I had to take a cab today and while I was waiting for the driver to find second gear - again and again, I saw someone out the window who reminded me of my first love. It started me thinking about my old relationships. I think when I first started dating I should have been a part of a family who choose their children’s partners because I was a dismal failure in my early years. I kept choosing “nice” men in public but they didn’t have a clue as to how to be kind when the doors were closed.

Not always, of course, or I’d have never been with them but most of my early relationships ended because I seemed to be the one holding everything together. I’d bring home the surprises and I’d leave the notes and I’d cook the favorite meals and I’d organize the social activities — why? because if I didn’t, nothing would happen. Perhaps they were just spoiled brats. I introduced one guy to my mother and she said, “you’re all excited about nothing!” and then I married him. Of course she was right. Premature cohabitation for sure and in 3 years it was over.

It’s not all bad because I kept getting back on the horse and after a while I stopped dating Mr. Sharp and Mr. Flashy and looked for Mr. Kind. No longer was it ultimately important that I was with someone very intelligent, a really good job and attractive. What I wanted was someone who would be kind to me — as kind as I was to him.

How long did it take to find him? Twenty years. OK OK I’m a slow learner. I found lots of men who were kind but it wasn’t til I met the sexiest man on the planet did I realize that you could find a nice, sexy, attractive and intelligent man. Who knew?? If I could you can too.

UPDATE — Our favorite Olive Riley turns 108 on October 20th and she’s still blogging (or blobbing). Stop by and leave her a Happy Birthday, OK?

Olive was on the national news today (17th) at her official 108th birthday party. Local school kids went to the party at the nursing home where she lives and sang all of Olive’s favorite tunes. A group of dancers in fancy costumes did a routine for her and when they finished she said, “I wish I could get MY legs up that high!”

She is SO cute!!

Imagine being 107 years old and having your own blog - and then realize it’s a very popular blog around the world! That’s what’s happening to Olive Riley from the east coast of Australia. Olive lives in a nursing home and has a bit of trouble with her eyesite but her mind is as sharp as ever.

Her blog, or blob as Olive calls it, The Life of Riley, is all about Olive - Ollie to those who know her well. Ollie has 3 children and “umpteen” grandchildren. She tells of a time when she was a child of going skinny dipping with a friend and getting a farm worker fired because he was peeping at them through a spy glass. She’s been feisty for a long long time!

Her friend and film maker Mike Rubbo came to her with the idea of doing the blog and she relies on him and another friend from her nursing home to help her post her blogs.

“I’ve got no ideas about computers, no idea at all,” she said. “But Mike and that other man do and I tell them my stories and they put them on the computer.”

“It’s a bit of fun, although I do get a bit tired sometimes.”

I think she’s as cute as she can be and I hope you visit her blog and say hello.

He: Darling, am I the first man to make love to you?

For years women have tried and tried to find underwear that doesn’t show a visible line or wrinkle in their clothes. Well a company has come up with the ultimate no panty line panty - sort of. Made out of 85% nylon and 15% spandex the C-String is completely invisible under your clothes and your private parts are pretty much covered. According to the website:

C-String has a flexible internal frame that hugs and holds it to the body both securely and comfortably. Your modesty remains safely covered at all times.

At the front it looks like sexy underwear, to the rear it has a thong-style strip, and to the sides it has nothing at all!

Out and about: the C-String can be worn under all your favourite clothes: dresses, skirts, jeans

On the beach: the C-String can be worn alone as beachwear for the perfect all-round tan. Forget the bikini the C-Kini is where it’s at!

In the bedroom: the C-String is ultra-sexy lingerie!

Ok back to me. In case you thought I was trying to sell these - I’m not. This isn’t an affiliate link. I put this here so I could say…

What is wrong with you women?? Surely you don’t need to wear a cloth covered paperclip over your pink bits. If lines are so bad and so important to eliminate - why wear panties at all? Don’t say it’s “for protection” cause that thing wouldn’t protect you from a light breeze.

I’m all for innovation and new products but something like this is just plain silly. Go ahead, flame me, I’m old, I can take it.

Are you wanting a relationship but not doing the right things to attract him/her? Are you wanting a relationship but afraid to step out in the world because of some fear you have?

I have many clients just like you that seek relationship coaching from me each day to help them figure out why they are alone, not attracting the right person or anybody AND how to use what they have got to be successful in relationships today.

Here are 3 of the steps I teach my clients to begin to be relationship ready. For some people the process is short and for some who need to clear a lot of past relationship and early childhood baggage, it could take a bit longer.

1. Are you attracted to yourself? Ask yourself this question and honestly answer it: Would you want to date you? Would you be attracted to you (your body, your personality and moods, your living situation or environment, your car, your financial situation and/or career path)?

If you answered no to this question and any part of it, you have work to do. You cannot attract the right relationship for you, or man/woman to you when you don’t like or love or accept yourself. Reminds me of what my client shared with me- that she didn’t want to take her clothes off in front of a man. We found out later- this is why she kept sabotaging potential relationships in the beginning stages of dating.

You must either learn to accept and love yourself the way you are, or change the thing you don’t like about yourself to something you love and accept. Easy for me to say, sometimes more challenging for you to do by yourself. I coach people everyday to create goals and plans in this area so that they accomplish them successfully. In a recent poll men said what is most attractive about woman of all sizes and shapes- is a woman that is confident and who likes herself and carries herself that way…her energy is sexy. Let me help you with this process!

2. What’s standing in your way? Is your slate clean? Is your luggage emptied? I find many of my clients have lot’s of unresolved issues, beliefs, wounds left over from either their past relationships or from wounds of their childhood. I find that unconsciously and consciously our heart is held hostage (meaning we can’t fully let in or love another) when we have anger, hate, sadness or any unresolved negative emotion towards someone else.

I help my clients identify and work through what’s blocking them from letting in love. I teach them to feel deserving and how to receive and give graciously with- out fear.

3. Do you have thoughts, fears, unrealistic expectations and beliefs holding you back? Many people I see have thoughts fears and unrealistic expectations or beliefs that unconsciously affect how they either move forward or make up excuses not to. I myself realized I was using the excuses: I am too busy I can’t fit a guy into my schedule AND I will slow down my professional and financial growth if I get into a relationship now. But when I really forced myself to dig deeper I realized I had an unrealistic fear of myself that I would not be able to set boundaries and be disciplined enough to keep my momentum moving forward AND I was also afraid of being hurt again, so what I found out was- that I was really just afraid of being vulnerable, intimate and getting attached again. When I resolved these fears I was able to move past these blocks and manifest my current relationship. You can do this too!

This has been a guest post from Edy at www.angerworld.com

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