or marriage, best you start talking out your problems or you risk a dodgy ticker. It turns out that the phrase “broken heart” is as physical as it is emotional.

I was walking the dogs today — something I do every morning for about 45 minutes. It’s good for them and good for me too. To give a bit back to the community I always bring an old plastic grocery bag with me and pick up trash on the side of the road.

Well, this morning, as I was bent over the ditch on the side of the road reaching for a piece of plastic nearly out of my reach, this gorgeous hunk of a man walks up behind me and says, “Can I help?” If that had been you, you’d have smiled at him and said, “Yes, can you reach that piece of trash for me?”

What did I do?

I didn’t hear him coming and when he spoke the first word I jumped out of my skin, fell in the ditch and got covered in disgusting muddy goo. I’m probably known as “the old rubbish lady” to the neighborhood and I have no idea what this guy must think of me. There I sat with my ass half on pointy rocks and half in the mud. He apologized for frightening me and helped me up but that didn’t do much for my dignity.

That’s how my day started. Was yours any better?

I got this in my email today and had a good laugh. For any of you with kids, you’ll know exactly what I mean. This is kindergarten child’s drawing of a pair of scissors. Would you post this on your refrigerator for very long?