Five Minutes - Whether she just needs to find her keys or she’s getting dressed from scratch from shower to shoes, it’s always “give me five minutes.”

Fine - When you hear this word, it’s over. You are determined not to be correct and it’s time for you to stop talking and move on to something else.

Nothing - Ok, you didn’t take the hint above and she’s stopped talking. What’s wrong? Nothing. Surely something is wrong, you’re acting funny. No, nothing is wrong. Next time shut up when she said Fine! Fine and nothing can be interchangeable.

Sigh - No, this isn’t really a word like the others but it carries meaning nonetheless. When you hear “the sigh” the conversation is going nowhere. She’s bored with it and probably with you. She’s not going to tell you what’s wrong because you should already know. If you really loved her, you’d know.

Right - When she says this, know that you are far from right - nearly all the way to wrong in her opinion. She’s agreeing with you just so she can get on with what she was doing before all this started.

It’s OK - Spoken by a true martyr. She’s endured whatever it is and it’s all your fault and she’s got her Joan of Arc face on. Know that you will pay for whatever it is that is OK.

Whatever - It’s what nice women say instead of “fuck off”.

Never mind, I got it - This is a very dangerous statement and one that should leave you shaking in your shoes. She’s asked you at least once to do something and it was probably a very small thing - like help bring in the groceries or pick up your underwear and you ignored her request and kept on doing whatever it is that you do when she’s doing all the chores. You will pay, trust me on that.

Did you have to do that? - She’s thinking that surely you were raised by farm animals when you fart in her general direction. The ONLY correct response is, “sorry dear,” because anything else will end up with “what’s wrong?” to which she’ll reply, “nothing,” and we know the conversation will end with “fine!”

For a lot of women, getting ready for a first date with a new man can produce those anxiety butterflies we all know so well. Will I choose the best outfit - the one that doesn’t make my ass look too big. Will I show too much cleavage? Not enough? Hair up or hair down? Minimal makeup or the full deal? Will I be too dressed up for where we’ll go or too casual? Then we concentrate on the guy. Will we like him, will he like us, will I be nervous, can I fake self-confidence? Face it ladies, we’ve all been there and for some too many times. Those days are over for me but I’ve found someone who’s got a program that can help.

I wandered across a blog by Debra Berndt called Attract Love Today. She’s a certified hypnotherapist who, among lots of other personal development products, has created a pre-date peptalk quickie .mp3 that can relieve that stress and help you to enjoy the date without worrying about any of the things I mentioned above. The best thing is that she’s offering it for free to anyone who joins one of her newsletters. According to “Hypnodeb”:

You may have experienced great dates and probably felt really good about yourself going into the date. However, some women tend to worry about their looks, their weight, their clothes, and if they are going to be interesting enough for their potential suitor. This focus on the negative and the problems that could arise are all subconscous fears coming to the surface. Most do not go into a date situation with the feeling that they are spectacular and the guy is lucky to be in their presence….but what if you could? What if you could arrive at the date, feeling irresistable to men, confident and excited about meeting someone new, instead of worrying if he is Mr. Right or Mr. No way.

If you or a friend of yours needs some sound advice along with a tool like this to boost your self-confidence, visit her site now and join up for one of her newsletters and get this .mp3 called The Pre-Date Quickie Program.

If you don’t get now you’ll forget where you saw the link and it only takes a few seconds. Become all you can be starting today. Come on, what if it could REALLY help you land the big one??

I watched a documentary film last night about a group of women over 60 discussing their sexuality. Now before you wrinkle your noses, I need to say that when older men talk about sex people say, “you go for it!”, but for older women there’s a different mindset, like an older woman has to be Mother Theresa or something.

Physical satisfaction is not the only aim of sex, it’s a great one and one you wouldn’t want to miss out on, but it’s also the nearness of someone throughout the night that enriches our lives. Even at 50-60-70-80 or older, all women need and want someone to hold, hug and confide in. There isn’t one particular day where we say, “gee, today is the day that all intimacy with another person ceases to be important to me.” It just doesn’t happen. Yes, there are illnesses common in elderly people and flexibility is more of a problem, but that doesn’t mean that everyone shouldn’t strive for a cuddle as often as possible.

Here’s an excerpt from their website:

Flying in the face of this culture’s extreme ageism STILL DOING IT explores the lives of older women. Partnered, single, straight, gay, black and white nine extraordinary women, age 67-87, express with startling honesty and humor how they feel about themselves, sex and love in later life and the poignant realities of aging.

I loved the film. It took all my stereotypes of grannies and popped them in the trash. Next time you look at an older woman with some wrinkles and she’s walking slower than she did 30 years ago, ask yourself if there’s ever a time you could imagine that you wouldn’t want someone to hold you close and tell you how terrific you are? I’m hope I’m still doing it at 90!

It seems like all the “winners” these days are all using a life coach to keep them on track to realize their goals. I listened to an .mp3 the other day by Joe Vitale, the renowned writer and internet marketer who contacts his coach on a weekly basis just to ensure that he doesn’t slide off the rails by even a little bit. That made me think about how it would relate to the dating arena. Were there life coaches for people who wanted to find a new partner either on the net or in their own community?

It turns out that there are such people! I found one! I know there must be tons of others but I really liked this one. Her name Marcie and she’s a Certified Empowerment Life Coach from the Empowerment Institute. She believes that everyone has the power within to solve their own problems but sometimes a little outside help to find the power is a good thing.

On her blog at Dating Warrior she talks about a few things that I think are really important when someone is looking for love online. She talks about setting goals, living with the frustration of waiting for someone else to reply, taking a break when it seems like it’s all too hard and much more.