In everyone’s life, there will come a time where he or she has absolutely nothing to do - no dating partner or close friends to go out with. Ever heard the phrases “being so boring that you can’t get a decent date” or “I will be growing old alone forever”. If you’ve ever heard these lines or even said them yourself, it’s time to take action. If you believe you’re undatable, then you are but I don’t think so. I think there’s someone special for everyone on the planet. That’s how life goes on. Believe that and you’re on your way!

You’ll hear stories about online dating being full of creepy people and in some cases that’s true but these are the same people who live in your town. You don’t go out with them and you don’t need to choose the creepy people either. I met my husband through an online ad and my daughter met her husband through an online ad. I did it back in 1994 just as the www was getting recognized as a real force in the world.

When we first started SexyAds.com we were excited when we saw the first web address on a billboard at the Atlanta airport. I said to my husband, “the Internet is going to take over the world, just wait and see.” We started one of the first dating sites on the net and here we are twelve years later and we’re still going strong. Sure things have changed, people’s use of the Internet has changed but people still care for each other in the same old way. Just the introduction is different.

Online Dating is a great way to widen your circle of friends. When I told my grown children that i found a man in Australia and I wanted to go to meet him they thought I was nuts. “He’ll be an axe murderer for sure!” my daughter said. We’d emailed, we’d talked on the phone, we’d exchanged photos and I just knew I didn’t want to die not knowing if this man could have been perfect for me. So I got on that plane and here we are, 15 years later and still madly in love. Sure we had all the common problems that communicating through a flat screen can cause, PLUS we were on the slowest dial-up connection which I must admit was the fastest available at the time. We tried live voice chat and all we got out of it was, “can you hear me?” and “nah, you’re breaking up.” Imagine how easy it is today with dating sites left and right and not only live audio chat but audio and video as well.

If you’ve been listening to those who diss online dating, it might be that they joined one once a long time ago and nobody but jerks looked at their profile and that colored their experience. You can’t join a dating site and do nothing but list a user name. No photo, no written ad, no contacting others, no blogs, no online chat or video chat, no forum posts.. how will anyone find you? Join a site and put everything you’ve got into making it the best profile you can and then stand out from the crowd. Leave those “waiting around for someone to find them” behind and make the first move. Send a comment to them or a tickle or leave a note on their blog, make a comment on a forum post that someone left, check out the chatrooms. I promise you, if it could work for a little old lady like me who found true love half a globe away, it can happen to you. Good luck!

Nobody’s perfect including in the sex department, but it’s one area where we all strive for perfection. I was thinking about what to write today when I remembered an email conversation I had with a woman recently. She’d begun a new relationship that ended up with both of them tearing their clothes off and jumping in the sack. Sounded good to me. It was obvious that the foreplay had begun before they were in bed and that’s a real plus as any woman will tell you.

She told me that the guy was doing great until he told her that he was the best at finding her G-spot. It seems that he was much better at searching than he was finding.

“I swear I thought he was digging for gold down there,” she said.

I laughed when I read that and then thought back to times in my own life when sex was less than mind blowing. Those times nearly always started with no foreplay and just rushing to my clit to get the engine primed. The truth is that a lot of women really get turned on by explicit fantasies that could start way before she ever hits the bed. Some can be romantic fantasies and others can be kinky and wild. It’s the ability to put herself in that mind fantasy that really gets her motor going.

Do women lust after a 3 legged man? Size does matter to some women but the majority of women find that how they feel when they’re with that man far outweigh any other factor. If he doesn’t expect her to look (and act) like a porn star, she’s not going to expect him to be endowed like one either.

No, it’s not. The people who think that adult dating is bad forget that sex is a part of every healthy, successful relationship. I don’t know of a relationship that doesn’t at least start with a good sex life. Sure, sex is not the most important element of a good relationship but I cannot imagine not wanting it included in a relationship I’m involved in.

I have never advocated sex with strangers or having sex without trust or love or even before marriage. That’s entirely up to the two people involved. I also don’t agree with having affairs. I think honesty should be considered and if you’re unhappy in a relationship or not getting what you need emotionally or physically, then you should try to work it out and if it doesn’t work, then you mutually agree to split and try again with someone new. These are my personal beliefs. I don’t push my beliefs on anyone but I’m entitled to my own.

Am I weird? Maybe, but I have one chance to go through life and I like feeling loved. I like being touched. I like being intimate with my husband. I’m old, I accept that, but I’m not dead, nor do I plan to quit enjoying ourselves until I check out of planet Earth.

I think it’s good that people have a choice on where to meet people. There are some people where the mere mention of sex or sexuality sends them into that forbidden zone in their heads. I can live with that but what I have trouble accepting is that the rest of us who are comfortable with our own sexuality should live our lives based upon what someone else says is wrong.

Nobody would look at people in Sweden or Norway and say that they are perverts or worse, but they are very comfortable inside their own bodies. The idea that nudity is wrong is beyond most everyone’s belief. Same with the Maori in New Zealand. Many people still bathe together because it’s what they’ve always done. So should we tell them that they’re wrong? Probably not. They’d tell us that we’re the ones with the problem.

Did you know that this phrase is the best way to get someone to like you? It says heaps about you to the other person without having to express it in other ways.

1. You want to know more about the person
2. You are interested in who they are as a person
3. You prefer to know about them rather than talk about yourself
4. You have the capacity to listen

How do you start up a conversation with someone you don’t know? Is it awkward and clumsy? You don’t have to impress someone with who you are or what you do, what’s important to the other person is how much you are interested in them.

So the next time you meet someone, open your arms, and say, “So, tell me about yourself,” and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the response. Why open the arms? It exposes your heart and to many people that’s body language saying that you physically and emotionally trust them.

I was perusing the web and found a hugely funny story about a woman’s experience at a sex toy party. She went as a friend of a friend and if you haven’t read Mir’s This Post is Rated D for Dildos you should.

If you don’t click on the link you’ll miss the “Oh Baby — more nose!” comment and “I wanna get lei-ed!” Seriously, get on over and read this post.

There are two kind of people who go to sex toy parties. The ones who really want to discuss their sexual activities with their friends and total strangers and the rest of us who go because our best friend PLEADS with us to go. So we go.

We put our eyes down so that nobody will want to know what our favorite toy is and what we plan to buy. But the number one reason I won’t go are the stupid games they play. I hate the silly games. I’d much rather have a nice conversation with interesting women. Acting like fools is ok but I’ve really got to be in the mood for that and a sex toy party isn’t going to be the moment for me.