Ever wonder why some guys get all the women they want and others barely seem able to handle the leftovers? What’s the difference? It’s not always looks or financial status, although some women will follow those everywhere. Notice some very ordinary looking men with drop dead gorgeous women on their arms and you sit back and wonder. Does HE know what women want? Has HE learned the secret?

We all know that many women will read romance novels even if they don’t admit it. Have a look on any plane trip you take. A romance novel lasts one flight and most every woman has one in the seat pocket. Look at the main male character. I’ll bet he’s a hero type always ready to come to the aid of the woman he loves.

Think about it for a minute. When women read these books, they get involved in the story because they can imagine themselves as the female lead. If that’s the case, the main male character must be a man most women could imagine themselves falling in love with. He must be a confident person, in control of his own life but not need to control anyone else. He’s not the jealous type. He’s strong but filled with tenderness for his lover. Women love to be in his presence and men look up to him.

He’s attractive because he takes care of himself. He exercises, eats well, dresses well and enjoys taking her out to dinner and parties.

He pays attention to his woman. He does the little things that mean a lot to every woman. He tells her often that he loves her and cares about her. He brings a little treat that proves he was thinking about her when they were apart. To really get her attention he sends flowers to her office. She loves this because everyone she works with knows she’s valued.
What can you do?

How do you transform yourself to a romance novel hero?

Start walking or working out at the gym to build up your body. Women might not be aware of it but they like a man who’s strong enough to protect her if she ever needs it. Improve your eating habits. Drink less. Smoke Less.

Once you have the body that screams powerful, have a look at your wardrobe. What per cent of your clothes would you call trendy? Don’t go out and buy a new wardrobe but get a few pieces to match some you already have to spice it up. Once you have your woman, she’ll enjoy shopping with you.

Are you the type of person a woman would feel comfortable spending time with? I know that’s a serious statement, but are you a nice guy? I’ve met way too many men who think scratching their balls, belching and asking for a beer is being nice, but that’s not the nice I’m talking about. Can you listen to her without trying to finish her sentences or fix every problem she has? If you want to REALLY impress a woman, listen to her. Let her know that her life is important to you and is more important than any other person - male or female.

Walk with confidence. Stand up straight. Your mother didn’t tell you that for nothing. It shows you are not depressed or whiney. Have the most positive attitude you can muster and work on that every day. When you’re positive, you’re fun to be around and you attract others to you - those women you’d like to meet. A man that barks and grumbles all the time about everything is not a fun person to be with. A man that always wants to “take on” anyone he disagrees with is not a fun person to be with. A woman wants a man who’ll protect her when necessary; he’s patient, kind and comfortable in his own skin.

Finally, take a friend or two to the local cosmetics counter and get some new cologne. You need women to go with you because what you smell on yourself might not be what others smell. You want the knowledge that you smell SOOoooo good. Your friends will tell you. Don’t use too much but enough so that when you walk by a woman, she turns her head. Then you smile at her and if she lingers, ask her out!

Men often think women are awfully difficult to please, but many of my female friends tell me they would love to know just what to do to please their man. doing? If you aren’t sure he’s actually enjoying what you’re doing, ASK him! Men rarely let you know they don’t like something you’re doing… part of the great male ego fiasco. But if you ask, he’ll gladly give you tips on what feels terrific. Traditional love-making tips are not necessarily going to get you a gold star for this special occasion. What you need are some contemporary sex tips on how to please your man. Here are a handful:

Remind yourself how sexy you are.

Don’t think about your own body. He likes you just the way you are, I promise. It’s your sexiness that he’s interested in! Chances are that you’re simply obsessed about it, while he hasn’t even noticed. Feel sexy from within, and there’s nothing to stop him from feeling the same about you. If you’re comfortable with yourself, he will be too.

Do a Strip Tease — That’s sure to thrill him EVERY single time. All men like to watch! And they can NEVER have enough of this! So don’t be shy.
Underneath your clothes.

No matter what you’re wearing on the outside, always wear sexy lingerie. You never know when the mood strikes and you certainly don’t want to be wearing embarrassing underwear that’s meant for no one else to see!

Masturbate — There’s nothing wrong with masturbation. In fact, if YOU don’t know how to touch yourself, you shouldn’t really expect HIM to know either… He doesn’t even HAVE a vagina of his own! So learn what your body likes and help him when he seems to be lost in paradise.

Take the initiative — Most men would give anything on the face of this earth to see their women take charge once in a while. It’s somewhat exciting for them to be at the receiving end sometimes. Even men like surprises!

Don’t play dead — Nothing can be a bigger turn-off! You wouldn’t want HIM to to lie there like a melting ice cube, so show him some emotion, move your body in synch with his own, help him find your G-spot, moan a little…

Control your vagina — A woman who can control her vagina knows how to heighten intimate experience by an extremely large extent. Learn how to tighten and relax your muscles at will. Let him feel your body crave for more of him. This is an unspoken way of telling him you’re not letting go very easily.

Oral sex — Don’t look as if you’re doing it just for the heck of it. Expressions speak volumes for themselves, so try to look as if you’re enjoying it, even if it’s not something you’ve always dreamed of doing. Read up on such things if you don’t really know what to do. Don’t bite him, unless he asks for it, and don’t be too rough with him either.

Talk to him — Laugh with him. Communication is the key to any kind of relationship, more so if physical intimacy is involved. Talk to him about how you feel, what you’d like him to do to you, anything you want! Try not to nag him, however. Add some spice to your relationship: talk dirty to him… He’ll love it!

Flirting goes hand in hand with dating. Everyone can flirt and it’s not at all difficult to learn! Once you understand the different online flirting approaches, you are on your way to success.

Whether you’re communicating via live chat or email, try to always keep it short, simple and fun. In the beginning, stick to light-hearted and upbeat tones in your conversation. This is proven to get more replies. Use easy to answer questions, and in return write your responses to illicit questions in the next reply you receive.

Always use the other person’s name, even if it’s only a screen name. It makes it more personal. If you’re writing something that *might* be misunderstood, use emoticons if you have them available. A little smiley after one of those comments will let the other person know you were kidding, or embarrassed for instance.

Use humor as often as you can, but use it in good taste. Ethnic humor sent to someone you have never met in person isn’t a good idea.

Compliment your date. Everyone likes to be complimented and it’s a great example of flirting. It shows you’re interested and have taken the time to notice something about them. The best compliments are those with the element of surprise. Keep your compliments sincere, honest, and genuine. And when you receive a compliment yourself, the best response would be to simply say, “Thank You!”

A great online flirting tip is to use “attractors” in your email. Try the tried and tested pick-up lines or much better - devise your own. Try to keep them light and inviting, so as not to sound predatory. The key is to sound cute, interested and above all sincere. This will help your emails get noticed AND replied to and that results in lots more dates for you!

Flirting isn’t a magic potion. It’s talking with someone else with a twinkle in your eye - treating them with respect and being truly interested in getting to know them.

To be successful in dating, the most important thing you can do for yourself is to have a positive mindset. A positive person knows nothing can stop you them from getting the man or woman of their dreams. Dating can be very emotional and you often find yourself listening to those subtle thoughts that pop into your mind that signal lack of confidence or self esteem. The dating public are looking for confident people to date.

To assist you with your next dating experience, here are 5 of the most powerful tips that have helped me to succeed with dates:

1. Forget about your past relationships. Don’t let your past relationships or memories, especially those that have not gone well, affect the way you view new relationships. Realize that just as you don’t like everyone, not everyone will like you. Think of your new date as your opportunity to start over fresh as a daisy.

2. Be a little selfish. Treat your needs as a priority. If you consider your own happiness, you’re already on the way to being happy with someone else. Don’t get carried away with that but make sure that at least half of the time you do what you want and what makes YOU happy.

3. Become an optimist. Trust that this date will work out. When you stand at the the door, whichever side you’re on, tell yourself that you’re going to have a terrific time and that this person will enjoy your company. Don’t start with a state of mind that it won’t last long.

4. Be yourself. Company manners are nice but don’t change your personality to impress a date. A good first impression is great only if it’s an impression of who you really are.

5. Treat your date with respect. People that respect each other feel good about themselves and feel nurtured, loved AND Sexy!

These are 5 simple ideas but will help you if you’re in the dating doldrums!