In today’s Melbourne, Australia The Age newspaper is an article about a pastor and his wife who are having a sex seminar at their church. A flyer promising “the best sex you’ll ever have” has been sent to 25,000 households in a Melbourne suburb. The flyer’s headline is “The best sex you’ll ever have.”

The seminar is part of a 4 week series on sex, marriage, adultery and pornography.

The headline is only part of the shock to church goers. The graphic on the flyer is to the right. Now I don’t know about you but that sort of photo is something you’d see on a site like ours at SexyAds.com or some other site with Cosmo like content.

I think this is a fantastic idea. According to the paper, the pastor, Andrew Newbold, and his wife Megan posed for the photo.

I couldn’t agree more with the premise of the seminar. The Newbolds say sex is supposed to be fun, so why does it feel like everyone else is having all the fun? It’s not supposed to leave you feeling guilty, frustrated or empty.

“Lots of people have asked, ‘why would the church want to talk about sex in the first place?’ That’s a ridiculous question because everyone else is talking about it, and it’s something God created,” Mr Newbold says.

Newbold acknowledges that the current generation is exposed to more sexual information and activity than any other in history, mostly due to the availability of adult content on the internet.

This is way past due. I’m so bummed out when I see people say that sexuality shouldn’t be part of a dating site. I just want to scream that it IS about the sex. It shouldn’t be all about the sex but to ignore sexual compatibility is to doom the relationship.

I commend the Newbolds and wish them a lot of luck. They obviously have the pulse of their community because they’ve built their church from a membership of 16 to 350 in a short amount of time.

I received an email question today from a woman who has recently begun a relationship with someone she met on SexyAds.com. Here’s her edited email, and I’ve changed the nickname for her privacy:

When I met Sharky I thought all my Christmases came at once. He’s tall, dark and handsome, comes from a wealthy family and he’s got a great job as a partner in a law firm AND he lives less than 20 minutes from me. Who knew I’d get that lucky online.

We’ve been dating for a couple of months now and I’m head over heels for him and when we’re together I think he feels the same way. When we’re not together I have a huge case of jealousy and it’s not attractive.

Sharky has lots of women clients and more importantly a lot of single female friends. He likes to go out to lunch, golf and tennis with them and I keep thinking to myself, “He’s perfect and I want him so all you others stay away!” That’s not practical so I need some of your sage advice.

Ok, first of all, Sharky’s not a young man and he’s been single for quite a while according to his profile. If he had no single female friends, wouldn’t you wonder what he did with himself before he met you? It’s perfectly normal for him to have female friends and yes, he’s probably slept with some of them. Everyone’s got a past. He’s CHOSEN you and that is what should be important to you.

Do you have male friends? If you’re like me, you probably do. Is he jealous of the time you spend with them? I suspect not. He knows you’re a complete person on your own who had a life before he entered it.

Down the road, if there are occasions that are important to you that he be with you and he chooses to be with another woman, then you can get the fangs out. Don’t run around like a witchy hag wanting to know what he’s doing every moment. If you have that much time on your hands, get a hobby or volunteer some time to a homeless shelter, retirement home or hospice. You won’t have time to be jealous then.

You might find that you are constantly suspicious and jealous and if that happens you should consider whether it’s a good idea for you to pursue this relationship. Life is all about being happy, so don’t put yourself in a position where you’re often not happy.

I’m very happy you’ve found someone special and if you handle yourself right, he’ll fall right into your arms whenever you want him. Fuck up and you’re restarting your search, I’m afraid.

Tennis star Maria Sharapova recently said that any future husband may have to fight for her affections with her dog. It seems that her potential husband won’t be alone.

A British survey has revealed the extraordinary lengths people will go to for their pets.

Almost one third of the respondents said they would sell valuable personal possessions to pay a large vet bill, and about 11 per cent would even re-mortgage their house.

But, it’s the women’s devotion to their four legged companions that stands out.

When asked who they would insure first, almost two thirds more women than men said they would choose their pet over their other half.

It seems a woman will stand by her dog, rather than man.

So men, make pals with the dog because that’s the jury you have to convince!

It’s Valentine’s Day and you don’t have a date. Normally not having a date doesn’t bother you very much. Today, seeing all your friends, workmates and others sharing their love publically by exchanging gifts, candy, sexy undies or flowers makes you think twice. Ok, it’s the sexy undies that make you think twice.

Later you find yourself at the bar or pub drinking a few more than you’d planned on, hoping to find someone who’s also experiencing a drought in the dating department. Be careful when trolling for dates while you’re drinking.

The Beer Goggles Effect

In a study conducted by researchers at England’s Manchester University in 2005, scientists studied the extent of the “beer goggle” effect on a given individual in a given situation. They found that alcohol is not really the only factor affecting the drunken perception of beauty. Other factors, according to their research, include:

* How well lit the area is
* The quality of your eyesight
* The amount of smoke in the air
* The distance between you and the target

For instance.. The woman on the left is the real woman. She’s not overly attractive and honestly, after a few beers, she’s still going to be less attractive than the women on the right.

So be careful out there. Valentine’s Day is only one day of the year. Get past it. The beer goggles effect is real and you don’t want to have to saw your arm off in the morning.

You’ve got plenty of time to find someone special who’ll spoil you rotten and will have wild and crazy sex with you.

Not getting lucky often enough? Leave a comment and I’ll do my best to give you some advice.

At least I thought I was born in the year of the rat. I saw an Asian astrologer on CNN earlier today that said people who are born in the year of the rat are going to have a great romantic year in 2008 and I was thinkin… yeah.. cool. My daughter-in-law is Chinese and I was on skype wishing her a happy new year and I was bragging about my love luck in 2008 because I was born in the year of the rat.

She congratulated me and then said, “Mom, are you sure you’re a rat? I am not 100% certain but I think you’re a pig.”

GASP!!!!

Me? A Pig? I’ve lived 60 years under the impression that I’m a rat and I learn that I’m a pig? What’s up about that? Look up any birth chart in any Chinese restaurant in the US and I’m a rat. How much more exact do you need than that?

Wellsir, rats go to January 28th and I’m a 29th woman. THAT makes me a pig.

So, feeling all dejected I decided to look up Chinese astrology and see what my sign is going to provide in the way of luck now that I know I’m a pig. I was getting really excited about my man being all romantic and loving and getting big presents. But then I saw my Chinese horoscope.

It’s not love I’m going to get but money !!! So should I be more excited about money than I was about love? I shouldn’t be but I have to admit that I instantly started thinking.. new boat. new boat. new boat.

If you see me tootling along in the Bay of Islands in New Zealand in a boat anytime soon, just tell your friends, “It was all pig luck.”