Years ago I would have said men in an instant. I was a single parent raising two teenage kids, working long hours and I didn’t have time for a relationship of any kind. I had lots of female friends who were married and they weren’t having affairs – surely they would have told me, right? Wrong. As it turned out, one of my closest and dearest friends was having this hot steamy affair with my own gynecologist right under my nose!! Ok, so I’m a bit gullible when it comes to people I love because I always see them at their best. If I had known she was having the affair it wouldn’t have altered our friendship one bit, but I have to tell you I would have wanted to know what kind of lover my very attractive doctor was! (that’s a different story for a different day!)

Anyway, I received an email from a member of our website asking me if I thought dating sites caused more men to cheat than women. No, I don’t think dating sites are the cause of cheating on either side. Yes, it’s easier to be anonymous, but cheaters would cheat with someone they met at the grocery store, at the softball field, in a pub – you all know it’s true. What IS different are the tire kickers but in my opinion they aren’t real cheaters because they never do anything. They only look. Their love life is flat to dead and they want to know if there are people out there that have wild and crazy sex because there isn’t any going on in their house.

Seriously, I think you’ll find that it’s about equal between the sexes. Just my opinion though! According to Ask Ugg who reported on a cheating survey recently, their conclusion was that women cheated more but I suspect it’s because more men took the survey. What’s interesting though are the comments the participants left behind. If you have time, check out what Ugg had to say about the quality of the internet poll. Ugg’s got a popular blog at www.askugg.com.

Do you always find the time to do the necessary things in life, like taking out the garbage or doing the dishes or mowing the lawn or doing the laundry? Yeah, we all can “make” the time to do what has to be done, but what about the more important things, the things that make life worth living. If you’re like me, you come up with all sorts of rational excuses for why you don’t “make” time for romance or for making your spouse or partner feel special.

My husband came to a couple of weeks ago and reminded me that we were turning into strangers because we were always working or thinking about work or doing the necessary things. I decided to do something about it and then promptly forgot. Until I stumbled upon was a site that sells baskets of romantic stuff. Romantic Gift Creations took all the work out of it for me. It was a no brainer and the prices were very reasonable.

Here’s what we used last weekend. I have always wanted to try body painting but frankly I have never taken the time to shop for any. We got the basket and headed to our favorite B&B in the foothills and turned up the heat. I’ve gotta tell you, he felt like a million dollars after I painted him all over and then had a nibble or two. I have to say that I was pleasantly surprised with the quality. So much of the sexy stuff is crass and cheap looking and that’s not what I want when I’m trying to impress my man with how sexy I think he is. If you have been like me, and let’s face it I’m not the only one who forgets to put my spouse first sometimes, – then check out this site.

I found the site when I clicked a link to a blog by Romeo, the guy who writes for Romantic Gift Creations. I liked his blog and was curious about the products they sell so I clicked. Here’s a selection from The Ask Romeo Blog about wearing sexy clothes for a hot and steamy encounter.

Ladies who really want to get their man’s attention in the bedroom will find there’s a virtually guaranteed way to go. There’s nothing quite like silky, sexy, steamy attire to get a man’s heart beating and his desire burning.

Picking out the right attire for the occasion can be the tough part. You want the perfect look to let him know what’s on your mind, of course. But, it is also important to make sure the sexy teddy or gown also makes you feel sexy. Remember ladies, sexy attire will only take you so far; attitude will deliver you to your destination.

All because of following this link, my relationship is stronger and much more lighthearted and fun. I mean who wouldn’t laugh when they looked at themselves in the mirror covered in Kama Sutra body paint? LOL

1. Tell the other person that you love them
2. Give or get a hug
3. Make sure the other person feels important and respected
4. Kiss when people are looking
5. Kiss when people aren’t looking
6. Tell the other person that you care
7. Hold hands
8. Go for a long bike ride
9. Give a special present
10. Be there when they need a friend
11. Spend time together
12. Go to see a film
13. Walk arm in arm in the woods
14. Make a special tape of love songs
15. Talk about your feelings
16. Share dreams with each other
17. Snuggle up together
18. Sit together in the park
19. Take a walk together
20. Go out for a meal
21. Have a picnic
22. Play a game of frisbee
23. Give compliments
24. Relax in a jacuzzi
25. Go swimming
26. Just be close
27. Go shopping for food
28. Cook a meal together
29. Touch each other in a loving way
30. Do homework together
31. Plan and go on a trip together
32. Throw a party together
33. Bake a cake
34. Go to the library
35. Browse in a museum
36. Just be there
37. Find out what’s special for the other person – and do it
38. Exercise together
39. Gaze at each other
40. Wash each other’s cars (or bikes !)
41. Go fishing
42. Talk to each other
43. Listen to worries
44. Cut each other’s toenails
45. Choose a special favourite song
46. Listen to joys
47. Hold one another close
48. Catch their eye
49. Write one another letters
50. Talk on the telephone
51. Trust one another
52. Give or receive a ring
53. Meet each other’s family
54. Go hiking together
55. Make sacrifices for each other
56. Send chocolates
57. Respect each other
58. Go for a moonlight walk
59. Hide a love note where the other will find it
60. Give each other sexy looks
61. Write a poem
62. Send flowers
63. Eat dinner by candlelight
64. Go to a concert
65. Watch the sunrise together
66. Remember anniversaries
67. Give each other pet names
68. Go sightseeing
69. Rent a video
70. Do things for each other without being asked
71. Propose marriage
72. Whisper something nice into the other’s ear
73. Be best friends
74. Have fun together
75. Go out dancing
76. Play music together
77. Flirt with each other
78. Laugh at something funny together
79. Be faithful
80. Impress each other
81. Make a list of things you like about each other
82. Read a book and discuss it
83. Meet each other’s friends
84. Go horse riding
85. Cook each other’s favourite food
86. Find out what makes each other happy
87. Make presents for each other
88. Wash each other’s hair
89. Watch the sunset
90. Go for a bus trip
91. Have a request played on the radio
92. Send a funny card
93. Share your plans for the future
94. Play footsie
95. Share private jokes
96. Think about each other
97. Find out what makes the other sad
98. Go skating
99. Swap rings
100. Share an ice-cream
101. Have your picture taken together

This is from Milton Keynes Health Promotion,
Milton Keynes Community NHS Trust,
United Kingdom

Have you ever thought something into existence? Either in a good way or a bad way? Is there a time in your life that you saw someone and you didn’t want to speak to them so you thought really hard and mentally said to yourself, “Don’t look at me,” and sure enough they did? It was almost like they heard you thinking.

Well, that’s what so many people are saying today that believe in The Law of Attraction. The premise is that everything first begins with a thought and then the thought manifests itself into reality. Whether you think I want a red sweater or you think I don’t want a red sweater, you’re thinking about a red sweater and that’s what you’re gonna get.

The theory has been around for a long time. Back in 1937 a man named Napoleon Hill wrote a book called “Think and Grow Rich” which says

“Our minds become magnetized with the dominating thoughts we hold in our minds and these magnets attract to us the forces, the people, the circumstances of life which harmonize with the nature of our dominating thoughts.”

After WWII, a man named Jose Silva from Texas began experimenting with meditation and consciously lowering brain waves to get in touch with universal intelligence. He went on to create a training course to teach others how to do this. Then there’s Esther and Jerry Hicks also in Texas who believe they channel a group of non-physical beings called Abraham who pretty much say the same thing. If you think something, it will happen. More recently, an Australian woman named Rhonda Byrne wrote a book that’s topping the charts called “The Secret” and there’s even a movie with the same name.

All these people believe that if we use our thoughts to prepare the way, our lives will be easier, more fulfilling, more abundant and more satisfying. They say if we consciously choose our direction, then things don’t have to happen in our lives by accident.

How does this theory relate to online dating? I thought you’d never ask. Let’s say for a moment that there’s truth in all of this. I know that when I think something through really well, things always go smoother. If you’re seriously looking for a new partner, are you saying to yourself, “I’ll never find anyone as good as my friend has,” or “I’ll never get a date” ? That’s exactly what will happen. Change your focus. You know that you’re a terrific person and certainly worthy of any person you’d meet, so stop being negative. Catch yourself and think positive thoughts. Think about the things you really want to have happen – imagine what it would be like if it was like that already? Can you see it happening?

I don’t know about you, but I’m going to give this a try – just in case they’re on to something.

Everyone who joined a dating site was really ready to meet someone new? I received an email this morning from a member of our site who’d really fallen for a guy she’d met here. He tickled her, she tickled him, he joined as a VIP. They emailed and they did video cam chat and they talked on the phone. They exchanged photos and did all the things you’d normally do when you’re trying to figure out if a person is right for you. She was over the moon about him and said he told her he felt the same way.

They decided to meet for the first time in person over the weekend. She had her hair done, bought a new outfit to wear and went to the restaurant where he’d invited her to meet him. Imagine her surprise when he didn’t show up? Not only didn’t he show up, but he didn’t call to say he wasn’t coming. By the time she got back home and logged in to the website, he’d removed his profile completely. She was outraged and called him every name in the book in the email she sent.

Now I know what you’re all thinking and I think it too. I guessed that he lied about something and he couldn’t face her. Maybe he’s married – maybe he’s older (or younger) than he said he was – maybe he exchanged a photo that wasn’t his. It doesn’t matter because she’s really disappointed and he’s out in the cold.

Please take her story as a reminder that being honest up front is the only way to be really successful – in dating as in every other aspect of your life. Not everyone fibs – most people are just the same in real life as they were online through email and chat. As I told the lady who wrote today, don’t let one bad situation get you down – remember what Momma said about all those fish in the sea!