People have long debated how much influence scent has on sexual attraction. I’m not talking about the newest hot scent that gets sprayed on you by attractive young women when you visit an upmarket department store, rather it’s the virtually unnoticeable smells we all produce normally, human pheromones.

Every animal, including humans, have a unique aroma that they give off in order to attract a suitable mate. Can you remember the last time you found yourself strangely attracted to someone but you couldn’t figure out why? They weren’t the sort of person you were usually attracted to, but you WERE attracted — very attracted in a sexual sense.

This happens to everyone and it’s definitely pheromones at work. For reasons that can not yet be explained, some people produce more human pheromones than others and guess what? — they’re the ones who are always out on a date and never alone when they don’t want to be. Someone always wants to be with them.

Some people produce more pheromones at different times of the year and some, especially women, produce more during ovulation. This is nature’s way of ensuring the survival of the species by securing a mate to fertilize those eggs.

We all know of or have experienced the phenomenon of a group of women who live together usually have their monthly menstrual periods at the same time. The pheromones the women produce influence each other. Again, nobody knows yet why this happens but research is continuing.

A recent study was carried out with couples and twins put in the same position at bars as a social experiment. The overwhelming result of the experiment was that the men and women who applied human pheromones before they went out were approached much more often and the couples who participated hugged, kissed and had sex more often. In the twins experiment, the twin that applied the human pheromones received double the attention and people approaching than the twin that didn’t apply pheromones.

So if you’ve been in the dating doldrums or in the sexual desert lately, it might be worth a try to find some human pheromones before your next night out.

A growing number of young women openly admit to preferring the company of an older guy on a date, rather than same age or younger. This present day Sugar Daddy is a far cry from his counterpart of years ago, who would be more inclined to keep such a relationship totally private, enjoying clandestine meetings at secretive venues.

Today, often an older guy will display his younger partner openly, publicly and with pride. Let’s look at the top ten reasons why sugar daddy dating is becoming more and more popular within the online dating arena. The comparisons are based on age difference between two people seeking a long term relationship.

1. A good proportion of young women feel safer in the company of a more mature man, especially on first meeting. He is more inclined to suggest coffee or dinner in a crowded venue as a first meeting place, or be quite happy for her to suggest a locale where she would feel comfortable. Her ease-of-mind, during that first date in particular, will be high on his agenda.
2. Although there are exceptions to every rule, women dating the older man notice the higher level of respect shown to them during such relationships. The emphasis on romance overshadowing his desire to get her into bed is often more apparent. He is less likely to be interested in a superficial encounter.
3. The prospects of a long term relationship are usually very real, his playing around days are obliterated in the past. His mature mindset now focused on the many other aspects and indeed the benefits of being in an adoring long term union.
4. The older man/younger woman relationship often focuses on a man’s need to protect and show support towards his younger partner. Many misconstrue this notion as a ’sex for favors’ arrangement. Men who seek this type of relationship do not do so purely as a sexual outlet and would be offended if a woman offered sex for kindness and not because she was attracted to him physically.
5. Fidelity is less of a risk in this relationship because the man is older and has sewn most of his wild oats years earlier. He is seeking a relationship where he can be loved, nurtured and appreciated, while he has an opportunity to love, protect and honor his partner.
6. Baggage can often be a problem in any new relationship. Anyone over 35 has baggage but an older man is usually able to disassociate himself from past issues that could derail his new relationship. He is also able to allow his new partner to deal with her own issues – family, children, etc. with an air of understanding.
7. Sexually, although not quite the opportunist he used to be, his need to delight and satisfy will oftentimes be stronger than seeking his own satisfaction. He will take time to seduce her mind, his idea of foreplay has evolved way beyond ‘fumble on the couch’ status. The aftermath of those intimate encounters too will be loving and warm, with pillow talk becoming a tender part of the process.
8. Romance is an important aspect of any dating relationship, but a sugar daddy will pay much more attention to the romantic suggestion. This is not simply manifested with flowers, gifts and material things, but the hand holding, public shows of affection or little notes left discreetly for her to find. He has also learned to listen to a woman and learn what is important to her.
9. Many young women are very mature and know what they want at a much earlier age than many men. A younger woman can have a lot in common with an older man. She can hold his attention for long periods and can be very good friends as well as lovers.
10. A genuine sugar daddy will enjoy spoiling and pampering his young lover and take every opportunity available to make her feel like a princess. Not necessarily by way of showering her with material things, but generally taking care of her needs. Making her feel that she is important to him, loved.. cherished.. protected.

The 1920’s version of the sugar daddy would typically shower his young lover with gifts and often cash, as a ‘reward’ for her company or sexual favors. These days the arrangement is centered around a relationship, a solid bond between two willing partners. The spoiling, pampering and protection satisfying both his need to give, and her need to receive. This new age sugar daddy sugar baby arrangement can often develop into a powerful union of mind body and soul, leaving the conventional relationship in the dust.

Are we responsible for how our partners treat us? Can we help them learn how to open up and talk to us or do they come to us hard wired from the factory? I think we are the deciding factor in how it all turns out.

This is NOT about abuse. There is no way we can solve someone else’s anger or need for control problem. The only solution for this is to get out. What I’m talking about is warm, open communication about everything from what to do this weekend to how we like being pleasured.

So what’s up with the change that takes place soon after the dating faze is over? Seemingly all of a sudden we start complaining about the things we thought were cute before or just overlooked. So ladies, if we are the thermometers of our relationships, it’s possible to turn up the heat and get things rocking again. Look at these 7 steps and see how many you can incorporate into your life:

Get started heating things up!

It’s all well and good to know men are from Mars but how the heck does a man get to Venus in the first place?

After more than 10 years running SexyAds.com, one of the net’s oldest successful online dating businesses, Maureen Shaw had seen enough about people meeting online to write a book.

And she did just that in an ebook titled “How to Win the Dating Game – The Secrets to Getting Lucky Online” (available online at www.howtowinthedatinggame.com).

The former Floridian met her husband John through a personal ad on the Internet more than 12 years ago and this product knowledge showed her how daunting the process can be for some people. With her help thousands have met for long term relationships or casual fun.

“If there is anything to do with online dating and meeting new partners, I’ve seen and heard it all and loved every minute of it!”

Maureen says, “There are lots of relationship books but they’re not what most people need to go from lonely to that first date. Those books are what to do once you’ve found someone.”

She says the biggest secret is her ‘two-word’ miracle that she says guarantees success on every dating site.

“Write them.”

Often men will create fantastic profiles, upload entire galleries of photos, write blogs, post in forums, visit the chatrooms and then complain that they aren’t getting lucky. In every dating site there are more men than women and traditionally women wait to be invited out, so men should write to every woman that interest them. It’s a no-brainer really, but men tell her that a woman seems more sincere when she contacts him first.

“How to Win The Dating Game” features a range of practical tips and advice like this gained from years of hands-on experience and covering every aspect of success in online dating.

When you read her book you’ll learn how to pose for a photo that will stand out from the rest.

• Clean the background – a messy room says you’re a messy person
• Smile – nothing says you’re approachable and happy to be here than a smile
• Look into the lens – don’t listen to the photographers, look at that potential date in the eye!

“Your mother taught you to walk and your father taught you to drive and I’ll teach you how to get lucky online!”

Being in the dating site industry, I often visit competitor sites, affiliate sites and dating blogs just to keep up with what everyone else is doing. We need to ensure that we’re always on or near the edge of what’s happening out there. Today I strolled upon a blog by Eric Ivy called The Dating Matrix Blog. He helps men who are trying to find someone special in their lives. From a small beginning 8 years ago, he’s grown to an international consultancy that mentors men as they learn the skills necessary to create and maintain romantic relationships with women they desire.

I have to admit I was a bit intrigued. This is the photo on the site of him with that Mona Lisa type smile and his shirt is open to the third button – so he’s taken his own advice, that’s for sure!

At first I was worried that this would be another woman bashing book. You know the kind, the “treat them like shit and they’ll come running to you” books. I’ll be honest and admit that I didn’t buy the book but I did skim his blog entries and while a few entries show how he plays women like a violin, I didn’t read anything that I found demeaning.

When I have time, I’ll check back with his blog and see how he’s going. What I’ve seen, I like and in the dating business, I’ve seen a lot of crap about how to help people meet people. This one doesn’t seem crap, so if you need some guidance, check this guy out.