A university researcher recently did a study on foreplay for women. To gather her research, she had half the women in her poll watch films (at their own leisure) with sex as the primary focus, while the other half were given films that focused on romance and foreplay.

Her results were not surprising to a woman like me. The films that gave a romantic prelude to intercourse itself proved to put watching femmes more in the mood than their sex-only watching counterparts.

It’s the romance, the sensuality that really does it for women. Everyone already knows that men have a physiological response when they’re aroused by genitalia and eroticism but, for women, it’s way more emotional. Foreplay is all about letting your partner know that you desire them and find them sexy.

A big tip for men - Get women interested! Remember, what the heck is the point in even trying if a woman’s mind is stressing about the kids, wondering whether or not the dinner’s cooked, and reeling from the pressures at work? Take it from me - it’s a big ask.

Perhaps instead of foreplay it should be called threeplay.. stimulate her intellectually and emotionally and she’ll be ready for physical fun.

Guys, don’t feel left out, this sort of foreplay isn’t only reserved for women. Apparently, a bit of brain-teasing gets you all hot and heavy as much as it does for us.

A friend of mine does a bit of this. She told me that she loves to call her fella while he’s at work work and tell him what she’s planning on doing when he gets home. One time she hid a pair of worn panties in his briefcase. Remember sex starts in the brain for all of us!

There’s a court battle going on in Germany about a brother and sister who fell in love. They were separated at birth by adoption and only met for the first time after the brother searched for his birth mother and ended up meeting his sister and fell in love with her. In Germany it is against the law to have sex with a sibling and has been since the days of the Nazi party. The first time I read this I thought what many of you must be thinking.. that’s weird and it’s against the law because of the tragedies that can occur with any children from the relationship.

This relationship has 4 children. All four have been taken away from the couple and the first two have physical and mental birth defects but nobody can say whether it’s the incest factor or not.

They don’t feel like brother and sister because they didn’t know each other until they were both adults. They have no sibling memories at all.

The more I read about it, I wanted to know more about what’s legal and what isn’t. Did you know that incest is NOT ILLEGAL in France, Belgium, the Netherlands, Portugal, Turkey, Japan and Argentina. This really made me sit back and say, “hmmmm,” for a long time. Why isn’t it? There is only a 50% chance that children from a brother and sister will be normal. That’s enough for me to think it should be illegal, regardless whether they are madly in love or not.

My sympathy is certainly with them. It’s obvious that they love each other very much. The brother has spent two 2-year jail terms for violating the anti-incest law in Germany. While I sympathize with them, I can’t agree that what they’re doing is morally right.